Is Your Partner Open For Threesome?

Discussion in 'Free Love' started by Naughtymaiden, Jan 14, 2015.

  1. Naughtymaiden

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    If so, did you have to talk them into it or where the open to it from the start? Recommendations on how to discuss it without forcing the issue?
     
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  2. Irminsul

    Irminsul Valkyrie

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    You tell your partner;

    I am interested in having sex with other people. I do not want to alarm you nor cheat on you as our relationship is too important to me. However, if it something you have thought of also, or would be interested in experiencing a social sex life, I would like to do this together, as a couple so that we can both experience another person together.

    They'll either be distraught and offended or they'll be excited or intrigued by the proposition. Social sex isn't for everybody or every relationship. But the positives are just that.. Positive. I know for my relationship, I believe that adding extra partners into the mix is often a strengthening or bonding, binding of our relationship. Bonded together strongly enough that the thought of others doesn't have an effect on our relationship. I'm not the only person that'll tell you this, but it might be one of the few stories that seems to genuinely work. :D

    If it's something one partner desires I think it needs to be expressed but in doing so there needs to be a boundary where if it's a no go zone, you shouldn't feel resentment for your partner but I think the suggestion coming out in the open is a mature aspect of the communication within said relationship. :)
     
  3. Just_a_woman

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    Hum... open to the idea, my husband is. But I know he prefers to have sex with one woman at a time, so, we don't pursue threesomes.

    In lifestyle clubs we've had orgies, but that is different very different.

    I think the best way to make it happen (or at least try) is to talk about it openly. If your relationship is one of love and trust, you can talk about everything.
     
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  4. Running Man

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    My wife knows that I would love a threesome with her and another man. She will fantasise about it but doesn't think that she will ever do it (sadly).

    I'm not trying to force the issue but she knows I've had threesomes before in a previous relationship and that I'm keen for us to have one because it's the only thing that I've experienced with another woman that I haven't with my wife.

    For now, I'm just hinting and hoping. Fingers crossed.
     
  5. Jonny718

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    Yes, I suspect this will just remain a fantasy idea for us both (me more than my wife)...!

    I love to describe what I'd imagine doing in such a situation, but often think that the reality would be far from how I imagine it....!
     
  6. Running Man

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    I also love to describe what I'd like us to do but, in my case, I think the reality would be exactly like I'm imagining; that's why it's a little bit frustrating that, at the moment, she doesn't want to give it a try.

    My wife knows that I've done MMF threesomes before we met and everyone was different.But everyone, without exception, was fantastic in every respect.
     
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  7. Running Man

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    MMF threesome = Fun, Fun, Fun,

    It's just simple maths!

    (With an awful lot of sordid steamy sex too).
     
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  8. jimandjan

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    I had been in several mfm threesomes. They were not planned things just happened. Only a couple of these were in commented relationships. They were late 60's and early 70's. So most were like the free love, that was taking place in the younger generation crowds. All turned out good, with only minor differences. But yes I think married couples should talk things over.

    For us we done the soft swing with one couple several time, then decided to go full swing. We talked it over and wanted to give it a try. For me I figured it would be just couples, but the club allowed singles. So this lead to our first threesome, where I had to share my gf. This was the first all out threesome where all 3 of us were in bed. The guy was experienced, and had done this many times. So he kind of took charge and helped us get relaxed. My gal was relaxed, because she had been with him once before. I was the nervous one, but things worked out.
     
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  9. Backdoor gal

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    We,ve had many 3somes. Being swingers we always wanted 4somes. But there are so many single guys, none to no single fems. So we had to mmf just to get some action. But only with guys we know and regulars.

    Talk about all the what if,s and how you will really feel afterwards, and if you have one slight dout, don't do it.
     
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  10. buzzgunner

    buzzgunner 180 grains of diplomacy Lifetime Supporter

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    My wife and I were in an MFM threesome with a very close male friend of ours, for about six months, many years ago. It took me about two months of very careful discussion to talk her into it, but she really enjoyed herself once we got started.
     
  11. Running Man

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    Nice one buzzgunner.

    I've been suggesting a MMF threesome to my wife for about three years and although she will talk about it, she's not ready to agree to it yet!

    I really wish she would as I'm hungry for her to take two cocks!!
     
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  12. Open2

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    I am trying to convince my wife to a MM F threesome, while we're having sex I express how I would like to see another man undress her suck her breasts finger her pussy and pleasure her in a new way.

    She always says no, since she's not interested. But if I put on threesome porn she gets right into it. I think she's nervous that she would like it more than she expected and should become a hot wife. not that I would completely object, as long as were always doing together.

    Any legitimate ideas on how to move her from this position into one that is accepting and willing?
     
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  13. Wizardofodd

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    My wife is not down for MFM threesomes. She's happy with what she has and doesn't want to do anything that might screw it up.

    But as far as bringing it up....I'd just bring it up. If you can't even bring it up for discussion, you probably shouldn't do it at all.

    I can pretty much say whatever I want without worrying about pissing her off. We were very good friends for about 7 years before we took it to the next level so that probably helps. Nothing I say will come as a shock to her and honesty and trust are the reasons we are so open and/or blunt with each other. So I probably do get to say things that would get some other husbands in hot water.

    For instance...I've posted this before....a very hot friend of hers was getting divorced and when my wife told me about it, I said "Perfect! Now that she's single...tell her I want her to come over and let me bang her in the ass while she eats you out!" My wife rolled her eyes. I said I was serious. She just laughed and said "Oh...I'm sure!" Well....yeah...of course I'd like to fuck your friend! Do you know me? :)
     
  14. iamjustme

    iamjustme Wishful thinker HipForums Supporter

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    Unfortunately my wife's sexuality and mine don't match.
    I can separate romantic love/devotional love and sex. She cannot. It is an unfortunate part of our culture...very unfortunate.
    I like having sex with my wife of course, but I also have a sex life (of sorts) outside of our relationship.
    Everybody, especially men, masterbate - but alone and always-always when they are sure no one will be coming home anytine soon.
    Not me. I have had online sex several times and recently began broadcasting myself masterbating on cam sites. It is a great turn on and you can meet other people with similar interest.
    With considerable sadness I am afraid I will live out the rest of my life not having sex with anyone else...which sucks.
     
  15. thedope

    thedope glad attention Lifetime Supporter

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    Is it a matter of parts? YOu are hetero then
     
  16. sandybrooke

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    Do the two of you ever discuss your masturbation fantasies? If so, is this one of hers? It was with my wife & I and we spoke about it while fucking. I say fucking because making love & fucking are two different animals. Making love while telling a woman how beautiful you find her is wonderful, fucking her & telling her she's a party slut with a cock in her mouth while you slam her from behind is pure lust. Draw it out of her, it can be fun!!
     
  17. Anonymefleur

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    I have offered but my guy doesn't want to do it. I was never much into it, because honestly who would like to see your loved boyfriend screwing another girl in front of your eyes, even if you are participating. I mean I was mostly offering for him because he has crazy friends that try and talk a lot. He said no to it and i am fine with it. So i guess my point is, not everybody is open for a threesome.
     
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  18. olderndirt

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    No, she would not commit to a threesome of either type.
     
  19. Yogamat

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    Can I ask,why bother being in a permanent relationship with one person,and possible complications of a threesome or whatever,when you could be single,and do what you want with whoever you wish without any explanation,guilt trip or whatever?I knew of a couple who were swingers.To start with,all seemed fine.But after a while,the guy started having breakdowns,guilt trips etc,and was it really worth it?Do you think people expect too much from sex?Is it an addiction to some?To people enter into threesomes etc because they're bored?
    I have to be honest and say if my husband suggested a threesome or whatever,I would object and suggest he find another partner who could fullfill his wishes (and end our relationship)
     
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  20. New and Shy

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    My husband and I would NEVER consider a threesome... The closest we would get is a toy in the mix. We actually joke about how awesome it would be if we could live in Star Trek (don't judge me lol) and have threesomes with a holographic image of myself or my husband... If I could have two, or three of him... OMG... Three holes, no waiting...

    But in reality, I could never have another man touch me or another woman touch him... Nope. Never.
     
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    Neither of us wants to share each other. Personally I like the intimacy of one on one. Have I thought about it? Yes. Do I want to? Maybe. Will I? No.

    We're a team. We've talked about it and both agree we want to stay a two-person team. We like it this way. We're happy with it.

    ETA: But hats off to those of you who are into it and have a partner who's into it. Whatever works for you and your relationship is the way to go.
     
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