So my wife has mentioned adding a third (female) to the bedroom, but doesn't want to add someone that we know. She wants to do it for my pleasure, or so she says -- however, I can't help but to think she gets a little turned on by seeing another good looking woman. My question is, would you rather add someone you already know or someone you may never cross paths with again?
Funny. I came to this forum to learn some things. Ive been asked out by a m/f couple and am interested in other's experiences and what to expect.
Some people are comfortable with including people they know in their sexual activity. Some are only comfortable with people who they wouldn't interact with outside of a sexual relationship. With most people it just isn't happening. Of the threesomes I have been involved with all have been with people I associated with for sex only. No one other than my first sexual partner and my spouse did I have a relationship with outside of sexual activities. A third partner was always added by my sex partner and not myself. I was asked if I would and accepted the offer. Therefore the third was a stranger to me and I preferred it to be this way.
Thats always the best way. Your partner bringing the 3rd. At least for those confident in their situation.
What to look for in a threesome is the potential for jealousy! I was asked by my ex if I would like to do it with a friend of hers I liked the idea because I liked her in the right ways but too worried about my wife, jealous and insecure type. I said no Regrets? Little for not knowing how much fun it could have been No, no interest dealing with the aftermath knowing what would have happened no matter how careful I could have been in how I did it for those who have positive experiences, awesome!
No question that a strong personaluity and security in their choices is important. The women that I end up with are usually a pretty commanding presence(I dont mean dominant).
I've never wanted to hurt a friendship, so essentially our thirds were strangers that we closed vetted. In some cases they became friends, though.
