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Fuck tact

 

Tact is useful when dealing with delicate and sensitive people...if you care about such things. It reeks of polite society which I think is bullshit.

 

I mean, tact might be useful if you needed to tell your grandmother that the back of her dress was wet after she'd sneezed... Most people and situations aren't that delicate, though.

 

My wise old granddad once told me, “Tact is telling someone to go to hell, and making them happy to be on their way.”

 

Not sure if this is an observation or opinion but Tact doesn't translate well over the internet.

 

I find myself agreeing with both points being made. Maybe it just depends.

Instead of getting into a word war on here, it’s probably a better idea to just log off and take a break. Breaks are good. If you’re getting that upset or investing that much time on here to the point that you’re getting depressed/angry, it’s time to take a break.

 

I wasn't really talking about the internet, but in general.

People do indeed often say "I'm just being honest".
No, you're being an asshole. And even worse - an asshole that apparently can't think of a smarter or wittier way to get a point across.
Hey, you can even tell someone off without resorting to malicious insults in a way a bitter ex lover would do.

 

There is a difference between being honest and simple, and being overly simple. Both include being simple, one can include a lie of omission or a misleading lack of nuance.

 

Interesting...

The cascade of tact talk here had me focusing on the internet.

 

Not a particularly unpopular opinion, but being very tactful is such a useful skill.

 

An unpopular opinion - I think in general, not just on here, some people might actually disagree with the herd, but they are too afraid of being shunned or not liked, so they just pile on. Meh, better to be disliked for who you are, than adored for who you’re not.

 

Indeed, like when one is busy farming and some interested but entitled consumers drop by

 

Herd mentality isn't an admirable trait in humans.

 

We've moved on.

 

I think it’s instinctive in some ways but it seems to cross over into people just wanting to be accepted rather than actually agreeing with the herd. I’ve noticed on here, if two people have a disagreement, whoever is the least favorite of the herd, will get piled on. Name called etc. But the person who is more of the favorite of the herd gets automatic agreement even though their view has less merit.

Humans. Disappointing at the end of the day lol

 

Funny, at first one might assume I'm advocating being simple and direct (in sending an interested passer by on his way instead of showing him around as a farmer), and RH argues for being tactful and spend some time on said visitor

In all seriousness: being tactful and being simple, direct and honest are obviously not nonexclusive

 

I never liked clique behavior with children. I think it shows an extreme lack of maturity in adults.

 

Have you ever read about that experiment where they have one participant sitting in a waiting room filling out paper work? The room slowly begins to fill with smoke, as if there were a fire.

When the participants were alone in the waiting room, they reported the smoke or tried and leave the room quickly 90% of the time (within a few minutes).

Then they ran experiments where the participant was in the waiting room with two confederates (folks who work for the people doing the experiment, although the participant just thinks they are regular people). In this part of the study,smoke began to fill the room but the confederates just sat there as if nothing was happening. In this situation, the actual study participant continued to sit in the room as it filled with smoke 9/10 times.

It makes sense from an evolutionary standpoint that we tend to follow the crowd--most of the time it is a useful tactic that can save our lives. But it has its faults, too.

 

Simple, direct and honest, yet tactful

Case closed!

 

Lol, not me!

I'd get up, go to the reception window, loudly announce "Something is on fire. I'm getting out and I suggest everyone else does, too!".