Turned on my wife cheated

My wife has never cheated on me (I'm certain), but she has been fucked, many times, by another guy, with my permission.

A little over 37 years ago, she and I were in a very active MFM threesome with a close personal friend. I was the one who talked both of them into it. (It took about a month of gentle coaxing for her. It took about 15 minutes to get him on board.) She was really nervous about how I'd react to someone else fucking her, even if I'd arranged it. However, after he'd fucked her a couple of times, while I watched, she relaxed and couldn't get enough after that!

 

It's funny how it takes a woman so long yet when they start, they can't get enough of the experience! Same with nudism. I talked to many nudist women and it was the same thing, took them forever to shed societal mores, but when they started they wondered why it took them so long.

 

I think a lot more guys get off on this than would like to admit it. My gf and I started seeing eachother and she was still seeing her ex. She didn't admit it but we both knew and both got off on another man fucking her. I used to manipulate it so I could have her as soon as possible after him.

 

A MMF threesome is the most exciting ever, even if the husband is not participating. Like I have stated communications between the husband and wife is very important.

 

Absolutely. Watching my best friend fuck my wife to exhaustion was the most arousing experience I've ever had! (The three of us were toying with the idea of it becoming a daily event, but ultimately decided it would trivialize the get-togethers.)

 

My wife and I ended up swapping with another married couple who were close friends. I thought I would be jealous seeing her with another guy but was actually so turned on watching her get fucked by our well hung friend. I enjoyed watching her more than having sex with the other wife.

 

That seems quite common. The emotional connection is with your partner.

 

My wife cheated on me just under a year after we married. Times were difficult for us and I unknowingly pushed her into exploring with an ex. We had been having issues within our relationship and she was dissatisfied. She told me she was going to lunch with a friend. Little did I know it was with her ex. When she came home hours after just having lunch I suspected something out of the norm. She was acting totally different. Shy, reserved, and guilty like a child stealing a cookie. She stayed distant from me for a few days. We went to counseling and it finally came out what was wrong. That's also when she told what she had been up to that Saturday afternoon. While not showing it I was pissed but after hearing her story and realizing I contributed, not wholly but partly, to her doing this I got over it. We didn't have sex for several weeks and it took me a few sessions on my own before I was ready to make love to her again. Once I reclaimed her pussy I felt better. I didn't get stirred up over her dalliance. It just wasn't in me to see that as a turn on. Today, I have a different outlook on life and if she wanted another lover I would be okay with it. Funny how age matures people.

 

That's getting off to a good start mate, don't push it to hard and you might get lucky "if that's what you want".

 

Did the other wife enjoy watching too?

 

A woman's promiscuity can be a very powerful aphrodisiac, as you're experiencing. It's unfortunate you discovered this was something she chose to do behind your back, however, if it was years ago, that incident is dead and gone in her mind. You attempting to revive it probably doesn't bring up positive memories for her. You do have to let go of the past yourself and move forward thinking about the future, and you must, no matter how hard, let that past event go - do it for her. It doesn't mean you cannot discuss hotwifing and vixen/stag style relationships in the future, but to achieve that happily and satisfactorily, it must be done with love, trust, communication, agreements, boundaries, and a mutual desire for it.

If I were you, I would back completely out of the situation you're in. Leave it alone for a time, and focus on and build the love and trust you still have. You'll need that to level up in the future. Reintroduce the idea sometime in the future. Focus on the fantasy and roll playing letting her know how much you enjoy it, and take it very, very slow. You may have to accept she's the monogamous type and never get past the fantasy and roll playing. It's like a drug. I know the feeling of having my SO come home with messy hair and looking flushed, her panties wet from being naughty-was like heroin, I couldn't get enough.

In your case, she's cheated on you before, so there's a possibility she might be up for it if you set the right conditions. Keep this in mind tough, it's not about what you want. A woman who enjoys being a hotwife or vixen, having lovers on the side, is one who enjoys sex, has a more liberated view of sex (confidence), and usually accepts the lifestyle to enjoy it with her husband. If she continues to object the idea, it means she wants to be monogamous with you, but doesn't mean she's not cheating on you behind your back.

Lastly, if you're not able to resolve your situation naturally, get professional marriage counselling. One of you will have to make adjustments for the relationship to be fulfilling and, be prepared. It might be you.

 

If she is now getting angry when you bring it up, and as you say it's become an "issue", the only thing you can do is give it up. Period.

I was in exactly the same situation two years ago. She'd let slip a few things about her two-year relationship with the only guy besides me she'd been with thirty-eight years ago. From what she'd said, I calculated out the number of times he'd fucked her and the total was waaay more than I ever would have believed. She was a very prim and proper, socially inept, conservatively raised girl back then when we dated and married. And now to find out she'd been 'around the block' a couple of hundred times, and in all the ways! The imaginary images were a turn on and I was curious.

But it was difficult getting little bits of information out of her and, as with you, she got tired of the questions. It became more of an anger thing for her. I was still curious, but at a point I just had to say "enough" this is all I'm going to get about that time.

That was two years ago, and I have only made a few quick references in a joking tone and then moved on. Good marriage, not worth screwing it up for imaginary images.

Let it go, buddy, stay with what you've got.