Would You Ever Cheat On Your Partner To Experience Sex With Someone Else?

If you had the oppurtunity to have sex with another person (even if you are married or have already have a partner) to experience or to give / recieve different sexual acts - would you ?

Yes, I would - because I don't get to try them with my wife as she has so many 'issues' & has too many old fashioned ideas regarding sex acts. (She seems to live in the 19th century at times)
There are different things I would love to experience sexually & physically that my only chance of them happening, would be with someone else who is just as open minded about sex as me. My wife & I (married for nearly 29 yrs now) are more like just 2 people who share the same house & bed & not much at all physically either. I go to kiss her most nights & she just turns her head to recieve it on her cheek instead. Now I'm just sharing a bed with a boring person who can't even be bothered to kiss me!
So if I got the chance to have an affair with another woman - preferrably younger - I would go for it & hopefully get to enjoy more physical effection & satisfying sex !
No wonder I flirt with other woman while I'm at work! Even some of my workmates (woman) give me more physical effection & than my wife does with me!

 

Geez, man, show some class and divorce her if that's how you feel about her. Boredom is not an excuse for cheating.

 

Seriously, there are so many other options than cheating.

 

You need to get a divorce!!

 

No

 

Agree with the get a divorce! Why spend your life with someone that doesn't make you happy at all?

 

I can see why your wife is not giving you affection. Try to explain how you feel, if not move along, nobody deserves to have a "significant other" that would say these things behind their backs.

 

Of course, everyone is going to say get a divorce. It`s the PC, conflict-avoiding thing to do.

What they don`t say is that you`ll either be wallowing in lengthy periods of celibacy, or paying a prostitute, or putting A LOT of time and effort trying to work another chick into the same kind of boring relationship you`re in now.

That`s why I don`t condemn cheating. It`s a little like condemning stealing when all gainful work is unavailable.

I`ve chosen not to cheat basically because cheating seems to be more work than paying for a hooker; and I`m lucky enough to be able to afford one. But, I totally get why men cheat. Men are basically trained and pressured into cheating. And, likewise, men are punished for being honest and straight forward about their desires.

It`s hypocritical to condemn cheating until sex isn`t made into a bargaining chip against men.

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Edit: I should add, to be fair that, from women`s perspective, slut-shaming by men also has to stop if people truly want to stop cheating, rather than just pay lip-service to it. Keeping in mind that slut-shaming is also very much a female-on-female crime.

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Edit2: And that`s if, and only if, your wife isn`t cheating on you.

 

Actually women cheat just as much if not more than men. The difference it they are better at hiding it, and justifying it. I think that cheating sometimes happens due to a lot of factors. It's easy to say divorce, but when you love the person, have a history with them, and kids, then sometimes cheating seems the better option.

 

Mathematically they do. It takes a man and a woman to have straight sex.

They are at the very least complicit. But, reality is even more fucked up than that. Reality is women actively seek men in committed relationships and treat single men with utter scorn.

 

I'm calling bullshit on the last 1,2,3 posts. Generalizations, much?

Like I said there are options...it doesn't have to be divorce, but frankly if you think plotting to go behind someone's back and posting as the OP did is love, I feel sad for you...it's comfort, security and cowardice. Not to say that makes you a horrible person or anything. We all have weak spots and series of progressions in our personalities and lifestyles, but cheating, no matter how common is never going to be something done out of love. It cannot be justified...it is something done of out weakness.

If your wife is so against sex, maybe she wouldn't mind if you had sex with someone else, I doubt she'll be as open to the idea if she finds out after it has already happened. If she is so restricted, maybe she would like to be more liberated...if it matters to you, find a way to help her open up to that, if she's interested. Be honest, write a fricking letter or an email, but don't go behind someone's back and claim it's justified. Or like everyone else said, leave her...

 

Thanks for all your comments.
Oneday a few months ago, I asked her if she would like to try & seduce me for a change by removing all my clothing for a start. We were alone at home (a rare moment) & it was a nice warm day. She couldn't even bring herself to remove my underwear (fail!) & I ended up having to do it all instead. I then removed all her clothing & we lay on the bed completely nude. She then just questioning me about the sex toys I were using on her. She prefers the natural things (penis) & has issues about sextoys & that they are not needed. I used a small vibrator on her in various places & managed to arouse her. But I find them more enjoyable to use first on her than a penis - well for a start anyway. Because I work till about midnight at my workplace, coming home & if I'm in the mood to have sex, is now just too much for her to do handle even if she's still awake. She just seems to find excuses most times & I now just go to bed at night & don't even kiss her. It's now at the stage that we don't even say good night to each other & eventually just go to sleep.
If anyone was to ask me how my love life is ---------- I'd tell them I don't have one!
We have got to the stage where sex is very rare - once or sometimes not even monthly & to much effort for her. She puts more energy into socialising with old people than on me & I get more effection / touching from some of my female workmates than from her. Do I still love her like I did when we got married nearly 29 yrs ago - no.
She always has more negative things to say about daily life than ever before & because she doesn't even kiss me daily anymore - I spend more time looking at other woman & hoping one will flirt with me more than I'd dream about. I even seem to enjoy other interests, as I know they are there for my pleasure more than my wife can give me now. She rarely kisses me on the mouth & turns her face to one side if I go to kiss her. What does that tell you??????
All my brothers & sister all had much shorter marriages than us & now mine' s heading down that way too! We are more like 2 individuals living together than a married couple & with our 2 adult kids. If only I could just take her to the bedroom at some stage & get her completely nude & seduce her & have no negative comments coming from her - I wish!
I'm 52 & she's near 55 - do all women loose interest in intimate times at that age or just some?

 

Seriously sounds to me like you need to communicate more, and if that not possible with just the two of you, seek counseling to help you communicate. If one or the other of you is not willing to go do that, than why are you still in a relationship.

If nothing else make sure there are not problems on your side (and with that much fantasizing about your co workers there definitely are things you can work on) and than decide what you need to do.

This really has nothing to do with age. I am 32 and got a divorce because of lack of communication. She just wasn't willing to work on any of it, and held on to anger like it was going out of style.

Wish you luck, hope that helps.

 

Thanks for comments. RE: mid 50's age group- I just wondered if woman loose their interest in sex / physical contact for a certain amount of time or is it just mine?

 

NO WAY!! bad karma all the way, it will be done to you if you do it....that's my thinking anyway. Go to a sex therapist and discuss it. Divorce is too easy in this disposable society..people should try to work things out before devastating children and thinking about instant gratification. There are therapists for these problems.

 

The problem with cheating is not the fact that you want to sleep with other women - given your situation it's understandable. The problem is all the lying and sneaking around that has to go into it. That's not healthy for your marriage or for you.

Why don't you try being honest? Tell her sex is important to you and since you're not getting it at home you're tempted to find it elsewhere.

Best case scenario, it serves as a wake up call. Your wife can't be happy either. her husband finds her boring and old-fashioned. She's probably miserable and sad. Maybe this will help her realize she needs to put some work into your marriage.

Worst case scenario, she leaves you. It doesn't seem like it would cause you much emotional distress, so would it really be that big of a deal?

 

No, I don't think that I would. I can't say that the idea isn't extremely sexy at times; but I am terrified of hurting my love; and I am much more likely to do it in little ways like trying to convince her to be more open, then to risk betraying her trust and breaking her heart.

That being said; I have argued with her about cheating not being so terrible a sin; and that it shouldn't be looked at as the absolute betrayal as it's treated as if it's a moment of weakness or whatnot.

 

Have you ever been cheated?

 

In bed , she's boring when it comes to sex now. She basically doesn't like touching my genitals & if she does, she only just barely touches them in case I cum or she just doesn't like the thought of touching them for some other reason? I'm not infected!
Just imagine if I didn't touch hers - she wouldn't get to have any sexual pleasuring!
She doesn't open up here legs for any foreplay - I normally have to do that. She's always had issues initiating sex - prefers me to do it all the time (which makes it only one sided) - if & now rarely when possible. Once after work one night, I met up with a female workmate who was havin problems with her ex husband harrassing her in different ways she'd told me about. I gave her a kiss on the cheek but she didn't take it the way I expected. I only gave her it to show someone did feel sorry for her - not in a romantic way. She told me she felt uncomfortable with that action & so an apology was made to her from me.
We are good workmates still thou regardless of the past.

 

I'm 52 and I haven't lost interest. I don't imagine that I will for a long, long time.