Following my previous light hearted reply LOL. That is how it should be. When you talk about your feelings in advance, clearly you are both in the 'mood' and you both end up feeling happy and fulfilled. It is mostly when it is the wrong time of the month and the woman feels obliged to meet her partners demands that thing end up as a disappointment.
That is because you communicate and have a good relationship. It should be the same for everyone, but some people are real idiots when it comes to lovemaking.
It used to be a regular occurrence when my wife and I started our relationship. It hasn’t been simultaneous in at least 25 years. I’m NOT complaining!
Most of the time we manage to come either together or very close...i.e. one sets the other off. Simon