Hi everyone In the bedroom myself(30) and my loyal gf(25) have fantasised about her sleeping with other men-im sure she plays along for my benefit but it turns me on extremly and she notices this and quizzes me about it, I feel embarressed so I tell her its just a fantasy and that I would never desire it to happen which she replies "I would do it for you if thats what you want but you must know its only for you" or words to that effect but I say no no-again due to embarressment... I have a good friend who comes round my house once a week and we hang out, he is 30 and not been in a relationship for just under a year. Ive noticed the last 5 or 6 times he has visited how much he looks at my gf-undressing her with his eyes. It dawned upon me to maybe try and get something going on between him and her. Ive mentioned to my gf that I think he is checking her out but she denied it and says its all in my head untill recently when she actually noticed, at this point she had a huuuuge grin on her face so I told her that she is sexy and guys are sure to check her out. I've not suggested pairing the two up to anyone, you guys are the 1st- What do you think I should do??? Is this my chance of getting her into the lifestyle of a hotwife?? Any tips on how I can get them flirting without actually saying it in words?? I will be happy to keep you guys updated
:iagree: You're just asking for trouble when you start this with so little up-front planning or pre-set limits. It would be easier to have a 3-way with your friend, with the knowledge that he doesn't fuck your ol' lady unless you are there.
First, make sure you really want to do this, secondly, you might want to just try talking to her about her feelings on really swinging and whatnot first.
she might think you're bringing it up to "test her" ... some women would be a little suspicious as a woman my advice to you is to be more clear about your fantasy and ask if she'd be genuinely interested and make her feel safe to express her true feelings.. this could be something she's curious or really into also but she might be afraid to talk about it. i'd keep the dialogue open with her and until you're both on the same page and willing to move things forward, i would hold off on trying to engage the male friend.
Friend sounds dangerous for a 3some.. go for strangers who are into it and whom you don't meet again.
Hey bammmmmm, you'll get better response on the other forum than on this one, yes you know which one I'm talking about. I've gotten a good amount of hatred from here for posting similar topic/fantasy. Just look up my name and if you have time read the threads I have created starting with the oldest to the newest so you see how things have progressed in a similar style relationship
I'm pretty sure the psychological backing has something to do with old-fashioned male rivalry. By having his woman be the object of desire for other men - he is able to put himself over men.
Eh, it's hard to say whether it does or not. There are quite a bit of hot-wives and swingers out there, and I really haven't heard any horror stories, but it's not like you hear about them often enough to get a clear generalization either..
I've had my object of desire for over 8 years without problems... it all depends on the couple and how honest they are with eachother
I'm sorry, but this is dumb. If you love someone... you want this person for yourself, not to be "used" by someone else. If this kind of situation makes someone "horny" or "happy" ... seek professional help immediately.
