i would really appreciate any thoughts you may have on this, people... helpful thoughts that is... i'm in a long-distance relationship and we are in love... cut a long story short, we were nearly childhood sweethearts... i asked him out when we were 11 years old but he said "no" because he thought i was taking the piss and was a very shy 11 year old... he never forgot me and often beat himself up, wishing he'd said yes because he also had a huge crush on me in school... there are many signs which tell me he IS a true love, but i won't find out if it is a love that stays the distance until we actually live together, which will be happening later in the year... i was celebate for about 5 years prior to meeting him again, after 36 years! we met up October last year and couldn't keep our hands off each other... thing is... i am horny as fuck for him and EVERYTHING (well, nearly everything) seems to have a sexual connotation for me at the moment... whilst posting on these forums, especially the games forums, even though we are all only playing games, it does get quite HOT?... i know it sounds silly, but i feel guilty, because i am having very sexual thoughts about a couple of the posters... i almost feel like i'm being unfaithful to the love of my life and i haven't really done anything... i feel so confused about it... i'm also not sure if any of the male posters perceive me as a tease because i say the most outrageous things sometimes and i really don't want to wind them up, that just isn't fair... i don't know if i'm playing a dangerous game or not... my questions are: 1. if you were in my mans situation, how would you feel if you knew your partner was getting all hot under the colllar for other men? 2. should i talk to him about it? 3. if i were to continue, and not pull away, as i have been doing, is it cyber-sex? 4. if it is, is cyber-sex the same as being unfaithful? (i have had quite a few sexual partners in my life, but i've NEVER been unfaithful, and i certainly don't intend to start now) can't think of any other questions right now... cheers for listening
1. if you were in my mans situation, how would you feel if you knew your partner was getting all hot under the colllar for other men? I would be a little insecure about it. If it was just attraction to other men without action, my feelings would be unreasonable but there none the less. But, if it impacts our relationship, I feel I'd have the right to be bothered. 2. should i talk to him about it? Probably not. If there is nothing to it, there is nothing to talk about. If there is something to it, you should stop doing it. 3. if i were to continue, and not pull away, as i have been doing, is it cyber-sex? sexual acts/thoughts/fulfillment gotten through a computer with another person=cybersex 4. if it is, is cyber-sex the same as being unfaithful? (i have had quite a few sexual partners in my life, but i've NEVER been unfaithful, and i certainly don't intend to start now) Its an emotional affair
1) i would know that my partner is human and has human urges, and i wouldn't particularly care assuming she didn't do anything about it. 2) i dunno, depends on your relationship with him i suppose. 3) i always thought cybersex was 2 people typing erotic messages to each other while masturbating; unless that's what you're doing, then no. 4) yes and no.
