Hello and thanks for stopping by... I have a dilemma that I'd like to get advice on if possible. I'm a 22 year old married girl, with a rich love life and I'm someone who truly loves sex, maybe even more than my husband, even though he for sure is a very horny man <3 But our biggest problem so far is that no one has never been able to make me come, and neither has I been able to come from just normal masturbation... I'm very into BDSM and we also have obvious BDSM-elements in our sex life, but I have so far only been able to come from watching or reading reeeeally dark stuff. The darker the easier basically. While I was single I could come many times a day from reading certain porn. It's no match at all as soon as it's enough dark/sick or whatever you would call it. But elements that dark isn't really possible to have in real life. So I don't know what to do, he doesn't know just how dark the things are that turns me on, and it's hard to talk about it because I don't want him to think that I enjoy his domination over me in an unhealthy way. Idk, he don't want to hurt or humiliate me too bad, and neither does I want him to, but imagining someone doing that is the only thing that has proven to take me over the edge so far. So what can I do??
while you are having sex with your husband imagine in your mind a very dark side sex act with a very evil person.
Someone that has a gambling addiction, how does that person themself know whether the thrill comes from winning big or from feeling alive at the risk of losing everything? Or option number C: Either or both scenarios happen; they win big or lose everything and they still dont know why they do it, because it has nothing to do with either This is a lie
If it bothers YOU, see a therapist. If you simply have shame about him knowing, stay quiet. Or, you could communicate. If he's on board with BDSM, you should be communicating.
