You know what's annoying?

Well, if thats what you really think then that is why other people opinions on your own happiness is what causes your mood to change when it is not accepted in the level that YOU wish it would be.
Dont get me wrong, I am NOT one of those people who puts down others, in fact, out of the people I know, I am the only one who allows myself to be filled with joy at the sight of others feeling it, no matter what they are happy about. But, I dont need other people to share my happiness with. If they are around, then I will try like you do, but if they dont conform to my level of bliss, that doesnt mean I will be annoyed by it. I simply delve deeper into my own feelings.

 

But, didnt you read the sentence after that? In my personal experience, the one thing that makes me happy that I wish to share with others, is the feeling of being connected, and ONE with everyone else, therefor, the EVERYONE else, fades into a big blur of singularity.
I dont think you understand me KC, and we are aconversing about 2 differant things here lol

 

its such a buzz kill when people do that. thats why i jump and dance around when im alone, so no one tells me other wise

 

when i'm happy and can't share it with anyone, i feel like it's going to waste. so i do nice things. make a bracelet, write a letter, make a card. it's a nice way to imprint your good vibes on something real.

 

That is the ultimate source and fate of all sentient beings.

 

But, even in doing these nice things for other people, arent you, in some way, still making yourself happy?
Do you not see what I mean in all of this? In order to make another person happy, you must first make yourself happy, which you actually do automatically, immediatley when you attempt to make someone else happy. Not all selfish desires are bad, and they are most definitley NOT bullshit. How could they be? Is it BS that when I have sex with a girl, that even though I am aiming at pleasing her, I ALSO receveive pleasure in orgasm? Thers a sexy example for you, since that seems to be half of what people tend to talk about lol :tongue:

 

The truth feels so refreshing, like a glass of water after working in the sun all day

 

i still don't see how that's selfishness. you're losing me. unless i'm specifically setting out to please specifically me and only me, that would be selfish.

 

No, its isnt, because YOU are still included in the equation of who is happy in the result of your attempt to make another happy, since, making the other person happy Makes You Happy. That IS selfish, only, not in the sense of the description of the word we generally associate it to.

 

i'd pick a different word.

 

exactly, man....he definately said it right!

 

I dont like it either

 

well, the connotations of "selfish" are too dark and ugly. while it may work on a purely technical basis, it's just not right.

 

I hate that feeling so much. Or you play your favorite song ever for someone and they just think it's okay, or absolutely hate it and just walk away.

But what feels just as bad to me to be the "eh." person in the midst of a majority of people getting carried away by something I don't find very important, like say American Idol?

The worst was when the Red Sox beat the Yankees a few years back and I was walking around the city, observing the mania. I was probably the least enthusiastic person there. But hell, I wasn't about to fake being excited about baseball.

 

I like you.

You're the chicken man, right?

 

Yeah, and thank you. I like your sig. It makes me feel...lonely.

 

Without the dark, how can we know the light?

 

but calling light things by a dark name doesn't make any sense. it's incorrect, innacurate, and has nothing whatsoever to do with anything sort of spirtual balancing act.

 

KC, it is only a "dark" thing if you allow it to be so.
Sense gratification is sense gratification now matter how you try to justify your reasoning for fulfillment.

 

sense gratification is a much better word for it than selfishness.