Sloppy Seconds

What does sloppy seconds mean?
Sloppy seconds also refers to dating someone after they’ve just broken up with someone in your immediate social group.

Sometimes, it refers to having sex with someone who’s just finished a sexual act with someone else.

I have cruised a number of dating and/or hook-up websites in my days. I am amazed at the number of sites there are for gay men that have participants who are unhappily married. This is particularly distressing with men who are 70+ and who make it known that they are more interested in sex than their partners.

As a rule, I don't have 'relations' with men who are in a relationship. Even if they state that they are poly-amorous or in an 'open' relationship; I try to be respectful of the other person on whom the cheating occurs. I don't think it makes me a virtuous person, rather it goes back to the golden rule. Whenever I had been in relationships to which I was committed, I did not look at others.

These days, I'm not sure what it is people want. I'm not interested in living in a family-type lifestyle. I think I would do better in a commune of introverts. Good luck finding such a place!