Here you go man, this is from my teacher from when I was in college. http://www.percussion.org/docs/snaretech.pdf This is the most important stuff, and youll probably be doing it wrong, so find someone who knows how to do it. So you can figure out if you are doing it right or not. Stick control est essential.
http://www.drumrhythms.com/ <--- here you can find some stuff to start with drums http://www.mxtabs.net/drumtabs.php <---- same here, where you can also find drum tabs http://www.drummerworld.com/drummerchoice.html <---- and this other page have lots of clips of any drummer you like, kinda tool to watch and copy some stuff
Drummerworld is an excellent site!! I think it's important not to run before you can walk at the start. It's better to do the simple things well, then progress, than to make an arse of something complex! I started playing to simple stuff (from the 60s mostly), then tried to progress gradually. I think playing to records is a fun way to get some basic grounding in technique. I only started on rudiments and scores once I had a basic level of ability on a kit. The most important thing at the start is to enjoy playing, so as not to lose sight of why you picked up the sticks in the first place. Also, once you've played for a while, get yourself playing in a band (of any description). I was lucky enough to get my first kit on a Friday, then attend a brass band rehearsal on the Monday. I stayed with that band for 3 - 4 years, and it was an excellent platform from which to launch yourself onto more adventurous material. Which, at the time, turned out to be Death Metal...... Ah, the good ol' days!
for rudiments and stuff go to http://www.vicfirth.com/education/rudiments.html, basically has all the techniques there
Here's a nice site with a lot of lessons... http://drumbum.com/lessons/ I'll echo (and add to) what some other posters have touched on: start by practicing the rudiments and sticking slowly and evenly on a pillow, and be sure to *regularly* work with a metronome of some kind to develop good time. Find yourself a teacher-- it's certainly possible to be entirely self-taught, but you'd be amazed at how useful a little instruction in proper technique can be...
I'll add my voice to "go slow". Your ears and mind can process sound much faster than your fingers, hands, wrists, arms, feet, ankles, and legs can move... at first. Get the sound in your mind and then play it back slowly, as slow as you need, in order to teach it to your limbs. Kind of like skipping rope - not too many learned to skip a rope that was moving too fast to see. Once your limbs know what to do, then you can work on speeding up to tempo. And when you get frustrated, try something else, even if that something has nothing to do with drumming. Don't get burned out and bummed out. It's supposed to be FUN!!
