Falling In Love, But Not Having Sex

Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by barefootconservative, Jan 22, 2017.

  1. barefootconservative

    barefootconservative Barefoot for God

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    I am planning later on in life to get married, but I have never wanted to have sex, it's revolting to me. What are the best ways to keep my testosterone levels at bay when I meet that special someone? Don't answer with chopping off my penis, because I'm not doing that.
     
  2. GLENGLEN

    GLENGLEN Banned

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    Just Be Patient And Carry On With Your Life.....I'm Sure Eventually You Will Meet The Right Man..... :biker:



    Cheers Glen.
     
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  3. barefootconservative

    barefootconservative Barefoot for God

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    But I'm a male, I am asexual, meaning I have no sexual orientation. I simply want to find love, later on, of course, and due to my conservative society, should marry a woman, but I want to keep sex out of my life.
     
  4. morrow

    morrow Visitor

    Your 17 years old, give it time, it will all become clear very soon!

    Why are you even here on hip? So you never look at the sex side of hip? Not even a little look?

    Go work hard at whatever you do for a few years, you will be just fine!
     
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  5. Eavesdrop

    Eavesdrop Member

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    I hate sex. I'm too old to marry you but you can come over. I will make you a cookie dough smoothie.
     
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  6. Piaf

    Piaf Senior Member

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    Interesting.

    What do you expect from a marriage?
    Would you like to find and marry an asexual partner, or do you think you will have sex when you get married?
     
  7. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    i joined hip in 2003 and it was probably not until 2009 or so before i paid any attention to the sex part. even then, i only ventured over there because traffic was down in the better parts of the forum.
     
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  8. pensfan13

    pensfan13 Senior Member

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    That's like baking a world class cake then taking it out of the oven and putting it in the garbage.
     
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  9. barefootconservative

    barefootconservative Barefoot for God

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    I am trying to keep sex out of my life.
     
  10. barefootconservative

    barefootconservative Barefoot for God

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    no, smoothies are gross. Plus I'm 17, I have a while before thinking about marriage, but I have already set on keeping the sexual aspects out of it.
     
  11. barefootconservative

    barefootconservative Barefoot for God

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    cake makes you fat anyway.
     
  12. barefootconservative

    barefootconservative Barefoot for God

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    no, I have never been interested in sex. And I am working hard to become a musician.
     
  13. pensfan13

    pensfan13 Senior Member

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    And sex keeps you fit.
     
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  14. Lady Shadow

    Lady Shadow Art is But a Shadow of the Divine Perfection

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    Eh, when I was 17 I wanted to fuck everything. Now I want to fuck nothing (somedays it still fluctuates).

    Time changes your aspects in life, wants, goals, careers, partners, even sex.

    You're 17, honestly you don't know shit yet.
     
  15. Eavesdrop

    Eavesdrop Member

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    I'm 46 and I have never, ever wanted to have sex.

    You don't like either smoothies or cake? There is seriously something wrong with you.
     
  16. OnaQuestfortheD

    OnaQuestfortheD Neither Hip nor For 'em

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    If sex really revolts you, then there should be no issue "keeping your testosterone at bay". If, however, you're just lying to yourself and denying your own carnal urges... that's something you'll have to work out on your own.
     
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  17. barefootconservative

    barefootconservative Barefoot for God

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    No, it really is revolting to me. For several reasons.
     
  18. JoeyM51

    JoeyM51 Currently locked in chastity for the last 4 years.

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    To be truthful, I was never in love without having sex. Most people do not know that sex releases the hormone Oxytocin whose job is to emotionally bond the couple together. With sex you lose out on the same hormone that bonds a mother to her child. I have had plenty of sex without love but not romantic love without sex. For me, sex is part of any adult relationship. Without sex you have the kind of love that you have for a family member.
     
  19. Candybuttons

    Candybuttons Sweet Member

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    There must be others out there like you, maybe you will meet one. You might have to put an online ad or something stating what your looking for or else you probably won't find someone that doesn't want to have sex.
    Have you thought about seeking therapy? I'm guessing something really bad happend to you to cause this. I'm sorry...

    Good luck to you!
     
  20. GLENGLEN

    GLENGLEN Banned

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    I'm Only A Few Days Off Turning 70.......And It Still Hasn't Become Clear To Me Yet......[​IMG]



    Cheers Glen.
     

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