Premature ejaculation

Unforunately the law makes it difficult to advise you specifically on matters such as this. The law does not recognize that guys your age need advice on sexual matters, because you are going to do it when you want to do it, no matter how old you are. But there are books and internet searches you can access to get the information you need.

 

Unfortunately the law makes it difficult to advise you specifically on matters such as this. The law does not recognize that guys your age need advice on sexual matters, because you are going to do it when you want to do it, no matter how old you are. But there are books and internet searches you can access to get the information you need.

 

Been reading your thread and you have some great advice. I am going to try all ten of your techniques, but I have been with my wife for 12 years now and have had this problem since I first met her, and with others in the past. I have come to the conclusion that there are few things that might have caused this to happen. 1. When I was a child I was epileptic well that is just a guess probably nothing to do with anything but it sounds good to me. 2. When I was going through normal male teenage years, I masturbated quite a bit, and got really good at pleasing myself quickly....my question there is did I train myself for quick ejaculation. 3. Just plain and simple mind of matter type of thing? Any response would be great. I appreciate what you have done here for people with my problem.

 

Savagestoner - Thanks for the compliment. Regarding your questions: 1. I am not qualified to say if childhood epilepsy could affect your premature ejaculation. It does not seem likely, but check with your doctor.
2. Frequent masturbation can affect how you approach intercourse, but once you regularly have sex with your partner, this should not be a factor, and you have been married for 12 years.
3. Many of my techniques train your mind not to be so aroused sexually, so that you can bring down the urge to ejaculate, which comes from your mind and not just your penis. Let me know if my techniques help you - pm me if you want.

 

Good advice,

One thing I thought I would mention, and this does work, is to focus on your breathing, as you approach orgasm your breathing quickens quite a bit, but if you focus and breathe slow it does reduce the urge to cum, also if you pay attention to her breathing you can tell when she is close to orgasm and try to keep yourself in sync with her in terms of sexual arousal.

I used to have this sort of problem, but I have disciplined myself enough to where i can usually go for as long as I or my g/f wants to, however sometimes they don't like it when you stop/go slow to reduce your arousal, sometimes its best to just go with it.

 

I agree with the breathing and stuff, i used to have a major problem with breathing, now i cheated on my gf with this other girl that lives far away, and while I was with this other girl I just went full force at it and when i was about to cum I simply pulled out, then when i knew that the nut was gone I went back in for some more, she got off and I didnt, and then we went a 2nd round and I controlled my breathing and noticed that the 2nd round it took about an hour to finally get off and then the 3rd round was just as good and it last for about 3-4 hours and finally we went to bed, my gf found out about it as i told her and she forgave me, and so I tried it with her and well my premature ejaculation went away, all my advice that I got was from my friends manager and she is a porn star, and her manager has starred in many adult flims and has given me some really good advice on how to prevent these types of mishaps

 

Truth420 - You must be sore after over four hours of intercourse. You should put some skin lotion on your penis after a marathon like that.

 

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Anyone who has PE problems they should try Durex Performax condoms. I've been using them for a short while, and now I can have sex for around 25 mins (used to last 1-2). Some people complain about complete numbness and loss of erections, but so far I haven't had this. I had a "quickie" tonight, which was pure thrusting for 10 mins, LOL, this "quickie" was about 10 times longer than my past regular sex sessions.

 

Swass - thank you for your tip on using Durex Performax condoms to help cure premature ejaculation.

 

It's all about breath. You can play with it a bit when you're masturbating. Get yourself used to feeling as many nuances as you can with your sexual energy. Notice how you breathe, or don't for that matter, when you're about to cum, when you're cumming, when you're relaxed. Stuff like that. It's sort of a tantric kind of thing but I find tantra a bit labor intensive. You cannot physically ejaculate if you can control the muscles that are involved. It's actually pretty easy but it takes a lot of practice. Longer slower breaths help you from blowing too soon. And quite frankly it might take a bit when you're with somebody to get used to their energy and rhythm all of that stuff.

I'd say above all try not to psyche yourself out. Most of this really is in your head. If you're comfortable with yourself and with your partner you'll be fine.

Practice masturbating for longer periods of time. Delay your orgasm a bit. If you're cumming quickly your body is probably used to it. Reprogram it a bit. Take a bit of the focus off of the orgasm. If you're with somebody and you cum, no big deal use your mouth and hands until you're back in the game again. Orgasms are really not that big a deal if you treat them as part of the whole experience. Have fun.

Oh and I personally don't like anything that desensitizes. You want to get used to sensation and be able to go with it. If you get used to no feeling and then for some reason you don't have any of your special spray or whatever you'll be cumming faster than ever.

 

Nowadays, it's quite hard to find someone who is patient enough to work with someone on this. And I feel the same way about desensitizing stuff, but I'm at my last rope.

And you make a good point on that an orgasm is PART of the whole experience. It's not like it doesn't take me long to be back in action. Emotionally, this really helped me! Thanks!

 

no problem. I think many of us have experienced this a bit. It might depend on who you're with. I was with one woman and the first time we had sex we went straight hard fucking for like four hours straight. It was crazy. Then I was with this other woman and she had me off in less than ten seconds. I was like what just happened?! I've also noticed that it gets a bit easier with age to control. It's actually not about control at all. It's more about not being in control and just relaxing, relaxing and relaxing some more.

Try masturbating a bit and then open up like you're going to pee. It relaxes a lot of the muscles that are involved in cumming. I've actually passed a kidney stone this way too so it's good for all kinds of stuff. There's totally nothing wrong with you. Everyonce in a while I'll actually go the other way and not be able to get it up. Not common but it happens. Again you can fuck with any part of you... or hell bring in the toys. If you're good with your hands mouth and imagination you can keep pretty much anybody happy.

 

You're the first person to actually say that it's not about control, but being able to relax and I seem to be really tense, nervous, and such during sex. I also have an unrealistic view of it (No birds and the bees talk, I learned from pornos pretty much at a young age and I didn't even know what masturbation was until some girl online told me when I was really young).

I'll give that a try and see how that works.

And yes, I usually bring in toys, and I'm amazing at foreplay. But even though it gets them off, I still get nagged about the real thing. Like for instance, my last g/f kept making bad and insulting remarks when I made hints I wanted to fool around, or anything like that. She still had me do it, but she'd be like "Why? You can't last that long anyway..." Now that I think about it, what a fucking bitch. I should have just gotten up and told her to fuck off.

 

Partner420 - You are only 18, and have a lot of your life ahead of you. When I was your age, I was very immature in my relationships with women, and made a lot of mistakes. Then, when I was 19, I met a Swedish woman on a trip to Europe who took me under her wing and in one week together taught me everything I ever wanted to know about sex. She built up my self esteem, and made me feel that my tall, skinny body could pleasure women at the same time as I pleasured myself. I came back to the U.S. a changed man/boy.

Almost every guy has experienced premature ejaculation as a young man. Sex with a woman, or with any woman the first time, is very exciting, and you get overstimulated and lose it. Since you really do screw with your brain and not the delivery system between your legs, you need to train your brain not to get overstimulated.

We have the same birthday, and guys on the cusp between Gemini and Cancer sometimes have feelings that are too deep. We overthink things, and react too negatively to things people do or say to us. The answer is: chill out. Don't take everything so personally. Let it happen.

PM me if you want more advice...

 

Yeah, I pretty much just need to say fuck it and have fun, just not care about it. Sex has been made out to be this huge thing when I was growing up, and it still is in my brain. Hopefully I can overcome this!

 

Partner - since you really screw with your brain and not the delivery equipment between your legs, try to relax your mind and think about other things if you feel yourself getting close to orgasm. Try "edging" - masturbating to the edge of orgasm, and then using your mind to pull you back from the brink. Do this repeatedly until you can't stand it any more, and then let it go. This way you will find out what works in your mind to control your body's response to the sexual stimuli it is receiving.

 

Just a theory that might help... If masturbating to ejaculate is what messes some brains up to just ejaculate, would masturbating but instead of finishing with an ejaculation, don't let it happen and just stop without ejaculating after like 20 min or so... Think that could help?

 

Not only did I now find a girl that is patience and comfortable enough with me, I think I fixed my problem. She came three times on top of me before I even went, and the third one we came together. So yeah, I'm so happy. Thanks!

Also, those Durex Performax condoms didn't do shit. They ain't worth it, in my opinion.