oldwolf's Blog

Wandering On
Waves spiralling
Crashing the shores

Being
Connections
Coalescing Wholeness

Individual strivings
The Work
Growing - Learning

Yearnings
Reverend Embracing
Peaceful co-existence

Love

It matters not so much what you do
For everything that is done is in the lap of Time
And it too shall disappear

It matters O so much more what you become
For this claims it's mark forever
And Changes all that will Be

The doing is important for without Action the intent is not True
What gets accomplished is the Growing within
And it matters not the ventures success or failure

We are here to Learn and Grow
Those that do not have lessons repeat
Those that do - Grow into the Beyond

Time to take off the dark glasses and come to the realization - that there Are others out there - who have not only gone before you, but some even traveled more darksome paths to get here than you could even start to imagine on your most depressed day. My own route was very inside, but fellowship with those on the other side made it not too onerous. We Walk and Work together and with others to try to help those that would - help themselves. Empowering the individual. And so few will want it, let alone give their lives to It. It must always come from within. For without the individual building the fire that will consume them into the change, stepping off into the abyss, the fool does not get to Travel ..... Ah but what an adventure.

So - do not give up on yourSelf, nor even the world - for there are some she holds within her that are willing to go the distance and step into the Beyond..
Synchronicity recombines possibilities to give us choices that will always lead us Beyond - we must make the choice and step into the unknown that beckons and calls to us from within. Follow your bliss find the vision imprinted within
Be Still, Listen, Pay Attention , And - Act.

Blessings along the Way
- the lessons we Learn

Namaste (my spirit bows to your spirit)

(a wee edit - this was written long ago to my children as they came early to the time when they made their own choices)


Lessons

By the actions we take we choose the lessons we learn.

At a certain point one must go beyond the known, beyond the safe, and venture into the territory that encompasses the individual life. To do so nesecitates going on one's own.

As a parent one tries to keep the aspirant on the Path of easiest growth, i.e. the Path which will, with least hindrance, bring one to optimal growth. As a parent one must let go, and indeed even seem to push the offspring on the Path of their own choosing, when it becomes obvious that such autonomous choices are being made.

As the aspirant first goes on their own, a safety net is provided, with time the safety net is pushed away and refused. This is a period of transition. The student chooses autonomously yet tries to remain enfolded in the cocoon of safety that was once part of the guiding parents responsibility to offer. There is both a pushing away and a nostalgic grasping for that which they can no longer have. It is not possible to make one's own choices and duck the responsibility inherent in the choosing.

During this period of transition friction between what the parent wants for the aspirant and what the aspirant chooses for himself become apparent. If the parent pushes their will on the aspirant there will be rebellion. If the aspirant tries to hold the parent in the place of responsibility when the choices are their own, then resentment ensues. Eventually, both must let go.

Often letting go has the appearance of rejection, and to a certain extent it is. The aspirant does reject the guidance of the parent. The parent does reject responsibility of the choices of the aspirant. To NOT offer that mutual rejection causes a unhealthy dependence that inhibits the further growth of both parties. Any lessons learned under the cloud of that codependency must be relearned over again as a responsible individual. Most lessons hit harder the second time around.


Watching a child go through the necessary steps to follow their own Path often involves watching them throw away what the parent thought were their best choices. The child wants protection from their choices which can no longer be given, the parent wants to direct the choices of the child and can no longer do so. It is important at this time for the parent to let go of their own aspirations for the child AND stop taking
responsibility for their actions, so that the child can get true feedback on the choices they are making ; and for the child to stop putting expectations on the parent and move on to their own life - apart from the parents. Realization must be made: nobody loses, everybody wins.

How do we judge what is best to do? Look to the heart. Learn to Listen. Any time we cop out, any time we take the easy way, any time we do not do what we Know is needed; we are Not following the Heart. We are Always given an Answer If we ask. As we follow up on what we are given, the Way becomes clearer; and often we are able, after a time of Doing that which we Know is "right", to See why we are given the tasks that take us where we begin to realize we wish to go.
Even as constantly following the heart leads us to the Path that is ours, and becomes the Joy of our life; so also Not following the Heart leads to confusion, hurt, anger, blame, and eventual rejection of all that is offered us. Life is Good though and at any time we can suffer a realization, become enlightened (however temporarily) and change; or slip into backsliding and regress back even further than we were before we came into this life.


By the actions we take we chose the lessons we learn.



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Lover ..... Friend
Friendly lover
lovely friend

where's your focus
who/what Are you

Sex is nice
But it is Not what it is all about

So if there cannot be friendship without sex -
What kind of friend Are You

When we relate to this life as a temporary place -
And recognize we go On
then we See that sexual /romantic relationships are
But the intermingling of spirits as they pass

To hold on and possess does no one any good
All changes and the best we can do
Is hope for the best for each
To wish the passing Self be all that they may Be

Grow On my dear friend grow On
Love remains forever true -
I shall not turn my back on you - or you - or you

Honoring Connections
Honoring Change
Living with what is given

Loving
With an Open hand
Both to Hold And to Let Go

Love Is - whether you embrace it or not is the question
And if you try to limit it ...... ? Do you win ?

Love
IS

Blessings to all

Namaste
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