Hey Married Guys!

I would love to be on top of a woman while a guy is buried in my ass. It's been a fantasy of mine for a LONG time.

 

The closest I ever came to that was while fucking my wife, while I had a big dildo going in and out of my asshole. I still think its one of the most intense orgasms I ever had. I can only imagine that real is even more intense.

 

Yes yes yes! I miss those days of fucking with a toy in my ass. I'd love to be doing that again. I love imagining being the meat in the middle of the sandwich. WOOF!

 

I honest believe that the majority of heterosexual men do fantasize or wonder what it would be like to suck another mans cock. Most may never act upon those feelings or thoughts but many do and I also believe more are doing so than we realize. Over the past 20 years I've crossed paths with at least 100 men who will allow another man to suck their cock or enjoy sucking cock themselves too. It's something truly wonderful that two men can provide each other and doesn't necessarily make or mean the individuals are gay. There are worse things in life than being gay. Hell, I'm evolving more gay now than any time in my life and my wife is in agreement. I have sex with our man far more than with my wife or his. Our wives know he and I are very orally active with each other sucking each other off at least twice a week if not three times a week. He was here yesterday and we sucked each several times throughout the day. We're cock suckers married to women, we love our wives and have emotional attachments to them. What we share with each other is our desire to suck cock and feed each other our loads of cum. Are we gay? I never thought so but perhaps we are.

 

Over the years my wife has always enjoyed adding a third. The third being a dildo plunged to the hilt in my anus. The dildo was never given a name only damn he has a big penis. I always agree and describe how great "He" feels in my anus.

 

The several dildo's my wife uses on me during oral sex are all named after her...Her BIG COCK fucks me well. Yes, fuck me I say...

 

I all ways end up begging my wife to let me clean her cream pie...........after she has been out and about..!......oh my...mmmm

 

I'm one of those guys who loves to share their wife........just turns me on big time!

 

He's gas lighting you. That's really. disrespectful.

 

I don't have any desire to do bisexual acts with another guy. But I think it would be fun to do a mfm session. I'd be fine with DVP or DAP as well, just not him in me or me in him in any fashion.

 

Once in the heat of it ...you might just do any thing you might not normally do.............

 

Nope, not anything bisexuality. It's just not my cup of tea. However, like I said before, anything other than that I would be good with! I would LOVE to do a MFM with my wife or be the other male in a MFM! B But I'm just not Bi.

I'm very, very open minded! But not Bi, or any other variation thereof.

 

I think about it a LOT. It's at the very top of my bucket list. No getting all intimate and kissing, makes me sick thinking about it. But having a cock for another toy and/or pleasure, YES. At least I'm 95% sure I would love it. I've also loved anal play for 30 years, so I would think a real cock would feel better. But, that's not a sure thing. Guessing I would crave to try it when the time came to suck on a nice cock.

 

I wasn't neither at one time...............

 

had thought about it, finally sucked several cocks, now want to get fcuked

 

Good luck my friend...............

 

What he said, I could hookup with him to experiment.

Sucking cock would be a good Start.
I'm open to being fucked but sucking a cock or letting a guy suck me off is also something I'm hoping for b

 

I am so sorry for what you are going through. I believe your husband is very confused and acting out his repressed desires for sex with other guys. That's certainly not an excuse for how he is hurting you. The fact that he cannot stop, despite how hurt you are from his behavior, is very selfish. It is not fair to you whatsoever.

Having said that, and still not trying to justify it whatsoever, I believe I can understand your husband a little bit. He has these same sex desires, but like all men, has been brainwashed by our society into believing that men having sex with other men is not only unnatural, but it's evil. This creates so much inner turmoil for boys and men that discover same sex desires or thoughts, and most never get over it, never truly, fully accepting their bisexuality or homosexuality. I believe this is less so with bisexual women and lesbians, something that is more acceptable in our society, though is still not fully there. But your husband has built up a fantasy life in his mind around these repressed desires and/or thoughts, allowing the desires to be out and open in his fantasy world, which branches out from his mind into the online world.

But there his fantasies explode and become exaggerated because of the freedom the anonymous Internet world allows. He sees lots of gay, bi and transsexual porn and erotica, and participates in gay and bi community forums, where he reads about other guys' fantasies, bicuriosity, and actual experiences. Especially in the huge bisexual online community, the majority of the guys are married and complaining about their terrible marital sex lives, and then seeking and experiencing extramarital sex with men, and mostly in secret from their wives, because of the obvious repercussions. I personally feel their behaviour is abhorrent, and they have no idea how much harm they are creating. People are so deluded and ignorant about, well, virtually everything. I especially.

This has become an uncontrollable compulsion in your husband, and he has developed such familiarity with it, having such uncontrolled desire, and exaggerating the pleasure, and indeed the happiness, that male genitalia and sex with men can bring. Of course, any thought that something outside of your own mind can bring you happiness is total ignorance. All of us keep chasing things external to us, thinking that another person, relationship, a better job, a better house, a better car, that piece of chocolate cake, can bring us the happiness we so desperately want. Yes, we all suffer from this ignorance, in one way or another. Everyone without exception, except for enlightened beings, or those very close to enlightenment, have this powerful delusion in them, and then feel justified in doing anything to get those external things, even harming others.

Your husband has totally bought into this gay narrative that he has created in his mind. But because of the homophobia present in him, there's this constant struggle to push these thoughts down and repress them, but that part of him also wants to come back up and express itself. I think that struggle then creates an even more exaggerated world in which women are disgusting, and only men loving men is perfection. But at the same time part of him knows that this is not true, and I think that part of it appears to you when he denies everything to you. He is in very deep denial in real life, outside of his fantasies and online activities. It's almost like he has a split personality. In some ways, I think it's pathological--kind of an insanity. Exaggerating the qualities of everything gay makes it a delusion, and therefore contrary to reality, the very definition of insanity. In some ways your husband can't help it, because he is under control of ignorance and uncontrolled desire. Like all of us, he just wants to be happy and free from suffering. Every living being has this 24/7 wish at their core. But like all of us, he doesn't know where true happiness comes from. The sad thing is that he has that source right there in front of him, in you, his life partner who he can love and practice with to make your happiness and freedom from suffering the most important thing. Buddha said, happiness is the mind wishing others to be happy.

He's really fucking it up. He is really messed up, and probably in a lot of pain.He needs therapy. But that requires him to admit that he has a problem. However, that main personality of his is in such strong denial that it's going to take a lot for him to recognize his pathology. I don't know whether he has actually acted on his fantasies and gotten together with one or more guys already. If not, maybe he never will. Many guys keep it a fantasy. But the writing that he is doing to express his fantasies is very harmful to him, feeding his addiction we can call it, and to you, and to every other guy reading his posts and being influenced by them. He has to stop. But it's going to be very very difficult, I believe.

Perhaps one way to go is for him to end his marriage with you, giving him the freedom to actually experiment with men. I don't think doing so within the marriage, even with your permission, is a wise way to go. It just creates too much harm. I've never been married myself, but I do hear about the great pain divorce can bring. But it's better than you having to endure his having sex with other men, and then coming home to you. I know a lot of guys and their wives here in this forum and elsewhere make an open marriage "work". But I also hear from a therapist friend of mine that sees every single woman coming to her from an open relationship with a man expressing actual very private, deep jealousy and pain, that they are only able to divulge in therapy, but express the opposite with their husbands. People are so great at self denial that outside the therapy room they actually believe it, and even promote the open lifestyle, especially when they live and seem to enjoy having sex with other people as well. But deep down, my therapist friend believes everyone actually hates the open lifestyle. But of course the scientific sample she is working with has a built-in bias: only people with problems are coming to her. On the other hand, usually the problems are about something else, and the open relationship only begins to be discussed as a sidebar. If I use my own wisdom, though, I believe there is truth in her conclusions.

If or when your husband actually begins to have sex with other men, he may find that his fantasies don't come anywhere near to matching reality. Just because he has these powerful gay fantasies doesn't necessarily mean that he is gay or bisexual. I believe these thoughts and desires could come from another psychological source. That's my guess anyway, having read a number of times in these various online forums how fantasies led some men out to try it, only to discover that they don't actually like it in real life. But that population is a very small minority. The anecdotal evidence at least shows that most guys with those thoughts and desires discover they very much enjoy having oral and/or anal sex with other guys.

But right now, these thoughts, desires, and fantasies in your husband just means he is bicurious. But when he actually gets naked with another man, and feels desire for him, or at least for his cock or ass, and enjoys whatever sex they have together, then we can say he is at least bisexual. If he truly does not enjoy sex with women, then he is homosexual. If he ends up preferring gay sex, but still has desires for women, and still enjoys having sex with women on rare occasions, then he is still bisexual. Also, even though he says he needs to look at gay porn in order to get turned on enough to have sex with you, that doesn't mean that he is homosexual. His delusions about homosexuality has just become so familiar to him that it is distorting his desires, or lack thereof, for you. Perhaps if he removes those delusions, the straight part of him will enjoy having sex with you, without needing any other stimulus except your body and his love for you. But as I said, it's a very steep, uphill path to remove these delusions. I don't know if you're strong enough to hold out, even if he is making the effort. But if he makes no effort, the marriage is sadly lost, in my opinion.

Maybe you should share my post with him, and I'm happy to converse with him, especially because I have some insight into this from my own personal experience as someone that was, and kind of still is, as far as exaggerating everything gay goes, sort of like him. Good luck!

My love and prayers are with you.,
Gary

 

Looking back, I recall my favorite and most enticing porn, over the years, has always involved a nice looking smooth, cut cock.
On the contrary, seeing two gals ‘getting it on’ has never been my cup of tea.
I always want to see a cock and what it can do … it doesn’t matter who is receiving the reward.. guy or gal.
This, along with other scenarios, made me I realize that I am destined to ‘swing both ways’.
Swinging one way is relatively easy, but swinging the other way has been more of a challenge (so far).

 

Spoken like a guy who does fantisize about sucking cock, but unwilling to admit it.