men masturbating

I have high lust since I have been a teen. I and my wife have sex 2 or 3 times a month, which is not enough for me, so, I need more sex than she to satisfy my lust. If she likes to have more sex I am ready to have sex each night.
We married 40 years ago, but I have never cheated on her. Masturbation is a personal matter for me, and I tried many times to involve her, but she denied it.

 

I’ll masturbate for my partner just hope she returns the favor and masturbates for me. Mutual masturbation is hot!

 

I've only done mutual with two women.....-a FWB and my ex wife. Current wife says she's never masturbated, and has only watched me twice.

 

Yes but sometimes it’s just masturbation.

 

True

 

Not necessarily if your bringing each other to an orgasm...…...

 

The definition of "having sex" is what you decide. Some people feel that it is only when penis in vagina or anus happens. Others like myself decide that engaging in any sex act is having sex. Be it masturbation, mutual or self, oral receiving or giving, any activity that is of a sexual nature is having sex. To me foreplay is what you do in preparation to have sex. But to each their own.

 

That's an excellent thought about foreplay. Since this thread is about men masturbating I'll share what I do as foreplay prior to masturbating. There is always something stimulating my brain pushing it towards needing sexual relief. Looking at women while I'm out, posts in this forum and others, internet material, the environment, the weather to name a few. Many things are there that ramps my thoughts of having sex. I pretty much think of sex all day and dream about having sex at night. I like having an erection and will fall asleep holding my erect penis. During my waking hours I will play with my cock at times to get it erect just to feel it grow and remain hard. (I'm doing as such as I write) Since I am nude most of the day around the house it is pretty easy to do. Eventually the stimulation from my thoughts and what I see will build to where my mind cannot hold back and I will find some private time to regain that erection. Then I will find stimulation such as porn and begin to stroke myself. Add lubrication to my cock and maybe a toy and foreplay has turned into having sex with myself.

 

Right, the way I see it sex is whatever the act is that's leading you to a climax be it a hj, bj, intercourse etc.
Using masturbation as an example if I use my imagination, play with my nipples, have a partner, porn, introduce a toy etc it's foreplay leading up to the act.
Everybody sees things differently so just continue what you're doing and enjoy yourself.......

 

Yes, you are lucky guys. Both of you know what to do. The problem is when your partner doesn't like to fallow you, so, you can't be satisfied and always are sex hunger.
Masturbation is the best way to solve the problem, and not involve to ruin your marriage life, as well as, not cheating on him or her. You can keep your sex with your partner and also have your own masturbation pleasures.

 

Sounds like the best of both worlds.....

 

Nothing wrong with that....
I know I'd get off on watching my wife masturbate or with someone else.....male or female if the opportunity ever presented itself.

 

I'll never push for it, I asked (never again) she ultimately said no so it's over. Don't want her to do anything she's not 100% behind. The only way it will happen is if she comes to me, then I'll know she's interested in the same.
I agree that it's not something you just jump into, it's got to be a slow get to know how we actually feel about it type of thing.

 

Since I am uncut, I used to just hold onto my foreskin while I came and then walked to the bathroom to let it spill out. Occasionally, let it spill into toilet paper by bed. Didn't get into using a sock until just a couple years ago (I am 49). If I am staying in a hotel by myself I will just come on myself, sleep a while, then wipe off in bathroom.

 

I never masturbated in front of a partner. WHY???
If I was with a partner, we did things to each other
I will never understand the thing of somebody masturbating in front of a partner

 

I am married and my wife is ready for sex at any moment. I just love masturbating. Well, that and the fact I do prefer men at this stage in my life but just not out meeting them. I like fantasizing about them.

 

Yes, brain fantasy and imagination are the main power of the masturbation engine. Actually, without fantasy masturbation is hard. When we touch ourselves to masturbate we think about somebody who is known or unknown, no matter who is she or he just we think about them sexuality to get on and arouse to get ejaculation. So, masturbation is not an alternative to sex. It is something else.

 

There is nothing like sinking my cock into a nice warm pussy. The last time I did that, earlier this week, her vagina was warmer than usual. It felt really good having my cock in there and the orgasm was outstanding. But masturbation is a more convenient way to achieve orgasm. For me mating with a woman needs to have things line up as the spouse is celibate. First I have to find one that is willing to have a fuck. That's not that hard but making time to meet up, finding a place to meet, getting past the obstacles such as condoms or bareback are issues to be resolved. My hand is right by my side all day. It's real easy to find my cock with it, bring it to attention, and continue on stroking to orgasm. My hand or even a toy isn't as nice as a warm pussy but neither doesn't complain, is always ready, and happily helps with clean up afterwards.

 

Or just get yourself into the right position and catch with your mouth

 

There are very few times I have spontaneous sex either with myself or a partner. Actually never with a partner these days as timing has to be right for us to get together. I have tried to "go off sex" but failed so many times. Often if I start to watch porn with the thought of just watching a few videos and then go on but I end up bringing myself off anyway. I really don't want to but I can't stop once I start.