Agreed. We use a lot of lube and a prescription goop as she calls it. She is then able to accommodate me and penetration is actually enjoyable for her with multiple orgasms as well as with oral satisfaction. Similarly with my wife. She has had many large partners but he is fast and rough and while that type of activity used to be enjoyable it no longer is
Same with my wife we are both in our 70s, wasn't until a couple years ago she no longer enjoyed sex. I'm a bit on the large size but not like a few of her partners in the past. Bad thing about it is I remember seeing her take a few of those big dicks and one she really enjoyed, and if he called, she was willing. This was before we married, but I didn't like our friends knowing she was getting a huge dick.