BiGay dating? Anyone does this ? Past couple of years since becoming more active bi/gay ….admitting myself this is my path …I love to go on dates with my mm hook ups….I find it’s more hot and makes it that special for intimacy party ….,knowing the man I’m making love too…would love to get deeply connected making the mm experience that hot and wild …
Most of my gay sex adventures, in particular the first 21 years, were exclusively anonymous cocksucking in different gay sex venues like bathhouses. But when I finally lost my gay virginity, as a top, rimming and fucking another guy for the first time, the greatest sexual experience of my life that changed everything, I stopped all anonymous MM sex and just started hooking up with local guys in each other's homes using online sites and apps. Most were unfortunately one time encounters, but some were two or three times. But there was one guy who I saw many times, as we liked each other very much. Yes, we had sex every time, but we also went out on dates. He even cooked for me once (he's an awesome cook), which turned out to be a beautiful evening of sex and cuddling and watching TV in each other's arms, the first time I ever did anything like that. Unfortunately, I wasn't completely out to myself yet, not fully accepting the gay side of myself, so I didn't return the romantic feelings he was developing for me, so it didn't continue. Dammit, as I now live as a gay man, with no interest in having sex let alone romance with another woman, and I've even developed romantic crushes on a couple guys, though unrequited, but he's moved to the other side of Canada from me (I think in all honesty because he couldn't find another guy like me in our smaller community of the Niagara region, compared to the larger city of Calgary). I'm not only ready for a lot more sex with guys (I'm on PrEP now), but perhaps even love. I kick myself every day now that I hadn't awoken before I met him, because he was perfect in every way (except perhaps his really thick 10 inch cock was maybe a little bit too big for my ass, as I now want to begin bottoming as well and become a versatile lover). So there's no question, not only is being friends with a guy that you're having sex with important I find, as in friends with benefits, enjoying doing friend kinds of things with each other, but a little bit of dating is also cool. The more you accept the gay side of yourself, even while you still love being with women, the more enjoyable having sex with guys can be. That includes breaking out of our ideas of dating being locked up with straight dating, yourself with a girl. When you begin to relax and try dating with a guy, like going out to dinner together, going to the movies and holding hands, or going dancing together in a club, even a straight club if you live in a more accepting community, you take your same sex experiences to a whole new level of pleasure, because you're living a truth that's inside of you and dying to get out. You don't have to be homosexual to do this, because the bisexual umbrella can definitely include a little more closeness with a guy, without having to be in romantic love with each other. But even that can be quite mindblowing and very exciting. I can't tell you how excited I felt when I discovered, "OMG, I'm actually developing romantic feelings for this guy!" It blew me away, and made me feel really good about myself.
I've been dating and spending a lot of time with one man in recent months - we are an official couple, I'd say, after 10 months together. He is younger than me, and that has presented some challenges, gossip and inuendoes about me and him. Funny thing is, age is less of a factor than it needs to be. Some of the challenges I've faced is basically how differently we look at life - but I don't know if that relates to age, maturity, life's lessons, or if it more of a difference in personalities and backgrounds. The more significant challenges are related to his introversion and my extroversion - he'd rather stay home, and I'd rather go out. but, we've had a lot of fun, done some nice trips, had some holidays together, and mostly just tried to live our daily lives. We both have our own place to live, but we do spend the night with each other approximately 4 times a week. I wish I could give good examples of how it is to date a man - some things are just simpler - drama is low, decisions made fairly easily. It's different than when I last dated - she became my wife, and we didn't live together or have sex before our wedding night. (she should have known then that I am gay) We did it the traditional way... I even asked her father for permission to marry her. We did the dating thing. When we went out, I picked her up, and we went - I brought her home, we made out a little, and she went in, and I went home. Boy, have things changed. I had serious body contact with my partner on our second time together - and it was what we refer to as our first date. I don't think we really have had a date since. We just decide what we are doing. We have become a couple since the first week we met. We just decided we wanted to see each other again after that first date, and we did. It's just as comfortable like that. But, dating has changed for male/female couples, too. I think one of the most important things a man can do when he is interested in another man and wants to explore a relationship with him, is to just take it as it comes - let it unfold - look for signs, red flags, and understand pressure, rushing for commitment, and pushing for it, may not work so well. Just enjoy it, each time, and not look too far down the road.
That's great advice, @thepapasmurph! Thanks for sharing. I'm so happy for you, and wish the same for every man who wants it. I think I would love it as well, not just an ongoing sexual relationship with another guy, which would be wonderful in its own right, but as a couple to share more than just our bodies with each other, what I guess you and others call dating. And from what my many gay friends who are mostly all in long-term relationships with their partners say, it often happens very quickly after two guys first hook up. There just seems to be a spark that happens, where they really like each other very quickly, and are certainly sexually quite compatible. Yes, they say it mostly starts with a sexual hookup, but then grows very quickly into more. But also, not to push at all, or grasp too tightly, but let it naturally evolve. Just enjoy each other's company, and care about how the other person feels. And those that have dated women or have even been married to women, they all say that the drama is less and it's simpler to date a man. I hope to find out someday, sooner than later. Or at the very least just have a lot of fun sex with a single close male friend who enjoys some of the things out of the bedroom I enjoy. I now know that I've been waiting for that all my life--with another man. And I am so tired of the countless one time hookups, and all the effort involved in them. My sexuality, and personality, needs something much deeper.
the more i am enjoying this lifestyle like you, I prefer more encounters/dates to develop a relationship…once there is connection the sex and bonding is stronger ….the relationship and sex is intimate and passionate…, I’m also open to tell my dates that I want open mm poly relationship….as I’m seeing few partners actively n in a relationship.
You're gonna think this is funny, but it just dawned on me the difference between gay dating and casual hook-ups. I was lying in bed this morning next to my handsome, naked boyfriend, and I was so horny... and I realized that we may not and might not be on the same page here. but if I were to hook-up with someone, we would both know exactly why we are there, and we are on the same page. But, I was the only one lying there who knew for sure I wanted to have sex, make love with my boyfriend. He might be in a totally different place... so I had to say it. I want to make move before we go to work today. And I realized that is the significant difference in dating.
There is a difference indeed, I can see the difference and individuals that I had active relationships thats were more special in our dates …I guess more intimate possible live in the air…with other men …it’s more of getting to know and is this going to be ultimate sex experience or more to it ….I guess with this , through dates n sex …it can become gay dating ..depending how further it goes
OMG, taking his feelings into consideration, making requests, negotiation, compromise... you're really in it now! Lol. I'm so happy for you.
Well, speaking here as a married bisexual man...... I definitely prefer dates etc. with another man like @RisingBi. My first relationship with a gay friend that seduced me, included a lot of dating activity. We had already known each other for ten years, and he tried to seduce me the entire time. But when we became lovers, we continued to go out together as we had before, but the outings were more "gay centric" and romantic. We went to gay clubs and bars, and hung out and went to parties hosted by his gay friends. We went to gay clubs and danced together. We held hands and watched TV. He often cooked dinner for me because he enjoyed that and was an excellent cook. We slept together most nights we got together, and kissed often. At the time, and since then it has occurred to me that he was trying to "convert" me. I was fine with that and considered what it would be like to partner with him. But this was the 80's and I was surrounded by homophobic friends and family and on the marriage track wiht my future wife. I had another relationship while I was traveling for business. My work was project driven, and I would be in one place for months or more. I met another traveling professional through Craigslist. There was no Grindr back then. We met at a sports pub and hit it off and went back to none of our hotel rooms. After that date, we stayed at the same hotel, and each of us told hotel staff we wanted rooms on a particular floor and area. That made it easy to go back and forth. We were both on expense accounts and went out to dinner every night we were both there. The we went back to the hotel and slept in his room typically. We hugged and kissed and held each other through the night. He was also bi and married, but likely more gay and the marriage was a front for him. It was ironic that our gay dates were subsidized by our employers or clients in my case. But it was a great relationship while it lasted. I like a little romance before I morph into the slut that lurks within me.
Good for you to opening up to the pure gay connectedness that you found with these guys, because that kind of closeness between men brings the absolute greatest pleasure like no other. I'm sorry for the guys that can't go there because it's "too gay". Guys, just ride the wave of man-to-man feelings and let it take you to feelings and experiences like you couldn't have imagined, and fuck the labels. Just be. Be with him at your gut level. Date, hold hands, kiss, let your passion consume you. I hope, @spankablebob, you can get back to more romance and not just be a slut. It's my goal for sure.
you said it well …so true Recently the times I’m with my mm partners and specially my gay lover …the natural feeling of love and openness soooo great…I couldn’t give it in words … Putting labels aside enjoy sex purely and love for one another
