Your parents and tattoos.

Heya fellas.

I was just thinking... I'm planning my first tattoo and it's supposed to be done in September and now I'm trying to figure out one really big problem - my dad. I'm 19 and he's 60, spent 2/3 of his life in a communist regime where everyone used to wear the same, do the same, say the same and if not, had been sent to jail.. so he's not that liberal about things like tattoo or such.. and I'm wondering..

how about your parents?

how did you tell them you were going to get tattooed..?

I need to make some good tactic!

 

is it going to be in a visable region? if not, what he doesn't kno won't hurt him

 

It won't be in a visible region it'll be on my back.. so it'll be visible only in summer.. when swimming in our pool.. oops. I gotta tell him.

 

your body, your choice. a tatt doesn't change who you are, therefor it shouldn't change the way ur dad thinks about you. If he was brought up in such a tight society, he should be overjoyed that his children have oppuortunities he didn't. If a tattoo changed your relationship, then what kind of relationship do you have? you only live once, go for it!

 

I don't think it might change our whole relationship but my dad is very very very impulsive and choleric type of person so he sometimes says and does things he doesn't really mean.. that's why I need a tactic.

but I'll go for it, I've already decided.

 

I got my first tattoo the day after I turned 18. I never even told my dad cuz he is a church going man, and always thought they were trashy. Anyway, he didn't find out about my first one until a year later when I got my second one. I decided then that I was gonna come clean and not be afraid of ashamed cuz it was MY body & decision. I felt alot better.

 

hm.. and where do you have that first tattoo? ...

I'm thinking about telling him as soon as possible... don't wanna come home with a tattoo and "look what I've got"..

 

my mom took me to get my first when i was 16. but i'm actually getting my 6th tattoo today and its my first one that gonna be visible all the time (on my arm) i dont tell her im getting tattooed until i come home with it. then she can't do anything she just is like "whatever do what you want i just hope you don't regret it" she tries to guilt trip me but bringing up all this regret stuff. which is why i dont like telling her before i get it done then i feel guilty and it might make me back out i dont know.

 

i agree with getting it before telling them.

once its done, they can dissaprove, but they cant make you remove it. however, if they regect it and you get one, theyll be betrayed.

also, if you show them the finished tat when telling the news, they may feel better if its not crappy/whory/trailer-park/etc (whatever there worst-case scenario logic would have been)

 

just do it! if it's something you love, you won't regret it. my mom is a hardcore devout catholic and shudders every time i come home with new ink, but she knows it's my life to live and/or ruin my own way and you suggest you do the same, lol.

 

Horribly Oppressive Communist regime > Bitchy Pissed off teenage daughter

You're dad will figure it out eventually and then you'll be good

 

Get it before you tell them definately cause if you do it against his wishes right after yall talked about it it wont be good. i got mine and then told them and they thought i was joking. i couldnt have told my parents before cause they would of kicked me out and now that i got it all they say is if i want to remove it they will pay for it.

 

I did the opposite of ^^
After years of claiming i'd never get a tattoo, especially but not only because I have Jewish family, and tattoos in Judaism...mm NOOOO way! But because i didnt have anything that i wanted and i thought getting a star or someshit was super lame, so why bother?

Well so I had a huge epiphany one night, and i immediately created a tattoo design. Two days later me and two of my best friends are out to eat with my mom. I casually ask her, "What would you do if I got a tattoo?" she just liked me and was like "never" i was like ok haha, she knows that doesn't mean anything, but I know she didn't think I was serious. So 2 hours later I go and get the tattoo and its on my left wrist opposite side of the palm, a very noticable area. I told them over the phone a few days later (I was in college) so they wuold prepare themselves before they saw it.

My dad, well yuo gotta understand him, he thinks any body modification is stupid. He made fun of me when I got my ears and nose pierced....he thought I was stupid...but the tattoo means more to me than anything in life...they learned to understand that...

I don't know I am always scared of my parents, but in the end they are good to me

good luck lady!

 

my parents are pretty much totally against inking yourself, but that didn't stop me and they've grown to accept it on me but are still against it. They'll grow to accept it, no worries.

 

I dont have a tattoo, and even if I did I dont think my parents would have a problem with it.... I guess if I were you id prolly just go ahead and do it....

Your nineteen, your an adult... your dads just going to have to learn that just because he might not think somethings right doesnt mean you agree. Your his daughter so I dont think he's going to like disown you or whatever if you get one... butGoodluck though!

 

okie dokie, guys. thanks for advices. I've already told my mother and she was fine with it.. but my dad.. ehm perhaps I'll still try

thanks one more time!

 

haha this is funny cause i was just telling my parents today that i was going to get like 5 tattoos. they said you have to wait till your 18 and get them were they can be covered up..

 

Forget your parents, they'll get over it eventually. What you really need to be concerned about is whether or not you will like it in say 5 years or so. Im not trying to steer you away from getting it done, I have a few myself, but laser removal is expensive. All I'm saying is, you have limited canvas space... use it wisely.

 

your 19, your dad maybe old school and shit but i think its your body and your decision, your not a little girl anymore, ya know, if you have a tat then hes just gonna have to except it

 

my parents hate my tattoos. i have three, plus a branding (oh god, they hate my branding most of all...) and i've always got them first, then spend a few weeks trying to avoid them seeing it, and then i just give up and let them discover it and with my last two they didn't even mention it, they just give me this look like , "lisa, how could you!"