Guys that just say the right things so they can have sex with me..I have had guys tell me they love me, tell me they want me to be their girlfriend, but in the end they have sex with me once or twice and I never hear from them again, I get sick of it. I just want a guy who is honest and wants to be with me for me, not just so he can "hit it and quit it" stupid..this has happened to me a lot can anyone relate with me?
You could learn how guys are. I'm really tired of being lost in place and not seeing any girls and therefor not getting any sex at all. BTW Lorna I am Moses (see my Profile picture) and require wives for lovin' . ; )
As one who has always been Honest and Open with Girls (and of an age of experience)- I have avoided the L word - as there are times when Sex is a mutual desire, Love is not the issue just the Agreement I've always been willing to go the long haul, and go the acquaintance, friend, lover route - though have found that this form of journey is not reciprocal in practice, (though I'm quite willing to communicate, correspond and connect I have not found a female soul mate of equal feeling) Although maybe, in this, it is...just me then??
OP, I'm new here and would love nothing more than to be "100% honest" with you. But it would come across as being very rude no matter how I word it and you would think very poorly of me, get nothing out of it and neither would I So instead I'll refrain from saying what I'd really like to and just state that for someone who is 23 years old, your thinking suggests that of a 16 year old. Have you obviously not figured out guys yet? Many guys are dogs, and if you give it up easy to a dog they are going to boink you and then run off to find another dog. Especially when you make it so easy for them. That and tell me truthfully, if you were chatting with a guy, and instead of him BS-ing you up one side and down the other said to you "You know you seem like a nice person. I'm really not interested in you but would like to get laid. And after I'm gonna move on and find someone else. Are you good with that?" Tell me would you appreciate and respect his honesty, show him a good time and let him go or would you slap him in the face?
This is probably going to come off as extremely insensitive and probably kind of rude.... Is something happening during sex that's weirding them out and causing them to run off? I won't try and say that men don't want sex, but I like to give dudes the benefit of the doubt. Not ALL men are dogs. Not ALL of them only want sex and nothing else. There are plenty of single, amazing men out there, but unfortunately most women are too blinded/jaded to give them a chance. There are of course, a multitude of other things that could be driving them away. Do you get too clingy? Do you nag? Are you moving too fast?
I don't relate, but I'd like to offer a hug and share. You know what? If you feel like fucking a guy at first sight, fuck him. Why not? I love fucking and I don't see a good reason why I should play difficult if I wanna fuck. If he'd fuck me, think I'm a slut and move on, I'd be fine with it. I've got what I wanted and one thing I've never run out was men who want to fuck me. If you don't wanna fuck: even if the guys comes with all the beautiful words in the world, don't. Never be convinced to fuck. That way, at least you won't feel cheated when the guy fucks and disappears. If you only fuck when YOU want it, as opposed to when HE wants it, you'll never feel as if someone had taken advantage of you. What I find puzzling is that your experience is in total contrast with mine. In my experience, after you fuck a guy, he becomes very clingy. What you describe is the opposite. Even at my age, after I have sex with a man, he tries to stick around. The ones who only wanted a fuck, suddenly want to linger. I've always found much more difficult to get rid of a man after I fuck him than before I fuck him. Even men I only allow to give me oral and lick my feet try to linger. I guess men here are very different from men where you are. It could also be the age. Interesting.
i'm with you mama....vaginitis comes to mind....pimply ass....stink-puss....hoping op has all that under control...could be dead-fuck syndrome......overly protective sex.........b.o..... lol....my dream woman has all that and more ....fool me once....something something....fool me twice....something else....you know the rest op-good luck and lets hope that knight in shining armour is right around the corner
I really wanted to say something more along the lines of this but I think there are many factors at hand and a couple other posters nailed things on the head. I don't think we have a simple case here of girl meets boy, girl is nice to boy, boy dumps her in the drink kind of deal....
I agree with mama as well. I don't think guys split if they really like a girl. Its not the 1950s anymore so unless a guy is a completely backwards piece of shit he isn't going to lose respect for you and split simply because you guys had sex. There has to be more to it. Either you're doing something to scare them off or you're just being really, really gullible and believing in guys that other girls can peg as liars from 20 feet away.
From what you state it is a pattern. You need to honestly address why it is a pattern for you. You make the choice to be with these fellows. Perhaps taking longer to have an intimate relationship would be something to consider. There is nothing wrong with having only a sexual relationship unless you want more than that. If that is the case, getting to know a person is a good place to start.
