See, I told you you would say that, I wasnt there, so I dont know And when he threw you up against the wall, were you scared?, how scared? Less scared than you should have been? relative to any other girl in that situation, you dont really know If I dont know, and you know, becuase you were there. Then tell me what exactly was going through his head at that exact point in time when he threw you up against the wall. The phobia in homophobia means fear, its not the same as being scared, what was he scared of On the outside, he would have looked aggressive and angry, and you will just assume that for decades after, but what was going on inside his head, what was he scared of? What inside his head made him a scared little boy? He was always emasculated around your mother, and I doubt she's gay. Its got nothing to do with you being gay Your stepmom is a lot more homely, non confrontational and even subserviant than your mum right?
Actually, that's not what I said. What I said was, you weren't there, so I find it funny that you're so sure there's some gray area being overlooked. I was shocked. I was surprised. I was hurt. But I wasn't scared. I was sure he wasn't going to beat me or anything. Where are you getting that he was emasculated around my mother from? Be specific please. No, not at all. Why?
Well anyway, go visit him. Even if its just that he really hates dykes for no apparent reason, so fucking what? How does that really impact your life? You probably would have whittled it down to one visit a year anyway even if none of this had happened. Tell him to grow the fuck up
I'm working on it, VG. But reaching out to someone who hasn't spoken to you in 15 years isnt easy. At least not for me. Despite that, I'm not ashamed to say I miss my daddy and love him very much. But this is going to take time.
7yrs of hipforums has told me that using the word "daddy" is frowned upon. That's what I call my dad. I don't get why that's so weird but whatevs. I have a good relationship with my father and I type daddy too and these guys will conjure up nasty things about you. Like this dumb ass thing where they think I'm secretly attracted to my father. And it's been going on for years now. Because we get a long fine and I might be the favoured daughter that somehow made me gay and attracted to my father they try to convince me. All I have ta say bout it is, if the first thing that pops into your head when you hear the word "daddy" is something sexual, then your mind is in a garbage can and you watch too much porn. :d
I'm doing that Ancestry DNA thing, and secretly hope that the results reveal that my family of origin really isn't my family of origin. I should get the results back in like 6 weeks. ETA,my mom has always been loving, but my dad not until like the past two years, was really very loving. Just a stoic strict Italian man and threw money at me maybe thinking that was his way of showing love? Idk, but never know. maybe I was switched at birth at the hospital.
Well, people on Twitter lost their shit because Ivanka Trump referred to Donald as "daddy." But I agree...if that's the first place your mind goes when you hear the word daddy, you're fucked in the head.
Dad have no eyes. Shades. Who is? Bad ass. ha Mom most beautiful woman in world. Dad went war, Vietnam. Came home. Where mom and dad? Freaking everybody out. Vicki and Arlyn
Oh come on! Seriously So someone isnt normal if they think Ivanka and Donald together isnt weird and creepy? (and in both directions) Those two are weird and creepy together
Mother and father are fine but I don't really associate with any of the extended family. Moms are just all Republican and clueless as to how the real world works. They know I smoke pot, I don't cut my hair, I spoke up about Bernie Sanders. Overall we just agree to disagree but they are nice people. Dad's side are a bunch of manipulative losers who have taken advantage of my dad his whole life. There was a lot of pressure from his parents to help them some sort of Catholic guilt. My toys would be taken without me knowing so my uncle could throw them away a week latter when his step kids pissed them off. They took even more of my parent's stuff and mom was thrilled about that. Even though my dad was expected to take care of his siblings I was not wanted because my mom is not a Catholic and they are. Looking back there was so many rude comments and tension with my mother that I did not understand as a child. The last time I spoke to my "grandfather" before he died he asked who it was on the phone. I told him and he hung up. This was on Christmas dad begged me to call and he died a few years latter of lung cancer. I felt nothing for that but I did feel bad that my dad felt bad. I guess he probably did not want to talk since several years prior he punched me on Christmas. I was a smart ass teen who was joking I did not like my Hanuka gifts to my cousin who is the only friend I ever had in that family. He sucker punched me across a table and a nice meal on it screaming "you little shit if you were my kid you would get worse". Like I said Catholicism is very important to these people. He was likely drunk. When the family my father included tried to separate us he punched my dad maybe on purpose maybe just because he was drunk and swinging. I probably would have hit him back had it not upset my dad. The man was old I am sure my teenage strength could break his bones. I also had about 5 inches of height on him too. He got me because I was sitting. I was a VERY different person back then I would never do it now even if he hit me but back then all I remember thinking was how angry the whole thing made me. How I wanted to say "OK let's hit you won't get up". I don't know why I was even at this gathering my dad probably begged his dad for me to come. I have one uncle who went to prison for attempted murder of his meth lab partner. The car bomb did not go off I guess. But I did not learn this until I was a teenager and he just showed up. I guess this one was also terribly mean to my dad growing up. Like not just typical big brother abuse but enough that him being out of prison was enough for my dad to stand up and say OK I am not going to help him. I have not seen anyone from the family in 10 years and I don't plan to change that.
I noticed how fucked up families very often produce fucked up people. Me, I like to stay away from broken people and families.