The camaraderie among men

Is this a " How can I pick up women" or a " how can I pick up Guys " Thread ?
If its about making friends then gender dont really come into it most of the people I get on really well with are of the opposite sex ! don't think I make friends easily though so maybe my opinion is not valid

 

It's not about how to pick up guys, Mally. The OP is talking about missing out on the opportunity to have male friends and bond with in a macho sense. I read through it first and understand what he's getting at. There's things guys can talk shit about and laugh thier fuckin asses off that women don't get, and women will say the same when it comes to bonding with other women. Trust me, if it was about picking up guys, I wouldn't be here at all.

 

Sometimes attitude or mindset has little to do with it.
If at a certain point in life, like 30+, you and your friends went different ways (moved away for work or love, or got completely diff interests, or one goes straight edge and can't not be a dick about it, etc. etc.) a guy who used to have a solid friendbase can suddenly realize, hey I have no good pal to go to the bar with anymore, or even not one for chilling with on the couch or porch. Just some aquaintances or a bearable neighbour at best. And realizes they are also not in the same easy position anymore as earlier in life when friends were almost automatically made.
In such a case a man may know what he needs and/or wants, just not exactly how to get it. After all, you also don't wanna come on too strong to a chill dude you maybe talk with at a concert or when chilling on a parkbench, radiating vibes like 'i need friendzz and chose you..!'

 

So its too late ? Think he should go back to compiling
Me at 34 and single ?? I would be trying to shag myself into an early grave !!
Something you learn as you get older

 

No, not too late at all. Just saying some guys seem to know exactly what Junkai needs or should do. I just think he knows what he wants and needs very well already. But knowing what you want and getting it are 2 different things.
But to be clear: its far from too late or impossible.
Guys who have a solid friendbase from youth til old age (esp. when its the same friends) are simply also kind of lucky

 

That's me. I'm fortunate to have that. Still have friends from elementary school and high school I'm in touch with on a regular basis.

 

Yes I think you are very fortunate ! there is no one in my life ( besides family ) that I still have contact with , that I have known for more than ten years

 

That's not to say I didn't have some good friends I really did we just lost touch !

 

I understand, man. I value my friendships, especially if they are really good genuine folks, I make the added effort to stay in touch.

 

This thread reminded me of this vine:

 

Okay, so I've read the original post and most of the replies here, and I know I'm a bit late in joining this conversation but bear with me...

In my case, and I'm a guy here, I've always had both male and female friends. I have three best friends right now, two female, one of whom I call my girlfriend, and the remaining one male. For me, I've never, ever become bitter toward women even though I've had my share of rejection and whatnot at the age of 40+. In fact, I'm one of those people who actually need friendships with females. I think my guy friends are fucking awesome, don't get me wrong! But friendships and romantic relationships are two different things as far as I'm concerned. There's something that a female friend can offer in a friendship that a guy friend can't quite offer, and that's what I appreciate.

Mind you, my female best friend(that one that's NOT my girlfriend) can be more like a guy friend in a way than my guy best friend is at times in terms of how she perceives and handles various life situations, while my guy best friend can sometimes act in a non-male way(super yielding and submissive), though, he's definitely a guy with guy tendencies when it comes to perceiving women. But that's okay. I'd rather my guy best friend remained that way than to have him fall into either side of the spectrum in terms of how misogynist or radically feminist.

I guess I have it easy because I have guy friends. I even met up with one of them today because he was playing a show and wanted me to come see him perform. Well, he's a musician. When I'm in my hometown, I often hang out with my guy best friend, or my other good friend of many many years, or enjoy coffee with all these guys whom I've known for almost 20 years. But that can get boring, so we really like to just meet up as friends regardless of gender. Without revealing any real names, the typical conversation would be like:

"Oh hey Samuel, how's it going?"

"Not bad man, Tara is coming here(coffee shop) soon."

"Oh cool, I'm meeting up with John here myself."

"Hey that's sweet, what you guys up to later tonight?"

"Not much man, how about you?"

"We're going down to such-and-such place to watch the fireworks, you should come!"

"Sounds like a brilliant plan! Let me call Kate, maybe she wants to come, too..."

"Well hey, speak of the devil, she's right there across the street coming towards us"

*laughter ensues among everybody*

That's kind of literally what my friendships are like with the people in my life.

 

Neither. If anything, I expect to pick up some enemies.

Oh yes, it does, for me. I've had many many female friends, and trust me, it's different than with guys.

Well, aren't you lucky, then !

 

^^^ Wise man, this one. It's just like he said.

And BTW, if I wanted to pick up guys, I'd have no hesitation in saying so, just like I wouldn't hesitate to say I'm gay if I were gay. I'm not a homophobe like a lot of guys who think that wanting male friends is being gay.

 

Yes, dudes tend to drift apart, usually due to work or a woman/kids.

 

It seems that the harder I try to shag myself into that grave, the less luck I have.

In any case, I've taken up wanking as a hobby. Shagging out, wanking in.

 

That's ideal. I wish I could have done that, but at the age of 18, I moved to the other side of the world from where I grew up, so I left those friends back in the dust. Talking on Farce-book doesn't cut it for me.

 

LOL......



Cheers Glen.

 

Whoa, thanks for the detailed post. Will take some time to read and reply properly. Will edit this post.

 

Has anyone here watched the movie "Third Star" starring Benedict Cumberbatch ?

It's about 4 guys who're close friends on a camping trip. That movie says more about this subject than I ever could.

 

Neither of the following words fully defines you because you didn't even read my post in which I mentioned I'm straight.

homophobe

[hoh-muh-fohb]
noun
1.
a person who fears or hates homosexuals and homosexuality.

ignorant

[ig-ner-uh nt]
adjective
1.
lacking in knowledge or training; unlearned:
an ignorant man.
2.
lacking knowledge or information as to a particular subject or fact:
ignorant of quantum physics.
3.
uninformed; unaware.
4.
due to or showing lack of knowledge or training:
an ignorant statement.