I'm not very experienced in sexual relationships. I'm 26 years old and I had sex for first time in my life in one and half year ago. I have a lack of information about erection and this lack of information impacted to my life and make me have too many stress. Your help would be appreciated. For first time when I had sex with my girlfriend there were too many mental pressure on me. I was worried to I don't be good. I wanted to compete with past partner of my girlfriend and I was afraid I as a virgin guy don't be as good as that guy with enormous experiences. Also I was afraid if my girlfriend compare me with that guy and think with herself i'm not good. As the first time in my first sexual relationship while I was tried to be an awesome partner I faced something really embarrassing. Oh my god I'm losing my erection when i'm doing this... I started to crying, I was afraid I never can have sex in my life, I was thinking i'm really bad... My girlfriend kindly embraced me and told me to don't worry there is too much stress and pressure on you and she said she is sure that I would't have same problem again. In that moment I made a theory, my theory is "There is something like recovery time, I should not ejaculate at any cost, I must save my erection for my partner". I never had ed in my relation again but my theory really bothers me. I can not forecast when my parents are away and I can invite my girlfriend to my home. Sometimes my parents are home for 6 months and I can not have sex with my girlfriend in this period. With my theory ejaculation is like a gambling game for me. I fear if I watch something sexy and finally ejaculate and several days later my parents go away and I face ed again because several days earlier I ejaculated with an adult movie. I lived with this gambling theory for one and half year and now I want to know is my theory correct? should I take care about my ejaculation like this and bother my self to don't ejaculate at any cost? Also several hours ago I was watching a porn movie and I finally ejaculated. After that my girlfriend texted me that her parents tomorrow are going away and we can have sex there tomorrow. I had an orgasm just several hours ago, If my theory are correct then I should face an ed tomorrow. If that's true I prefer to not doing this at all and prevent to that embarrassing moment occur again. What will happen tomorrow? Will I face an ed? Or my theory is just a myth?
Sorry, i forgot to update this ) I met my gf and we had sex for two rounds without any sign of ed. Hence masturbation a day before sex wont cause ed. Thats all I needed to know.
Agreed masturbation does not have anything to do with ed --- as a matter of fact knowing yourself and what turns you on enhances the one on one experience. The need to ejaculate is not the reason in my opinion as the act of sex with my partner is to please them not myself - to service them. This is what turns me on. Masturbation has resulted in positive effects for me as prostate cancer surviver with a damage spinal cord. Without masturbation I would not know myself and what gets me hard and effective. Yes there is a mindset and the mind is far more powerful than physical. As a matter of fact my wife watching me masturbate has helped her know how to massage my body not just my cock to make me extremely hard. In my opinion don't eliminate masturbation - use it as a tool to make yourself better! Cheers and have fun
