Between me and my partner this has came up many times about us involving another man during out intimate time , does anyone have experience or advice for or against this?
I agree with morrow and F6C, if you haven't done it before you really don't know how you're gonna react or how your partner would react. Check out the local swinger clubs and from there see how the both of you feel and what step you 2 should take next. Good luck.
Hmm...so it's cool for you to have sex with another guy, but not cool for him to have sex with another woman? IMO...it's both ways or not at all. Resentment is the obvious result otherwise, even if you don't think so now.
My advise is to maybe find someone you already know and try it with the stipulation that you can stop it any time when any party involved say to stop. This of course is after much discussion between you two about how you think that you'll feel, about if it might lead to one on one swapping and of course why do you want to do it in the first place. My wife and I discussed threesomes for nearly two years before deciding to actually do it. When we did, we selected a male that I had worked with and known for several years. My wife was exhibiting an attraction to him anyway, when ever he was around. Everything worked out fine and we were together off and on for ten years. (There were others as well.) We did a couple of FMF's but only with my wife's close friends and/or classmates. She was afraid of suffering jealousy so we limited doing them. I loved the MFM's and discovered I had latient Bi sexual urges. Never did anything on my own but enjoyed the threesomes to the fullest!!
I have shared a girlfriend with other men and watched my wife make out and have intercourse with other men early in our marriage. My wife did not enjoy it so we stopped. Instead she liked to share me and that went on for 30 years. Lucky me. Whenever you invite someone into your sex life you are taking a risk. It is advised to do it with a stranger that you will never see again, like on vacation. Wife sharing is a mine field with more mines than fields. Plus you never know what will happen during the MMF threesome. Your wife may get carried away and forget you are there, allow the other guy to do things or do them to him, that she would not do to you. She may experience a higher level of sexual pleasure that will make sex with you pale by comparison and spend the rest of your marriage thinking about the other guy to get herself to orgasm when making love to you. You can have all the rules you want but once emotions take over, the rules are just false protection. I fell in love with one of the girls I had sex with after one night. I left my wife for her but came to my senses after a month and went back to my wife. None of our friends who shared their spouses had a long marriage. Most often the wife or husband would fall in love with one of the people they had sex with and run off with them. I did it so I cannot say not to do it but just know it is a big risk. Once done you can never take it back. My wife told me today that she wishes she never had intercourse with anyone but me and regrets doing it. The best advice I can give you is to try to find a long married couple who are sharing the wife. They are as rare as hen's teeth. Most of the posts you read are guys living their sex life online. Porn is not a reflection of real life. They are paid actors and even the so called amateurs are doing it to produce a film. Ever wonder who is taking the pictues and video when the wife, her bull and husband are all together? Notice that many have the wedding ring on the wrong hand or if you watch enough wife sharing porn you will recognize the same motel and bedspread. Most women have an engagement ring and wedding band but in most porn you will only see a plain wedding band. One time I saw it fall off of a woman's finger because it was too big and it was supposed to be a real wife sharing video. You may even get jealous. Once I had a husband watch me have sex with is wife because that was his fantasy. He freaked out and left with his wife as soon as he saw that his wife was making love to me and not just laying there and letting me pound her into the bed like you see in porn. Also, large penises are hard to come by despite what you see in porn. They hire guys with large penises. Other problems that happened to us are dealing with phonies online, guys who think your wife is their girlfriend because they had sex with her and try to contact her behind your back. Guys show up drunk, stoned and unable to get it up. Some smell and are very low class people whose only good thing is their large penis and all they do is pound into your wife with no technique. Once my wife ended up all bruised after sex and she did not even have an orgasm. We stopped doing this after seeing all of our wife sharing friends get divorced. There is also way too much bareback sex in porn. In real life it is dangerous to go bareback with guys who have a lot of sex with different women. I got an STD from a wife or all things. She did not know that her husband was cheating on her and he gave her the STD that his girlfriend gave him. No one is safe, married or not. The reason it is exciting is because you get aroused by porn but in real life jealousy rears its ugly head quite a bit even if you think you can control it. Sex with my wife after she was with another guy is exciting due to what is called sperm competition. That is somewhat generic as men tend to thrust harder and deeper to displace the semen in their wife. Others think their wives are more valuable because others desire her and yet she comes home to you. Some just want a live porn show where the actress goes home with them. All too often the guy is treating his wife as a sex object to feed his sexual fetish. If he truly believed that his wife deserves more sexual pleasure than he can provide her, he will not impose any rules on her like no overnight stays, telling him what she did, etc.. Proceed at your own risk and note that sex therapist do not recommend having a threesome with a friend. That is more dangerous because an emotional tie to them already exists and can easily advance from friendship to love. I have seen this all too often. One of my girlfriends was seeing my friend behind my back after a threesome and caused us to break up. Ask yourself if it is worth it or best left as a fantasy. My best friend hurt my wife and treated her like a slut. When I told him how much he hurt my wife physically and mentally, he just shrugged and turned his back on me. A valuable life lesson I learned was that when it comes to sex, do no trust your best friend or your wife/girlfriend 100%. Wives tend to meet men at work or through you. That is what happened to me a few times.
I also couldn't agree more. Choosing a very close male friend to be the "other guy" in our MFM threesome is absolutely the only way that it ever could have taken place.
my boyfriend only share me with his brother and father. when younger my dad shared me with his friends when drunk.
