i've been in the middle of a LOT of these "he said, she said" situations. personally i think people aughtta chill the hell out and try to figure out what they hell they're doing to make it better instead of winning the argument. there's no victory when children get hurt.
I am a hard core drug addict, but its my mom who does the beating sucks, I'll be totally strung out and just needing to get a fix, and then my mom will make me go to my room..then what, what can i do then?
i dunno, i don't think i believe in innocent parties anymore, at all, ever. that includes every anonymous person i meet on the internet.
As someone who has been there (EX-fucking-ZACTLY there) I can give you two vital pieces of advice: 1. Raise your son. He's the only one in the story who is important. 2. Pay attention next time (and there WILL be a next time).
precisely. if it's not her, it's him, if it's not him, it's her. and around and around and around. no one TALKS to each other, they blame the other and make assumptions about the other and extrapolate whatever makes them feel like they're on the high road while in the meantime there's a little kid in the middle.
nah, i've seen too many groundless accusations flung in the middle of a custody dispute that have no bearing in reality. unless i see actual police reports and evidence, i'm not inclined to buy hearsay or random accusations. i have two brothers who lost custody of their daughters for just such bullshit and i have no patience or belief in people anymore. in both situations the mother was a controlling, manipulative, wealthy whack job incapable of seeing their own flaws and culpability. and to think they were once my friends.
*cough* Ummm...not to be a bitch or anything, but is it REALLY that good of an idea to come to the forum that said mother is already a regular at to bitch about her?
I'm with KC a bit on this one. If things were going wrong, it couldn't have been entirely her fault. In fact, NO ONE is at fault for anything, things just happened that way. Personally, I think we should not worry about who's to blame, rather, work out the situation at hand. Someone above mentioned to raise your child because it is he the only one that matters. Correct and Incorrect. Obviously, you matter to your son. But even as you mentioned, your son shouldn't have anything to do with this so try and raise him the best you can. And..... you probably WILL win custody due to your Ex-Wife's hookups and experiences over the past year and a half. Much luck to you bro. Peace and Love, John.
if you've got the evidence, no hearsay, and if she's really as messed up as you say she is (which, after talking to her, i doubt it) then the child's welfare comes first. so far as i can tell, she wants her child, but NOTHING to do with you. you guys will have to figure out some way for a healthy relationship fo ryour child's sake. you guys aren't the first to split up, and i know for a fact that the ex relationship can be a very healthy thing when the mutual love of a child is concerned. but unlike your ex, who's merely upset that you're in her space and making her uncomfortable in a settin where she's found friends, you're airing dirty laundry and playing the saint. i find the two things to be mutually exclusive. you're the one looking awful here. especially since you have neither proof nor a blank slate to speak to.