Meeting My Match

Eh... it's not so bad. You get used to it.


Just stay the fuck off my lawn.

 

that's exactly what I sound like, even at my young age. I sound like a cranky old bastard, just kind of by nature.

 

I think I have a way of making sure anyone who shows interest in me is more than just physically attracted to me. Let's say she approaches me by saying, "you're cute!" Or something of the nature, I can reply with, "how many fingers am I holding up?" If she gets the number right, then next question will be (this will also be the first response to any other approach), "who put you up to this, and how much are they paying you, because, it ain't enough." Then if she claims no one put her up to it, then say, "oh. Well then, You're seriously lowballing yourself, girl. You have to be more than desperate to settle for my level. That's just lazy. No, when you settle for my level, you've just given up completely. Do yourself a huge favor and try at least a little harder than this." Any comments about me being even remotely attractive, I can say "come on, quasimodo was twice as attractive as I will ever be. How is this not registering?" If she still goes for it, then say, "then the only remaining explanation is that you're Looney! You may want to get a checkup. You'll know you're cured once you no longer find me attractive." If she still goes for me, then it's probably worth a shot at that point.

 

Posts like that kind of give away you are telling fibs about the aspergers

 

Actually, that's a common characteristic of aspergers, low self credit. Also, I still have aspergers and always will, I've just been able to overcome some of the setbacks it presents. Spend a day with me, you'll notice I still have social awkwardness issues.

 

Low self credit?

Tell me who told you that, or where you read that

 

You could just say "thank you" and go on about your business. Most times they'll just leave you alone afterwards. The rest of what you typed is just unnecessary.

 

Posts Like That Make Me Worry That More Than Aspergers May Be Present.......



Cheers Glen.

 

Yeah, but there's no comedy in that.

 

The person who diagnosed me with it. Can't remember her name, I think it was Renee.

 

No worries, I've always been that way. Used to be worse, and I actually believed some of it. Now i still believe things like I'm not attractive (im not ugly, but I'm no Lyle Waggoner), but most of the self putdowns are mostly for the comedy content (whether or not it's very funny, it's funnier than saying I have my own beauty). That, and the less credit I give myself, the happier I am with most outcomes, and my expectations aren't as high of anyone else either. You see, it's not harmful to me in any more ways than it is helpful.

 

After thinking for a while, I realized that much about this member and his posts rings true. We have 2 families near us with sons suffering severe Aspergers and although they are now in their 30s, neither of them have any conventional interests in members of the opposite sex. Me, being me, I am quite happy for them to come into our house, where they enjoy our large garden and the company of our cats. Their approach to other people has often frightened them and police have been called on a few occasions when they have approached children, but fortunately we live in a nice area and once people understand their problems everything is OK. Unfortunately, in other less rural areas around London, sufferers end up in semi-secure council care. The other thing that adds authenticity to this guy, is his liking of not wearing shoes unless going out away from their home area, which due to their lifestyle is quite rare. I had never given any thought to the questions raised in this post, but somehow they ring true. Sadly, I don't think that he is going to find any help here and should discuss his situation with people who have expert knowledge and can offer him the best advice. Another interesting point that I have just realized, is that both the guys who I mentioned spend a lot of time on the internet and in writing, few people would have any idea what they are like in the flesh.
Their is a possibility that this guy is a troll. If he is, he should be ashamed of himself for faking such a difficult condition.

 

Well, I'm not faking anything. Spend a day with me, you'll see I'm not faking any of this.

 

I personally did not think that you were faking, but a few people have been making troll posts over recent weeks and my last comment was aimed at them..
I hope that you read the rest of my post and find a solution to your situation. Your mind works differently to most people and relationships are based on friendship. Am I correct in thinking that you also enjoy the company of animals, particularly friendly cats.
University will give you the opportunity to make friends within your study groups and after spending time with the right girl, your feelings may slowly develop, but it will take a lot of time. You may find a person who is happy without a physical relationship, but people like that are quite rare. Just keep an open mind and enjoy your studies, but do not get depressed simply because your feelings differ from the norm.

 

Well, yes to animals, but I like dogs more than cats. I like cats, but dogs, wolves, foxes, and other canines are my favorite. Not much depresses me anymore. I did once go through a suicidal phase, when I was getting in trouble (with my parents, not the law) all the time, and I just was sick of causing everyone so much grief, I almost ended it, but then I realized that I would be leaving too much behind, and couldn't do that to everyone. After that, I became quite the comedian, and still am. If anything, I'm more anxious than depressed.

I also have accepted the fact that it will be very difficult to find any woman who will be willing to marry me without sex. Although, who knows, I may be such a turnoff in on that way that she will want me as a companion, but be so turned off by me that she'll never want to do it. But if I never find asexual love, maybe I can get by with dogs. They are, after all, a lot cuter by nature than any woman I can meet.

 

Never say never. As you study, you learn new subjects and develop your knowledge on others. In time and with the right person, your feelings of sexuality may also develop, but it will take years, rather than weeks or months. Forget all about it at the moment, since worry will hinder any natural changes.

 

you're absolutely right, worrying won't help. But that's how I've always been, I think way too far ahead into the future, then start to worry about the things I don't know how I'll handle.

 

I hope that my comments have helped. Too many people today feel peer pressures to dive into a sexual relationship with partners who they share little in common with and with the help of the internet and porn, this ends up as being seen as normal human behavior. Many of these relationships fail within a year. When friendship develops into love, things are very different and couples often spend a lifetime together. Hopefully, one day this may happen to you and you will look back at all your current doubts and anxieties and smile.

 

I probably will.

 

that post is more like a way of making sure anyone who shows interest in you will never speak to you again.

i get what you're trying to do, but self-deprecating humor only works as an occasional clever comment. going on and on like that just comes off as a self pity party.