Here we go again... so my dad and I ended up in a really bad financial predicament recent. It's a long story, but we had to stay at my moms house. After all of our issues, we have both been tired, unkempt, and sort of emaciated. Things began to get better for yesterday when he recieved his paycheck. We still have to stay at a hotel, but we're getting better. That's when my mom got drunk, and started her accusations. She started talking about the fact that our situation is really "abnormal" and how this isn't right. I'm not exactly sure what she wants us to do but she started getting really mad. My dad is on methadone (a synthetic oppiate) to treat oppiate addiction. It is a very closely monitored program under the care of a doctor. He is also required to take regular drug screens. Last night she began accusing him of being on heroine. When I tried to defend him she started yelling that I need to "stop making excuses for him". Then she attacked his health. He has been disgnosed with a venous stasis ulcer by a doctor. She started arguing that he is diabetic (which he's not). I tried once again to explain, but to no avail. I am an EMT with multiple saves. I think I know what I'm looking for in a diabetic. She started yelling that I have no idea what i'm talking about and that i'm not a doctor. I feel like she has made fum of my career and my family. But to top it all off, she did it again this morning. So we know it wasn't her drunken blathering. She does this every once in a while since she kicked me out. She tries to convince me that my dad is a bad parent and i'd be happier with her (i wouldn't). It irritates me so much because it's like she really doesn't get it. she hasn't been here throughout it all. Anyone have any ideas on what to do?
you might want to try this Domestic/Family Violence National Domestic Violence Hotline 24 hour hotline phone: 800.799.SAFE (800.799.7233) www.thehotline.org who they help: victims, survivors, family, parents, friends, offenders, community leaders. A resource to anyone who may have concerns about relationship being unhealthy or abusive, and it does not matter whether they are dating or married, living together or not. sounds like your mom is just abusive and controlling, and the fact that you and your dad have moved in with her has given her the opportunity to be up to old tricks I think that likely the best thing to do is to just get away from her as soon as you can
maybe your mom has a point. maybe you have some good points. its hard to give advice on these large issues since we'll never know we are not in those shoes. shounds like your mom just needs space from a toxic situation. we all know who we can and cant handle being around us. sounds liek some boundaries need to be set
