Whenever I'm over at my mother's house for a while, I'll watch porn and masturbate because I live in a tiny studio apartment and it's nice to have a whole big sunny house to do it in. Not only does she not mind, she almost always takes the opportunity to borrow one of my vibrators. My mother has never owned any sex toys. She says she does just fine with her hand. But I got her to finally try one of mine a couple years ago and now she uses them when they're around just 'cause "why not?" I don't mind. And happily toss her one of the two or three she usually uses. But today she pointed at my big as hell, plugs straight into the wall, Hitachi Magic Wand, which I was actually using at that moment. She asked if she could try that one when I was done with it. I said she could just take it because I have other ones and handed it over. What I wasn't thinking about is that vibrator intensity is very different for a penis than a clit. Penises get more out of vibrations that have a little rumble or movement to them. The sharp buzz of a Hitachi doesn't hit the spot on a penis as much. She does fine with the ones I think are my "strong ones." So, I don't think to tell her start out easy and I definitely failed to mention which is the low setting. Immediately, I hear her moaning pretty loud. No more than a minute later, she's yelling "Oh fuck! Oh fuck!" Then suddenly, I hear her yelp. Not a scream. A fucking YELP! Like "AHH!" And it's over. I'm thinking, "Oh, awesome. She really fucking came. Glad she liked it." But then she's urgently yelling my name. I drop my vibrator and run into her room thinking something has gone terribly wrong. She's very lightly running her hand over her vulva and looking down at her crotch. She looks up at me and asks, "Is this... Uhm... Uhhhh... Normal?" She moves her hand away and her clit was fucking GIGANTIC! I've seen some very swollen, red, beat to fuck clits in my day but this thing was the size of my thumb. And I mean her actual clit. Not just the clitoral hood. It was all swollen and totally out there. I asked if she was alright. She said it felt weird. Kind of sore. But it didn't hurt. And asked if it was OK for her clit to be that swollen? I said it's fine. I told her I get big swollen red bumps on the side of my penis when I use my vibrators for too long. That it'll shrink back down and be normal soon. She probably just came really fuckin' hard. She said she'd never had an orgasm like that in her life. With my other vibrators, she said it's quick and feels strong, but less intense than when she uses her fingers. But this was fast and totally overtook her for a split second. I apologized and explained I'd forgot the Hitachi would be different for her than it is for me. I showed her the low setting. And went back to my room. A couple hours later, we were in the living room. I was masturbating to more porn and she used it again on the low setting, holding it up high right above her clitoral hood. She had two orgasms back to back, gave it back to me and said "This one is good. But maybe too good?" I said "Maybe. But should you ever feel ready for it again, you're more than welcome to it, 'cause it sure sounded like it was worth the brief panic." We both chuckled.
I've been surprised by how many women I know don't really care for vibrators and don't own them. Between various girlfriends and friends, I've known about five women who either never owned a vibrator, or did when they were a teen or in college and now just like their hand or a dildo they use half the time or less. I thought it was just a standard feature that came with all girls' bedrooms. LOL. For real though, I did think every girl either owned one or used something that vibrated to get off until I was in my 40s and all of a sudden I started to date women or ask friends who said they like their hand much better. I only dated two woman who were utterly devoted to their vibrators. One was actually a really big asshole about it and said cliche shit about how much she loved her vibrator just to make me feel bad. But one time I fingered her she remarked on how much she loves cumming the "old fashion way." I was too surprised and had to inquire further. She said basically the same thing as my mother. And I've heard this from a few women. That the vibrator is easier. But less satisfying. And they're kind of never done. They can keep cumming and cumming and cumming. But with their hand, there's more build up. So that way, they can be one and done. I get it. I have a very similar thing. For a long time, I was consistently a quick cummer. I still can be. But cumming in less than a minute from when I first get erect and start a solid stroke, can feel just as good to me as when it takes me 2 minutes. What doesn't feel good is when I cum suddenly. That may happen just as quickly. But it's not the time I spent playing with my penis. It's the lack of a build up. When I cum quickly, I can still have a proper build up where I feel the climax start to happen and that euphoric bodily sensation rush toward my penis and get closer and closer, then BAM! The sudden ones, I'm just playing with it, or pressing my vibrator into it, while I'm still soft or semi hard and I'm not really feeling anything yet. Then with no notice or build up, I feel a tickle in the very tip like I'm gonna pee out of nowhere. Once that tickle begins, I got one second or less before semen starts slowly oozing out without any sensation of an orgasm at all. Or, there's like a faint sense of just the end head rush. But no euphoria or body rush. Those ones can be very frustrating and unsatisfying. And cause me to masturbate for hours, cumming over and over and over. Because I'll ejaculate. Catch my breath. And immediately feel like I need to keep touching myself. A porn video I watch a lot and have for a couple years, has four women masturbating together and they discuss the benefits and issues with vibrators v. their hands and one of them puts it perfectly. She says "It's like there's always a little more still in there."
I thought my mother had used a vibrator because when I was 14, my parents got a janky little back massager for free for opening a new credit card or bank account or something. And my mom kept it in her bedside drawer. I would take it and use it against my butthole while I jerked off and put it back, convinced my mom was using it on her clit. But the first time I saw my mom masturbate when I was in my 30s, she was using her hand. And it made me think, aside from when that back massager was in her drawer those couple years when I was in HS, I'd never seen a vibrator in any of the drawers in her bedroom. And I've always gone in her drawers to get one thing or another (not snooping, with her permission. Like, using her hair brush. Or having a headache and she'd tell me there was tylenol in the cabinet by her bed.) So at some point after that, when I'd started using vibrators regularly and she asked me about why I was suddenly owning all these vibrators and what do they do for someone with a penis and why do I like them. I said I'd noted that she'd never seemed to own one that I'd seen and she said she hadn't. And had never used any kind of toy of any kind. Only humping pillows as a teen and then her hand and fingers ever since. She said that back massager seemed like a piece of junk so she just stuck in the drawer not even giving it a moment's thought. So that was when I taught my own mother how to use a vibrator and showed her how I use them and why.
