Introducing Toys

Discussion in 'Sex Toys' started by Lvlygrl, Jan 21, 2017.

  1. Lvlygrl

    Lvlygrl Members

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    Do you use toys with ur partner during sex, and if so, how did u introduce it to u r partner or vice versa and what was the reaction?
     
  2. Jo King

    Jo King wannabe

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    I bought her a vibrator for valentine's day.
     
  3. drumminmama

    drumminmama Super Moderator Lifetime Supporter

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    Please type words out. This isn't a text platform.
     
  4. Lvlygrl

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    Really sorry, I didn't know it bothered anyone. I'll start typing out my words.
     
  5. drumminmama

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    Thanks!
     
  6. Jo King

    Jo King wannabe

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    Wouldn't it be Thank you?


    I jest
     
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  7. Irminsul

    Irminsul Valkyrie

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    Much appreciated bro.
     
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  8. drumminmama

    drumminmama Super Moderator Lifetime Supporter

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    Of course you are. You are always jo king. ;)
     
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  9. PeterF

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    Do not use yet, but intend to.

    The approach I am considering is offering my wife a vibrator and see how will she react to the gift. :)
     
  10. Lvlygrl

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    how many men or women do you know that have been offended or disgusted by the idea. That' the only thing I'm worried about. Other than that, I say bring it on.
     
  11. TripleT

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    Everyone is different, but I imagine more couples have some sort of sex toy than do not. I guess it also depends on our age maybe. For mature married couples, it's maybe more normal than for a younger couple that hasn't been together for long.

    For your first time, I would suggest something small and unimposing like a bullet vibrator or something similar as opposed to a huge dildo that might make the guy feel inadequate.

    If he has any doubts just let him know that this is only to enhance sex and definitely not to replace him. Someone said give it to him as a Valentines Day gift and that is a pretty great idea. Just tell him you bought something for "us" and can't wait to show him later. Maybe by some nice lingerie as well and make it all part of the same production.
     
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  12. olderndirt

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    I asked my wife if she was interested in trying a toy, and she was willing to try one. I bought my wife a vibrator. She used it alone, but she liked it much better when I used it on her. Over the years, we have tried different sizes and types. So far, she has enjoyed having vibrators and dildos as part of our love-making adventures, but we don't use them every time.
     
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  13. Arlene Foxy

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    I received a Dildo from a male friend as a gift when I was experiencing marital issues. And the one evening after a heated argument my husband stormed out to the bar and I ended at the same friend who gave me the Dildo. Nevertheless he used it on me or in me rather and did so for a few months till I got back with my husband but I still have it and the memories of my friend.
     
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  14. Daretobare

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    We have tried a couple different toys through our marriage but they never did much for my wife. I dont think she had the mindset to want to enjoy them. She did have a little pocket size vibrator that she would enjoy if I used it on her clit. Dont thonk she ever used anything on her own for masturbation.
     
  15. Lucky Lovers

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    Yes we do. How did I introduce them? I asked her. We're recent empty-nesters who have quite the awakening in the last year. I had accidentally discovered a bullet vibe about a year ago that she had owned a very short time. I found it exciting that she was enjoying her body as I had been enjoying mine several times a week. During some pillow time a week later, I brought up the bullet vibe. She was embarrassed at first but I reassured her that I was glad she had it. We used it that night. That experience opened up our new life together. We began discussing our goals as a couple again and the communication has been liberating. I asked her if she'd like something besides a bullet and we started searching -and collecting- together. Vibes for her. Vibes for us. Vibes for me. Toy pillows. Sometimes we play with them together; sometimes not and sometimes she plays by herself. None of them are a substitute but will absolutely enhance your experiences. Don't be afraid guys and gals, you'll be glad you did.
     
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  16. Pete's Draggin'

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    Do you use toys with ur partner during sex? Yes
    How did u introduce it to u r partner? I told her I wanted to watch her get off with this toy (the magic wand )

    What was the reaction? She obeyed and had a gushing orgasm.
     
  17. silk896

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    Suggest the idea, but do it together. There's a heap of online stuff so you can avoid the embarrassment of personal shopping if that may initially be too difficult.

    One hint. The big mistake a lot of guys make when buying penetrative toys for their wives/gf's - especially the first one - be conservative in size. She'll want something that's comfortable and easy to use, not some huge thing that is going to be a struggle and make eyes water.. Together you can work up to those if you're so inclined.
     
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  18. Panama Jack

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    As a senior couple and empty nesters too, we include toys in our sex play time. But not always. Sometimes we even include some porn. Masturbation is a very important part of our sexual health. So toys provide stimulation when we are not doing oral or fucking each other which happen 3-4 weekly, We love to watch other cum. We have a WeVibe, bullets and cock rings with a vibrator to hit her clit on the in stroke. We are very open with each other and no subject is off limits, so I guess it just happened. I am 63 and she is 58.
    We like to discuss issues that effect senior sexual health.
     
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  19. gpc2012

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    Don't be surprised if you get an answer something like this Oh no I only like the real thing. I been working on my wife for quite a while and finally came up with getting her a heated vibrating massage wand that I can use on her back when it hurts. Women that have had kids sooner or later have a sore back. Then you give her a couple massages that are only so so. When you got her hooked on them and she suggests her leg or feet or somewhere smaller let her know that the large cumbersome one that plugs in is really hard to work with you need to get one that is battery operated and then either get her involved and hope you can lead her down the path of what you want or at least something that will double for that and then work on her back lower and lower the backs of her legs then the insides of the thighs as you work higher she'll probably relax and you're in just go easy and sooner than you think she's going to want one that is strictly for her and you to enjoy and play with
     
  20. JoeyM51

    JoeyM51 Currently locked in chastity for the last 4 years.

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    I have three night table drawers filled with sex toys. My wife goes through vibrators every few months. I also kept an emergency vibrator for my wife, one for our girlfriend and another for any other female guest I may have. The rest of the stuff is mostly BDSM gear. If you watch enough porn you will notice that some of the girls have a vibrator next to them. Almost every woman I knew, said that their most intense orgasms were by using a vibrator. It never bothered me because I cannot move my tongue 1,000 times a minute. :)

    If I bought something new I just asked my wife or my girlfriend or both, to give it a try to see if any of us liked it. I will not lie. We had a lot of expensive sex toys that were used once and never again but we eventually all had our own favorites. I believer that great sex comes from great communications. Nothing sexual embarrasses me and I had no problem just showing the toy to the girls and asking them to try it. Worst that could happen is that they said no.

    Right after we got married my wife ran into an old friend. Upon hearing who my wife married, her friend exclaimed, "You married that pervert". Some liked toys and some did not but I never wasted my time on women who were not sexually adventurous so I only wanted the kinky girls anyway.
     

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