I Can Only Orgasm To Lesbian Porn, But I'm Never Attracted To Women In Real Life? (Female Here)

Discussion in 'The Orgasmic Experience' started by goodwin76, Sep 27, 2016.

  1. goodwin76

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    I've only had two partners, one was only twice for my first two times. The other I was with for four years. I never had an orgasm with either of them. I've only ever been able to orgasm while masturbating to lesbian porn, specifically strap-on. I can't orgasm unless strap-on is involved, i.e. I won't orgasm to lesbian oral sex or grinding. When I'm masturbating, I love the idea of being with a woman and seriously consider doing it. But once I orgasm, I'm no longer interested at all and only think of men. In my daily life, I'm only attracted to men. I only have romantic feelings and desires towards men. The thought of performing oral sex on an attractive man sounds pleasurable to me, but the thought of performing oral sex on a woman nauseates and disgusts me a lot.

    I experienced pleasure with my former partner, I just never orgasmed. Sometimes I wonder if it had something to do with him because he couldn't stay in one position for longer than 20 seconds without cumming and also never lasted more than a minute or two with breaks. But that doesn't explain why I can only orgasm when fantasizing about women, not men. A lot of times I will fantasize about men and get extremely turned on, but I have to switch to the strap-on fantasy to actually orgasm.

    Can anyone explain this? I would love to orgasm another way. I feel it would be more satisfying.
     
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  2. morrow

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    Tsk! Let's get popcorn! Then enjoy the show!

    Read the forum!
     
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  3. Clementine89

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    I like men, I don't think I'd ever be able to have a relationship with a woman, although I'd like to at least have sex with one to see how it is, but I have a "similar" problem when it comes to orgasms.

    When I watch porn I really enjoy seeing naked women, small to normal sized boobies, I like their shaved pussies, etc. but what gets me off is when I see them having anal sex, or even better, double penetration. It is not something I'd wish to do but it is so dirty that it really turns me on.

    Why this happens? No idea.

    Maybe your partner should get help if he always comes that fast. Have you talked to him about that?

    Feel free to send me a message if you'd wish to keep talking about this privately =)
     
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  4. bridd567

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    I told my boyfriend about me being turned on by lesbian porn and touching myself to it. I'm glad I am not the only one!! Ive always been attracted to men and have never been with a woman. I starting watching porn with my boyfriend and he saw how turned on I got when I watched girls have sex. .. which led to sex

    I can only cum when I am rubbing up against him. I've tried other ways and didn't cum but I think it takes patience -no matter what position. And really letting yourself go ~ and being RELAXED. that's so important. It's weird how much faster I cum watching porn vs sex but I think it has to do with being 100% comfortable and relaxed
     
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  5. VerySexual

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    Comfortable and relaxed is very important. They say our brain is the greatest sex organ. Go with whatever turns you on.

    Do you use toys when masturbating? Cocks and fingers just can't achieve 10,000 rpms! I met this one woman who was not orgasmic. I was determined to figure out the riddle of her pussy. I finally helped her achieve repeatable orgasams with an eight inch vibrating dildo and a vibrating egg. It works everytime for her and she doesn't need me to orgasam. It's fun when she orgasams while we are fucking and I grind my pubic bone against hers with the egg placed on her clit. That's a winner! (Yes, I delay my orgasam as long as it takes for her to cum, but it's worth it to pleasure her.)

    Sexually? ...nothing is dirty. Go with what works for you. Find a partner who will help you figure out your deepest desires and celebrate them with you.

    Be good to each other.
    V/S
     
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  6. bigbootybrebrex

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    maybe you feel like you want a man because that's how women are programmed. its in our DNA. I too, had my first orgasm on my own. I thought I couldn't while having sex with myboyfriend I really thought something was wrong with me. but I bought a vibrator, and decided to explore myself, and honestly that's the best thing I ever did. now I know what I like and my boyfriend knows and its not a problem anymore. Girls rarely have an orgasm through inner course, it may feel really really good, but It just doesn't always do the job. You have to be stimulated and he has to know what hes doing.

    now for the porn part, I too sometimes masterbate to lesbian porn. just because its something different. I have had a girl go down on me, and it felt good and was a good experience, but I probably wont do it again. Every girl should try it once! its something different, and girls are so delicate and smell good. now I couldn't imagine having a girl shove a dildoo inside of me it just doesn't seem natural, but some people like to just fantasize about things and not actually do them. If your getting off to it, then why not try it? who knows you might like it. But youll never know unless you try. Is it abnormal? no. I sometimes fantasize about getting tied down and raped but I don't literally want to be raped its just a dirty fantasy. everyone has them. if you think going down on a woman is gross, which I do too, then don't do it. But I thought giving head was gross but I love to please my boyfriend and now oral sex is my favorite part! but you really wont know unless you explore. explore for yourself and find what you like! good luck
     
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    averageguy6 Average Ordinary Guy

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    I'll join.
     
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  8. heynonamenoname

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    Hi goodwin76, I am experiencing the same situation and feeling terrible about it. Did any of the suggestions in the comments helped?
    Thanks.
     
  9. iamjustme

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    I don't think this is particularly that rare. In fact I would wager it is quite common.
    Many women never orgasm during intercourse. And cannot achieve orgasm without doing it themselves.
    When I have watched porn with someone I long ago noticed they were far more turned on seeing a girl masturbate or lesbian sex than watching a guy get a blow job or fucking.
    Women are 100 times more beautiful than men, so why not?
     

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