You know what is annoying?

I came out a couple months ago to my friends, and recently to everybody. Everyone is cool with it, so that isnt the problem.

But what I find annoying...or maybe amusing is a better word...is when people come up to me and say:

"So how did you discover that you are bisexual, Dylan?"

When they ask me that, I think to myself... "WHAT THE HECK DO THEY WANT ME TO SAY?" I mean, do poeple want me to say "Erm...well, I came across some gay porn and liked it?" or "I noticed that I was aroused by men as well as women." I mean, any of those things will kind of weird the person who is asking me that quesiton out, so I usually just say, "Erm...I noticed that I wasnt just attracted to girls." but seriously, id unno, maybe im just crazy, hehe

What do you guys think?
Cheers,
dylan

 

Maybe they're stupid?

 

Ahhhh I get asked that too. Often followed with "so does that mean you fancy me then?"

One day I want to reply with "I'm bent...not blind...fuckwit."

 

Your sig is the tits. That = good.

 

I think that it is just curiosity. As well as a certain amount plain rudness. Your friends have fallen into the same socially lacking trap that I remember doing & many young teens do where they want to have their questions answered without thinkng how uncomfortable those questions can make the one they are asking. If you don't want to answer them you don't have to & you have every right to just tell them it's none of their business. Although if you look them straight in the eye & tell them either the truth from your heart or something funny to dissuade the question it is going to make them respect you more than if you do much of anything else. IMHO

 

Curiosity, absolutely. Rude? Not so sure. I'll admit that I've asked the same questions that I'm now asked today. It wasn't out of disrespect. I was simply curious. Partly to understand homosexuality and bisexuality a little better. Later on, to try to understand how I was feeling and whether or not I was just going through a phase or if I had genuine feelings or any of the other questions we ask ourselves as we discover our sexuality.

If someone asks me about my sexuality, I take it as a compliment that they'd want to know and understand me better, that or trying to find ways to understand themselves. Sure, it can be uncomfortable to answer, but it might be just as uncomfortable and scary to ask the question in the first place.

 

I found myself in the same position last night. I told my very best friend that I'm bi to which she asked "well... how do you know?". For a second there I kinda felt like slapping her for being so nieve but I let it go, lol.

 

when i told my best friend i was gay for a few days she just kept asking if i was playing a wierd trick on her... or trying to stop her from making a move on me, because she had told me she liked me

 

Dude. Be like, "when did you realize that you're straight?"

 

I used to get similar questions quite often, one thing I found hilarious was when some guy said to a couple of my friends:

"have you heard that John's bisexual?"

they told him that they knew, and then he said:

"how gay is that?!"

Hmm, around 50% gay. 10 out of 10 for observation.

 

sigh..

 

The problem is that most people don't know what to say when someone comes out about being bi or gay.

Even in this supposedly enlightened day and age, there are lots of people around who have never met a real live lesbian, gay man or bisexual. At the very least, this seems to be the case in my small town.

Yes, it's frustrating to deal with people like that. Believe me; I know!

 

I don't know that annoyance; I'm open about my sexuality, but I don't think too many people know that I am actually bisexual... I mean, if they ask or I happen to bring it up during a conversation, then I'll tell them. But that's all it is; I haven't just openly admitted it to everyone, I don't see any point in doing so. I would feel like I was just drawing attention to myself; I really don't care what people think of me anyway, so it doesn't matter what they say if they are ignorant of certain facts.