Glad i found Hip Forums. Simple question here: My wifes best friend of 6 years just broke up the friendship, because i wouldn't have sex with her. My wife was gone for 3 days, so she calls and props me. Na, i cant do that to my wife of 25 years. Then she ends the friendship, told me that if i would do her, then she will get back with my wife. Shes not bad looking. 2 questions: 1. Would you. 2. If not, would you say anything to wife?
No. Yes. The real question is....do you think it would be worth possibly throwing away a 25 year marriage with your wife?
That's fucking ridiculous. 1. No way in hell. 2. I don't know. Would it do any good? Or would it just hurt her more? It's not like you have a guilty conscience, you haven't done anything that you need to come clean on. If this woman is just walking away for good, well, it might just hurt your wife more to know. On the other hand, if this woman gets pissed that you're not reacting and starts telling your wife lies (that you came on to her, even), then you'll wish you had told her now because after being confronted with the lies makes you look like you were hiding something... Tough call.
I don't even know why I am bothering to post to this but: No, if you weren't considering it before what the hell difference would her freindship with your wife make? Yes, I would tell before it comes back to bite you later.
Ok, well based on the overwelling majority opinion, i am going to tell my wife. With the first question, i was just curious if i was an oddball for not doing it, now i realize that i did the right thing there. Now, thank you all, i realize that i have to tell my wife about it. Sure appericate the advice everyone, thank you!
1. of course not, unless you like black-mailed sex, although it sound of course very flattering. 2. If you think you have a strong trust with your wife in those matters, tell her of course. Neither you nor your wife need that girl friend. Not sure about 2 above then: You phone that lady while your wife is beside you, push (cleverly) that lady to tell you again what you mentioned to us, let your wife hear that but do not let her say anything to that woman. You never know what a rejected woman can do, and clearly she does not care about your marriage, or maybe trying to destroy it. PS. how old is your wife, and how old is that woman.
Told the wife, she believes me completely. What i didnt know about her "friend" was that over the 6 years, she has had at least 8 lovers. Wife told me that she expected something like that to happen, just a matter of time. Said she trusted me to say no. The friendship is over now, and I got mega brownie points for telling her, not just saying no. Thanks again for the advice everybody. Now, off to a 3 day weekend of romancing the right woman (after the Thanksgiving feast):dance:
