Question for feminist subs

I'm a very strong female, however I love being absolutely dominated in the bedroom (by the right guy, of course). For me it comes down to the fact that I'm CHOOSING to be submissive- ultimately, I'm the one getting what I want by being dominated.

 

I'm definitely a feminist, but in the bedroom, I do what my Sir tells me to do. See, I am freely choosing to give my power over to him, and let him be in control of me sexually and to dominate me. It's not happening against my will, and everything we do is consensual

 

I suppose it's different when you're with a dominant male partner. I guess I could see those ideals clashing with feminist ideals.

But one of the weird things in feminist lesbian circles is this notion that by virtue of sleeping around, checking women out, making comments about her looks, etc. makes being a feminist impossible, since--in their eyes--some of us objectify other women in the same way that heterosexual men do.

In some ways, they're right.

So...yeah. Not really sure where I'm going with this. I guess, a woman submitting to a man means she "can't" be feminist, and a woman dominating or objectifying another woman "can't" either.

It's all a bunch of bullshit. Do what feels right. Enjoy the ride. Everyone be safe and have fun out there.

 

penises are patriarchy. avoid at all costs

 

I'm not sure what being a feminist has to do with being submissive in the bed room. Feminism is about equality for women. It's having the right to do what you want and not being limited by the fact that you're a women. If you want to be submissive then there is nothing to complain about because nothing has been violated.

Me wanting someone to have their way with me doesn't negate the fact that I believe women have a right to the same opportunities, freedoms, and expressions as men.

Honestly, this whole third wave feminism is getting on my nerves. Especially in the US where we seem to be making shit up in order to make points, while women in other parts of the world are being victimized daily in ways we couldn't even imagine.

 

Nobody knows how to spank but me. Many girls need a lickin', will receive. Boys I will just break your faces.

 

Which is what actual practitioners of BDSM understand: the Domme is not a bully, the sub is not a punching bag. It's two people embracing their roles to achieve a sexual zenith. And, yes, beautiful is a good word to describe it.

But there's also a lot of stuff outside of the bedroom. Obviously it's not purely sexual, and, to me, that's the sexy stuff. The domestic stuff gets me in the mood for the sexual stuff. I can't have one without the other.