I was just curious, did you measure it by pressing it deep into the pubic bone or just the visible length? 4.9 inches in the visible state would mean ~5.3 inches when you measure using the correct method, which is slightly above the average of 5.17 inches. If you measured correctly, it's still only slightly shy of average.
about anything over 6 inches is gonna smash her pelvic muscle. most girls don't care about the size as long as to eat her out right. lol
If you're sure that you have a particular medical condition, then it's something else other than psychological. I'm sorry about your situation.
I was devastated 6 or so years ago when my penis, which seemed very adequate for my size started to shrink and go limp. A combination of several back surgeries, Peyronies disease and weight gain (though I am not terribly over weigh) left me with a shrunken penis which could be classified as a micro penis. It affected my self esteem, my wifes and my relationship and certainly our love life. When sitting my penis head is barely poking out of my sac and when standing it pokes out a little bit straight ahead instead of hanging which tends to now rub against my pants when I walk. I have tried all the ED meds which has at best just given me a limp tiny chubby but I still get aroused and can ejaculate etc. Luckily once I convinced my wife it wasn't her as the reason I was so limp we entered a new phase and our love life has been great. I finally just decided to own it and get off on having an unusually small penis. My wife uses several toys (or I use them on her) since I cant perform (though we do a lot of oral stuff) and she enjoys teasing me about it. We even went to a nude beach on our last vacation and I survived my paranoia over thinking everyone was laughing or staring. I have been married for 22 years and my wife is very uninhibited and open minded which helps because she is also very supportive. I suggest you just roll with it and enjoy being different.
My husband is small like you. Probably the smallest I've ever had. But I can still contract and make him feel tight, just takes a little more effort on my part. We don't do insertion much, he prefers oral. I have a boyfriend who is a little about average that satisfies me with insertion. My husband is a college professor so my boyfriends are college age and I switch every 2-3 years. We are very open-minded. He will have a female during each semester that's wants some extra attention, if you know what I mean. I'm fine with that as long as he does it at home and I watch. Usually it's just oral because he is s one time guy. Occasionally he will do penetration if the girl is not very experienced. He can be very romantic and I'm with them, just talking and caressing, no big stuff. I figure that's fair since he does the same with me and my boyfriend.
I like all sizes small big thick thin as long as they get hard when I'm sucking them and they can fuck my holes I'm happy
Make sure she gets hers (preferably before you get yours) and it's all good. Make them orgasm and penis size isn't a big deal. Remember clitoral stimulation is the key.
I'm not too blessed and all through my growing up years I was self conscious of it. It kept me from participating in sports in school, trying to not take gym class and passing on sex with dates before I met my wife. Through our early marriage my worries were for not. My wife found me quite pleasurable. She informed me many times that because of my size it was not only more comfortable for her but we were able to do things that she might have been unable or uncomfortable doing if i was larger. Later in our marriage we started practicing nudity at nude beaches and resorts. I realized I wasn't the only one not blessed.