Will it ever happen? (I know this is cliche)

Okay, so...I'm 18 years old. I had fallen madly in love with a girl in 2009 and we dated until September of 2010. She cheated on me 6 different times and left me. And now I feel like I'll never fall in love..never get married...never have kids...or a family..basically never have the future everyone wants. I really feel like no girl wants to be with me. I'm not the greatest looking guy in the world but im not ugly either. But they dont talk to me, look at me, or anything unless theyre taken or just want to be friends. I must have like the plague or something. Since girls wont even give me the time of day...sheesh. All I want is to love and be loved. But apparently, thats too much to ask. I'm starting college in a week so maybe ill fall in love soon...but im highly doubtful...

I will say a suffer some mild depression that is mostly under control..so that probably is one factor in me feeling lonely and sad from time to time.
Unfortunately, I also got the double-whammy curse of being in love with love and also being a scorpio (whom statistically have a harder time finding someone right for them).....F.M.L....

 

18 years old!!!
your whole life is behind you, !
what else could there possibly be???

 

Put yourself out there. Talk to girls you think are cute. You have to make the first move, and do the metaphorical mating dance. It sucks, but unfortunately it's the way of the world. Flirt with them, and let them know you are interested in being more than there friend. But most importantly, be comfortable with yourself. Learn what it is about yourself that makes you a good catch. Once you have this confidence, things will eventually fall into place. Also, try not to get too caught up on this, "No one likes me, I'll never find love" mindset. I get like that sometimes, and it's not very productive at all.

 

all girls are taken, you have to go after them anyway.

i had no idea someone had actually taken the time to do a study on odds of finding love based on your birthday. what a waste of time and money.

 

No, you're problem is you only bother trying to talk to girls out of your league and dont give the time of day to girls that are your ranking


Start with the 2/10s then work your way up till you get friendzoned, then back one step and thats what your ranking is.

Either that or get filthy rich, or a head transplant, they can do that nowadays

 

1. I dont waste my time on the majority of girls here...because..well..I live in redneck central. Most of them want a cowboy and are all stuck-up..so I dont really see many people that are my type here...which leads me too...
2. I will say my location could be a big issue. Considering I live in an extremely small town in a county thats 95% farmland with several other very small towns.

 

lol! That`s right! I don`t think I`ve ever met a genuinely single woman in my life!

 

You are trying too hard, as well. You would scare most girls off with that intensity. Get some hobbies, or play some sports - get some interests in your life that would take your mind off getting a girlfriend all the time. When you get to the stage where having a girlfriend would be a welcome addition to your life versus the all consuming need in your life, you are on the right track!

 

dude college is awesome especially if it's not community college for meeting people. But you got to be on it, don't be down and out when you start just know that this place is full of people like yourself.

Don't go out looking for love, look for friendships and keep them. Follow your interests and you might get friends that are really worth keeping. Don't concern yourself with being "friendzoned" good thing can always be dug out of a friendship.

Be happy, enjoy being single, enjoy the freedom, try a new thing each week, take to strangers. You'll find what you're looking for, and fittingly I am talking as cliche as your problems but it works

you'll meet people you like who won't like you; you'll find her, but in the meantime be the guy you'd like that dream-girl to have.

 

I'm not trying to hard when I hardly talk to girls to begin with. The only ones I talk to are friends or girls I used to date.

 

There's your problem.

 

No, there is their problem. Because the rest scoff at me and ignore me like I have some sort of god-awful disease...when there is nothing wrong with me...I am me.

 

maybe the problem is that you take this personally.

 

This says that you have ZERO self-esteem, even though later on in the thread you pretend you do.... Work on that, most women find such a lack to be a serious character flaw, except of course for the ones who will do such things to you.

roflmao

and there you have it... the heart of your problem... you have let your lack of self-esteem clash with your sense of pride and its fucked your head all up...

Approxiamately 3.5 billion women on this planet, and you have already decided that except for the ones you already know, the rest don't like you.

 

Well, the Cuban ones arent going to want a capitalist pig.

And the Canadian Ones are probably going to find him too exciting

 

Nah man, there are many just like him up here too... lol

 

All the worst relationships start with people who are looking for a relationship. I'm serious. I met my wife, who I am very happy with, while not even thinking about finding a relationship. Work on your life, at college, study what you want to do, get into groups, official or not, that do things you're interested in. This will help in several ways, for one, you'll be around more people, for another girls like a guy that has things going on in his life, at least the kind who want a real relationship do. If you look at dating sites (where the people who can't meet someone are) it's all interests like "I like this show" because those are boring people. You never see a person who's building their own boat, starting a non profit, on a sports team, building a community garden, setting up a new lab at their school, starting a business ect. Even a supposedly lame activity is going to get you much better prospects than trying to meet girls will. Besides, building up your skills and interests in life will make you happier in other ways, in fact, making you cooler so you can get better women is just one benefit.

 

A teenage heartbreak? Your right,there couldn't possibly be anything else in life worth living for after that... Evil will always triumph because good is dumb...

Sounds to me like your trying to hard and caring way to much.

 

This is so true, when I was a teenager I was actually stuck up against people I thought were stuck up. I was friends with skaters, pot heads, goths, and other people who seemed unassuming to me, but I hated the "popular" kids, preppy people, and later as they appeared, hipsters. This is just as bad as hating the people who look scrubby and liking only the well dressed, smart looking ones. They all have some cool stuff to talk about and things to teach you if you're willing to be open minded.

 

1)No one wants to date someone that carries around baggage from past relationships.
2)No one wants to date someone with low self esteem who is convinced no one likes them.
3)No one wants to date someone suffering from depression. People are generally attracted to positive energy and happiness.

Thats three strikes against you, dude. You gotta get your mind right before even thinking about starting a healthy relationship.