When left with the choice of Bi or Nothing, what do you choose

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  1. topper

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    If you were left with this choice and had your wifes blessing, what do you choose.
    My wife gave me the ok to suck all of the cock I can, but she wants to know about it or see it.
    Do you cave and take the obvious choice?
     
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  2. Jumper58

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    I would take the obvious choice, lucky you
     
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  3. KDaddy23

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    Since you asked, topper, did you really cave? Not sure if "cave" is the right word in this context because it implies that she made you do something that you resisted doing.
     
  4. BusterHymen6969

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    I’ll take bi…. Sucking getting fucked
     
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  5. Flypaper

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    It’s not caving, it’s the golden hall pass. In my case it would be her blessing to let me get sucked of as often as possible, even if she forbids me topping anyone.
    But she’d never, because since I’m bi I’d also want to seek out women and she knows that would end well only for me, fucking and getting blowjobs with the greater metro area.
     
  6. KDaddy23

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    That would be my thought as well; I just didn't like the word "cave" in this situation. But, having said that - and reading what Flypaper had to say, if my wife were to forbid me doing, well, anything as a full-blooded bisexual man would want to do, I would suppose that would be caving into her demands and terms and it'd probably be better under those terms than having nothing or having to sneak behind her back.
     
  7. LowHangers

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    Everyone's situation is different. In my first marriage my craving to suck cock was kept hidden from her knowing she would never understand how I could suck a man's cock and not consider myself gay. My present wife is the total opposite. She was informed of and met the four guys I'd occasionally suck cock with as long as when she wanted sex that I never deny her which I never did nor would I even consider ignoring her desires. She knows that sucking cock is what makes me happy and fulfills my desires.
     
  8. Windman

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    It’s an easy choice. The bi option is an enjoyable one.
     
  9. JS420

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    Are you insinuating that if your wife cut you off and the only option that you had for sex was with another man? If so, then I don't think that's a bi option. It's more of a gay option because you would be limiting yourself to men. That being said, if I had to resort to sex with men then I would definitely do it. Although I would limit it to oral only!!!
     
  10. topper

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    Maybe the word cave was a poor choice.but I gave in to a different option. No women allowed, unless a miricle happens, but the obvious choice was doing it with a few different friends. No Regrets More fun than I expected and very exciting. Not too many options left.
     
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  11. Flypaper

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    Good for you! Does the wife ask to watch or get details of your experience?

    Once I tried to explain to my wife the pleasure I received from a male masseur and her response was simply “hmmm weird”

    We’ve not spoken of it since (ten years now lol)
     
  12. KDaddy23

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    Yeah, I remember trying to explain to my #1 poly wife why I love to suck dick and... she didn't get it. So, I asked her, "Why do you suck dick?" and she said, "Because it makes me feel good."

    "There's the answer to your question," I said. She still didn't get it.

    PS: It didn't stop me from sucking dick.
     
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  13. topper

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    My wife didn't ask, she insisted on knowing every detail. First time with our friend, he gave me a bj, but I didn't get to do it to him and she said I owed him a bj. She invited him over the following week for dinner and my opportunity to return the favor. I remember looking into her eyes, as I took his cock into my mouth. She has watched with other friends too, both being there or on video camera.
     
  14. topper

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    I told my wife that I might try it, long ago, because she looked like she enjoys it so much. She called me on it many years later and I gave it a shot
     
  15. KDaddy23

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    A lot of the guys who I helped turn into cocksuckers got to be one because they wanted to know what girls/women feel when sucking on a dick and, gasp, swallowing a load of cum. And a lot of them had to choose this... or have nothing and like the guys who had zero luck with women.
     
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  16. Flypaper

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    I took a cock in my mouth because I wanted to feel and taste it myself, no thought about what women felt when they had me in there. First time I didn’t take his load because he didn’t expect it, the next several times I didn’t take a load simply because I was selfish and waiting to get my own cock sucked.
    If the taste of cum makes the feel of a cock in my mouth even better, I would do nothing but seek out cock to suck!

    I have no shortage of opportunities for sex with women (other than my now frigid wife, sadly) so my journey of exploration has never been about not having options. It’s been to add fresh dimensions to one of the most wonderful animal urges we have, orgasmic explosions of endorphins filling our brain. That’s me, at least
     
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  17. BiGuySW

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    Bi or Nothing? That's like asking if you would rather be omniverous or starve.

    I'm glad I've been bi all my adult life and not sex starved.
     
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  18. MichaelThom60

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    With a recent gf I was with, who was also bi, we had this general rule of thumb that engaging with someone of the same sex wasn't cheating, but sleeping with someone of the opposite sex was cheating, which I kind of liked. And we were both very up front with it. She'd let me know if she was with another woman, and I'd let her know if I was with another guy, and we were both cool with it. It was basically being committed to each other, but still fulfilling our needs.

    But every relationship is different.
     
  19. KDaddy23

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    Why would someone choose "nothing?"
     
  20. topper

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    My friend remained good because he was afraid of failing with a woman, if he cheated. It surprised me when he said he was willing, if I was.
     
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