Do you care what others think of you?

Do you care what others say/think about you? Personally i do not care because we have one life so why should i waste it on others to like me(like many people on this planet) instead of living who you really are.

People say i'm strange all the time,i just started my first year at high school and most of students there say i'm strange because i'm a philosopher,i have weird curly hair,i act strange,talk about topics no one talks about ( life,existence,....).

I don't get why are people so afraid to be different? It's not insane to act crazy its insane to act normal


can you share your views on this and can you tell us your view why it's bad to care what other think of you

 

it seems a lot worse than it really is because of your age. high school kids are usually afraid to be different. i'm sure there's a reason, although i don't know what it is. in a few years though, a lot of them will start to become individuals. some will never grow out of it, but a lot will.


as far as the question, i can almost guarantee that most people are going to come in here and answer "NO!" but that's rarely true. you shouldn't worry excessively about pleasing others, but what others think of you has a very real effect on your life, so unless you're in a depressed state where you just don't give a fuck what happens to you, you should care to an extent.

for example, life is so much easier if your boss doesn't think you're a piece of shit. no, he doesn't need to be your friend or anything like that, but getting fired because he thinks you're stealing, for example, has a significant effect on your life and you should have some sort of interest in such an event.

 

No. I got called a witch a few months ago because I was wearing my black clomping boots and long black victorian style coat. A couple of years ago I would have been really embarrased and probably too scared to even dress like that. I let them know that I would do some witchy voodoo magick and curse them. Awkward that they are my neighbours though, they wont even look me in the eye because I am that 'different' to them..

Also, I dont care because....whats the point? Half the people that judge you dont play a part in your life anyway.

 

well, the question wasn't "do you care what every single person on the planet thinks of you?"

you don't care if your daughter hates you?

 

I think it matters when it's people you have respect for and who's opinions matter to you.

Kind of like when a drug addict says "i dont care what people think or say", when it's their friends and family who see them fucking up and on a downward spiral.

 

Well as i have said,i don't care what people think of me because if i do this i will always be their prisoner. Yea but people who steal aren't weird they are criminals it's an difference and yes if you were falsely accused of stealing you should clear things out.

Because my weirdness does not harm anybody,i'm who i'm,but if you steal you harm others.

But I'm fascinated about this because of all the questions all the wonders in this world and people think about my weirdness and not about lets say the universe or meaning of life (its to enjoy it). They take their time which could be used to discover their true self,but no they take their time to point out the black sheeps people who aren't mindless zombies like the rest of the masses this bothers me why do others care about black sheeps cant they just leave us alone? I don't judge others i don't tell others how to dress/look/act but why can they tell me all this in return

Well i have 3 friends who are very simmilar to me,we are interested in psychedelics,old rock,same philosophy answers,...and we don't judge others if someone says something we stick together.This is real friendship for me.I also get along with my family really great too This is probably why i don't care what others think of me(people who aren't my family or my friends)

Well in the end who cares right,but an challenge for me would be getting an girlfriend who has the same mental disability as me :daisy:

 

She doesnt though, so right now no, if she ever did then I probably likely would care, but she isnt even 2 yet, right now I am all she has and I hope that I bring her up in a way where she can talk with me about her problems with me (and everything) instead of downright hating me. Thats my goal with her anyway, i want her to feel comfortable expressing herself and feel comfortable enough to express her concerns with how I express myself. We are an equal team.

Hate is a strong word, too.

 

I only care what people think of me on this forum, because I have what you call a forum narcissistic complex :smilielol5:

 

i could give a shit

 

Maybe a better question is: Do you care what your daughter thinks of you. Hypothetically speaking of course.

 

But even then, what context do you mean?

Theres a difference between her thinking I am strange/embarrasing but still loving me or even just not liking my cooking or music taste but treating me the same, to her despising me and wishing I was dead.

I would think if it was the latter then I'd have done something so disgustingly wrong that I would re-evaluate my life and try to start a fresh relationship with her. I would care about why she felt that way, but not specifically at the fact its aimed at me, more because I would have hurt her in someway and no one wants to see their kids hurt, especially if its their own doing.

 

Anyone who says 'no' lies.

 

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We all like to think that we don't care, but we all do, to some extent. Some more than others, sure.

 

I'm referring more toward the latter. For example, say she was older and you started doing drugs and not paying the bills and what not. Would you care if she thought less of you and was mad at you for fucking up? Some people would and have said no.

 

read my second post :sunny:

 

I wouldnt blame her. If I got that bad then I cant imagine I would care about much. But I would likely be just as mad at myself, I would definitely care that I fucked her life up, if I was hurting/upsetting her then of course I would care because I care about her feelings and would never want to see her sad. Its hard to imagine what I'd feel like though.

 

I think thats the key. I see a lot people play the idgaf card and its usually the ones that are fucking up the most. Even if it's their closest friends and family telling them to get their shit together.

 

I dont have the 'i dont give a fuck attitude'... I am just myself and have had to learn to love and accept myself where others havent before that and brought me to a low. Now that I feel comfortable to express myself freely, I hold no quarms and opinions that arent productive to my life are ignored. If, for example, my mum suggested that I dress formally and cut/brush my dreads for a job interview then I would consider what she says and if I was to follow her advice it wouldnt be because I wanted to please her or cared if my potential new boss thought i was weird, it would be to get the job and for that reason only, aka benefit mine and my childs life . The only thing i wouldnt want is to hurt peoples feelings and i have not done that by being myself. I am sure if i had and was aware of that then i would work out what went wrong etc.

I wouldnt walk down the streets and shout abuse to people because 'i dont give a fuck' about anyone. But I would/do walk down the streets with a smile on my face because i am happy even if others try to get me down.

I agree with you though, and a lot of the time it is due to an outer influence (alcohol, drugs, gambling etc) that causes the person to create barriers, become secretive and even lie in order to protect themselves or be so dilusional from the situation that they are unaware of how their actions are really impacting others. The more aware you are, the more compassionate you are, the more you realise/notice others hurt from your own doing.

 

Of course I care. A mans reputation is everything.

 

That's exactly the point I'm trying to make. I try to listen to what others say, not everybody, but the people that matter. I've had friends tell me things like, you being lazy, you should work harder, and it was true. It was what I needed to hear to improve myself. Unfortunately so many people are quick to play the idgaf car.