Are Relationshps Even desired Anymore

Once bitten twice shy a few times and you know the reason why I question relationships. It has been over 19 years since I've been in one. Two casuals and absolutey zero fireworks same span of time.

I need a great connection to feel much of anything, so heart matters, mind matters, trust matters, being committed to type matters ... Whatever it may be. Whether monogomous or polygomous. I myself was always into monogamous relationships, but then I also find other woman to be highly desirable. I think sometimes people just need more and this is true for many, both for males and females.

If it were possible to do casual only and be able to get under a great vibe I would. Relationships have been disasteous in my past, so I typically shy away from them ... Unless I'm so damn inspired by or intrigued by or unless I have my remember when's or wanted to way back thens but didn't mindset on me.

I don't know how to convey how absolutely jaded iveI become over the span of my life, yet I still crave a woman's touch like my life depends on it. I don't but I NEED to feel a womans presence just the same. Fake people fake intentions and dishonesty has me avoiding tje simple pleasure of finding beauty and sensuality in a woman's form, scent, voice, and sexuality.

 

yes.

 

Sorry.... I don't recall.

 

I could barely understand the last two paragraphs in the OP.

I wouldn't know if relationships are less desirable than before. Though i feel as a person grows and matures the less desire or need for friends and relationships. More time and energy would likely be spend on whatever their true calling is in life.

 

I desire a true and lasting type of relationship. IveI tried casual, but it does not suit me.

The last two paragraphs are a reflection of my past, how the relationships went and ended. I guess we learn a great deal over the years. Not just just about ourselves but about others too.

I have no idea how my next one will be, or how the relationship will turn out. I enjoy simple pleasures too. Like laying around on a couch together, cooking together, and things like that. There's comfort and an intimacy present in them, but I also find great pleasure in more physical activities.

Time apart is necessary too, and being able to trust each other without having to wonder or needing to question the commitments made between. Honestly, I'm a one woman man. Two sometimes seem appealing but only in the sense that I need my partner to be satisfied on every level.

I don't like being jealous, so I could only handle more woman in a relationship that involves more than two. Is that too honest?

 

I owe a debt of gratitude to my life/relationship coach whom has changed me forever.
I've been taught to live in abundance with women and relationships.
It works for me and I love it.

Women I'm in relationships with (friends, friends with benefits, potential girl friends, and women who are chasing me ) are alot of fun.

I never thought my life would be like this widowed at 45 and starting my relationship life over at 47. Exciting times I'm in.

 

Very impressive. .That's awesome.. That's quite an admirable achievement. You'll be a great catch when the right woman comes along. .I send you all green lights. .
Sierra

 

Exciting times are great when pleasant. I'm not sure how my day is gonna go every morning I wake up. It's still exciting, mixed with a lot of wtf am I gonna do's. So I just keep on going. Friends are few for guys like me, yet I still know or at least think I know that they're around.

Do I walk alone? I think yes and no. Do I enjoy my life? Sometimes, but not like I think I should. I'm an inverted type of extravert still learning how to break out of my "prison" and enjoy life the way I think I was meant to enjoy it ...

Like the times you seem to live in, I'm looking for my own abundance of happiness and joy and peace. I guess I'm still on a journey of self discovery, still learning how to obtain happiness in life. Moments matter. Living in the moment isn't always my best choice, at least until I get where I need to be.

Hope for the future, mixed with enjoying the moments between now and the next, coupled with an understanding of what I need to obtain my abundance of happiness in living. I think a life coach could be a great thing, but unless a person finds one who truly has that person's best interests in mind, and the needed know how to guide and lead, the
ife coach experience wouldn't be as beneficial as I would think it should be.

 

I spent just shy of 7 years in my first marriage, another 7 years or so single, and another 20 years with a woman who had me fooled. I've been alone for over a decade, but not lonely. Good burn, that last one, and she may have cured me of relationships altogether. Sex is another matter. An old friend asked me if I ever feel lonely, and I told her "No. I feel horny, but never lonely." There is a difference. Anyone can ignore horny, but almost nobody can ignore lonely for long without suffering severe side-effects. If I feel loneliness at all, I probably don't recognize it as such. Oddly enough, I had a recent conversation with my ex and asked her if she knew anyone who ever moved in together or got married so they could practice celibacy and she told me that she'd never thought about it like that. I advised her that, if she didn't wish to keep experiencing failure in relationships, this would be a good time to think about it, as she was doing the same crap to her current bf that she did to me, and getting the same predictable results.

So, to answer the op's question: No, I don't think relationships are desired. They do appear necessary, however, if you intend to engage in sexual activity, so you'll have to consider whether they're worth it to you or not. I haven't dated or had sex with anyone in 13 years, and darn little while married before that. While sex is part of a relationship, I also require integrity, and that is seriously lacking in most women and men I'm aware of these days, rendering relationships worthless to me.

 

I'm an extroverted type of introvert : )

 

I'm a fucked up type of introvert.

 

How long is a piece of string . Not everyone wants a relationship . Some people just arn't cut out for a relationship . Many others like a relationship as it offers stability and a base to start a family with.

 

I desire the relationship between my girlfriend and myself to work out, because I find it to be desirable.

 

Yes, plenty of people still desire them.

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Oh well done. I was failing to find the words to express this sentiment.

If not my current partner, I wouldn't have a desire to be in "a relationship", but I might meet someone I desire to be with.

 

A little country a little Rock n roll?

 

At one time I wanted one. Anymore I think to myself there's no way in hell it'd be worth it. At this point, I'm so damn jaded it'd be easier to get me to charge a bull head on than even want to get close to anyone again ... Much less sex. I'm done with sex too. I prefer to walk alone at this point and live best I can until it's my time.

Too much bs after the facts and a whole lot of ungratefuls after it was already said and done. Im not sure how else to put it. I'm done trying. I'm done waiting. I'm done desiring and I'm done even wanting to see what I once called eye candy. I'm done. Life's hard enough. I'm better off alone, in the woods hunting, gathering, and growing my own food. I don't even think I'll grow anymore weed. I'm done ... Done ... Done done done.

 

I think lots of people still desire to be in a relationship deep down. Even the ones who say they don't want anything to do with love and relationships at all. Lots of guys don't want to be in relationships because they have porn and video games as an escape. They feel a sense of achievement in video games by beating new levels, so they don't try to get any achievements in real life. They also get plenty of sexual satisfaction in porn, so they just stay in front of their computers all day, rather than pursue real women. Some of these guys are saving their money for sex robot dolls that cost tens of thousands of dollars, because a real woman can be too much work, drama, and headache. Not to mention that a woman could make a false accusation about him in court about domestic abuse or rape, and completely ruin his life on a lie. Thanks to the gynocentric court system. It's so bad here in America, that if my girl and I ever got married, and she decided to divorce me, I'm literally going to burn down the house, give the car away to my brother, take all my money and flee the country. No joke. This is why many men are afraid of commitment to a relationship, and would rather fulfill an addiction to porn and videogames (or a sex robot). And it's tragically sad as well. For women, it doesn't help them at all that modern-day feminism keeps telling them that career life is more important than family life. And that males are disposable. So they'll be spending their most fertile years being successful career women, sleeping with men without any commitment, and she'll be left childless and out of time by the time she's in her 40s. She'll look at the financial success she's had, and still be without a good man in her sad, lonely life. Thus she regrets her life choices of never considering a family and marriage while she had the chance.

So yes, I think thanks to politics, the media, entertainment, porn, and propaganda in general. Love culture has totally fallen apart in this country. It would be nice to get it back up to 1950s level romance culture once again.

 

No worries, we believe you would consider and actually do such a thing

I think most of the men who go with these resorts don't do so out of fear of getting financially screwed over if a relationship ends. A significant amount of them simply are so bad with female relationships they settle for a life without. Others only want a relationship with a woman because of sex, and they can't or won't deal with other facets in a functioning relationship.

 

I want more than just a relationship. I want the whole ball of wax.