Women Are Incapable Of Love.

Note to mods. If you think this isn't gay enough then move it to relationships or random thoughts. But I believe it's a conversation worth having.

 

Lots of women love! I have loved many of the guys I have dated. You can love someone and break up because of differences, but it doesn’t mean you never loved them.
You said it’s too late, why is that?
Everyone has wants and needs and it takes a while to find the right person. Some never find it I supose.
I don’t know you, but Personally, when I meet people, I can often tell why they are single.

 

You're too smart to think like this

And of course doesn't make logical sense, if this was true only rich men would be in relationships but last I checked plenty of blue collar and middle class men have girlfriends and wives. Plenty of scrubby dudes with no job and no ambition also manage to land women but that's a whole other thing

 

(pops in to make a post).......Now It Is.....



Cheers Glen.

 

That depends on the situation, like if he was unable to work because of health reasons, or if he has a job but gets laid off sometimes, then that’s acceptable, but if he has no job because he is a lazy pot smoking bum with no ambition except to sit around and smoke weed everyday and live in a shithole then Nope, that’s not attractive!
The only person that might be attractive to is a female that lives that same life.

 

Being attracted to someone because they have a good job and ambition is not the same as being attracted to money.

No one wants to be with a lazy lay about

 

I know so many women that have divorced their husbands because they are addicted to weed and don’t ever want to do anything and they can’t get hard or stay hard.
That’s another topic tho I guess....

 

Yes I supose they are two different things. I think it depends on so many things tho.
Age being one.

 

I'ma move this.

 

You shouldn't ''worship'' women, that's not love, either, I'm afraid.

You should get in the habit of not worshiping women, because it probably comes across as either desperate or disingenuous. Just trying to help.

 

Yeah well. I'm not asking YOU to marry me lol. I'm processing what you just said, but due to a foggy mind right now will have to come back to you on this one. Thanks for your input haha!

 

haha I know. I'm just saying, I've dated guys who had that kind of ''worship'' thing with women...''all'' women...and it just came across like they thought they were beneath women.

I think that many women are capable of love, but many might be afraid of it. I was once afraid of love, so I might have come across as aloof, etc. But, I was really just afraid.

Never let anyone treat you badly, though...the right woman will treat you right and return the love you give

 

What happened to you is very sad. A good sex life is supposed to cement a relationship, but it is also what so often breaks it. I have never heard of anyone cheating because the woman was a better cook, had a better car or a larger house.
Both Jane and I hate porn and see it as degrading. We talked about it a few months ago and agreed that its attraction was based on the person watching it seeing a DIFFERENT partner every night. Clearly if this is their dream, a monogamous relation will never live up to their expectations and the will drift from partner to partner every time they fancy a change.
I an not suggesting that this was what happened in your case, but it simply highlights how difficult and disappointing life can be at times.
Hopefully, one day the right person will come along and you will find true happiness, but once hurt, trust will always be very difficult.
I have posted on here more than once that friendship can lead to love, but the reverse is rarely true and I truly believe it. Perhaps because Jane and I were friends for more than a year before our relationship developed. We both still see sex as the icing on the cake and neither of us would want to eat icing on it's own.

 

Don't you have a problem with alcohol? That could be an obstacle.

My advice is

1. Clean up from any addictions, get yourself into good physical shape, and generally get your game on. Ultimately you want to find someone that you can connect with on a deeper level, but having some bait in the trap doesn't hurt.

2. Don't get trapped by a lot of negative self-talk. There's about 3.5 billion women or so on the planet...out of those, there's got to be at least one who would be a good match for you, you've just got to find her. You might want to try CBT or other therapy to make sure that your mindset is not undermining your chances of finding love.

3. Put yourself in situations where you can find a partner

Good luck mate!

 

I'm sure it's pretty clear that I'm not seriously suggesting that Women per se are incapable of love. I was just going through an anti moment and wanted to vent my spleen towards the fairer sex.

That said, I do feel many Women have become overly picky lately, this encouraged by the media and suchlike.

I quit alcohol for three months but what with Christmas I inevitably caved in. I need to work on that. I know I need to get my act together. I plan to start going to the gym soon.

I can be pretty self-critical, but underneath I think I'm an okay guy and have good things to offer. I don't want CBT or therapy, thanks. Been there done that.

I am starting to go regularly to venues where I'm likely to bump into the same females over time, and with a positive, consistent and open attitude.

Thanks for your encouragement.

 

Show me the money!



If you want any chance with me you gotta pay up! I'll even take food stamps boys.

 

Oh, dear, God

 

....Or......he'll just get a sore bumhole

 

I was kinda angry when I posted that. My last two go-arounds with women weren't that great. Both were either unemployed or underemployed and were looking for a home for them and their children (of multiple fathers, only one of whom was paying child support.) I still feel sorry for them but I also feel kinda used. I'm not a goddamn lifeboat...I'd like an equal partner.

Of course I'll take my part of the blame also. I waited too long to find someone and now all the good ones are taken. At the time I thought I was doing the responsible thing by staying out of a serious relationship, but a lot of it had to do with me wanting to continue partying like I was still 21. Only now I'm paying the price. Oh well, there are worse things than being single, such as being in a loveless or abusive relationship. At least I've avoided that.