My thoughts are that it's an individual thing and although I wouldn't consider divorce "good", for some people it ends up being the best option.... like me.... I can't wait for mine to go through.
I know 2 couples going through that right now. In both cases, it is the wife's second marriage and she's the one ending it this time too. I feel bad for the husbands and kids.
No kidding! I'm remaining relatively silent on this one lest I follow some old footsteps of mouthing off about something I know little about.
Never been divorced, but I've been the victim of one. I'm curious to see how people view it. Seems to be quite passive for the most part so far. We'll see how that goes.
I'm by no means passive about it by some of my opinions are likely to step on the toes of those dealing with it. I'm not eager to piss off the already stressed.
we're woking very hard to keep the divorce peaceful, remain in agreement, and settle out of court. quite honestly it would be easier to get a couple of lawyers and rake each other over the coals. but hopefully it's worth it for the kids.
I understand and encourage divorce only in the case of physically and emotionally abusive marriages. Keep in mind I categorize verbal abuse under emotional abuse. Even still, unless the situation is immediately life threatening, I do not agree with divorce without heavy counseling first.
My divorce is like the seperation of the States from England. Its all on paper but damned if I dont end up having to help out all the time.
Expense shouldn't be an issue for people who are considering divorce in the first place. I'd easily say that most people divorce because of physical and emotional abuse or because of cheating or something like that... all of which are justified. If two people are incompatible, then they are incompatible... it's as simple as that. You can't force them to live together. Marriage is an idiotic idea in the first place. Very few people can actually live together for that long and still be in love. (...here you can insert the nice story about how your grandparents lived together until they were 100 and were always happy..... but it's not love anymore, they are just so used to each other by now that there is no way for them to separate). I myself do not ever plan to get married. (Unless it's for a greencard )