My wife and I have been married for 18 years. We have been discussion our fantasies and mine is seeing her with another man. Does anyone have experiences they could share? How did you find a man? How did you make sure it was safe for your wife? Etc.
This is a thing I indulged in quite a lot but the reality can be surprisingly complicated. Once it’s happening you might find yourself feeling jealousy. Not uncommon at all. It can be much easier if you are exploring this with a girlfriend. A wife of eighteen years is something to consider carefully.
Very true. We have discussed it a detail. I cannot be 100% sure I won't get jealous, but it something we both are open to and have talked about it in detail. I feel more inclined with my wife that I fully trust. But I do appreciate the advice.
You might try finding a man/woman 1couple first with a common interest in swapping. Having another woman is always reassuring to your wife, even if they don’t play together. What I am trying say is if the girls get along together it really is a more relaxed time. With a MFMF there are so many combinations of play.
Our first time was a long time ago to put it in perspective we found the guy on Craigslist. I suggested the idea to my wife. She thought about it for sometime after my suggestion. We role played in the bedroom with the idea of another guy. It was quite a turn on. Then one night out of the blue after fucking she said “ if you want to see me fuck other guys I’ll do it for you”. My cock got instantly hard again. When the day came we had the guy meet us at a hotel. He was about 10 years younger and had a nice thick cock. Being the first time we agreed he’d fuck her and leave. My perspective I was a mix of emotions excitement, nervous and during anxious and jealous. We fucked after and it was incredible. As time passed the uncertainty passed and got to the point I would hold her pussy open for the other guy. Experienced ranged from me sitting back and watching her get ravaged to DP.
As said earlier, We only play with married couples. We get together with them about once a month. Once we stepped into the swapping lifestyle we never looked back. It’s just fun sex that’s all. No jealousy, no anxiety, Just joy and happiness. We have even held hands while fucking others.
I know all about the mixed emotions, but when my girl did it, it was just sex. I have fond memories and still get excited thinking about it. 50 years later.
Be careful what you wish for. It is a two edged sword! Yes, it is exciting to watch your spouse having sex with another guy, and thoroughly enjoying it. It is also almost like a punch in the gut when you see how much she enjoys it. Fortunately, my arousal Overrode the jealousy and in security, I felt. Conflicting emotions. We had a few MFMs with the same trusted friend. No way would we do it with a stranger!
I have to agree on be careful what you wish for. We did this before we married, she had told me she wanted to try other men. When she did, she made sure it was a well-endowed stud. I always felt it was pay back for her watching me with a couple of other women.
Watching my wife sucking another guy's dick - then writhing under him as he plowed her pussy... made me want to commit murder until I got myself under control and turn to give his woman the attention she was waiting for. I tell guys who are looking to do this to imagine their wife being eaten and fucked by another man and tell me how it feels... and if they think they can be right there as he's fucking her brains out and she's enjoying him... and not like she'd enjoy you. Be careful what you wish for... because you might not like it.
we also started our journey before we were married. We were living together, and our sex life was expanding and great, just the two of us, but we fantasized about MFMs. But you get to the point where she was wondering when I was going to put a ring on her finger. Well I finally did, and it was like we got the green light to include another guy. Not sure what the ring had to do with it, but now that is a moot point. The good thing is that after 28 years she’s still wearing that ring, and it is a nice one if I say so nice myself.
Or we may enjoy the hell out of it! Yeah I had a few anxious moments, but it was worth it to see her let herself go. Our sex. Life was always good, but it would always pick up after a MFM. Then we would have another threesome with our friend! Always great, and then a wrapped up sex life until the next one. Sadly that was long ago, but it is always in my memory banks.
It does take a few of them to fully get... dialed into them. The more intimate part of our first time was talking about it and, yes, mostly about how she felt being with him. She said that he wasn't bad, didn't quite eat her to satisfaction, and his dick was a nice size to suck and to have in her; she said that overall, he was okay. She asked me about his lady - how did she taste, could she suck dick and what did her pussy feel like to me. It was a smoking hot conversation to have and... we got to tearing the bed up. Our next round of group sex was easier on the emotions for both of us.
yeah, our conversations about opening up our relationship were pretty intense. we talked and role played quite a bit before we actually did anything. Initially we had thought about finding a couple to swap with, and we actually found a very attractive experienced marriedcouple about our age…. and they were both bi! we met them for drinks one evening and we seemed to hit it off. it was just a meet and greet, and we had decided beforehand that if we clicked, there would be no sex that first night. Once we met them, I regretted that no sex agreement. I could tell my GF/fiancé was quite attracted to him, as I was to his wife. But on our drive home, she informed me that she did not think she could handle the reality of me having sex with another woman. WTH? at least she was honest with me, better than trying to pick up the pieces after the fact. But that did not stop my partner from having a one nighter with this other wife. Anyway,, we downgraded our expectations to MFMs. Whatever happened to “what is good for the goose, is good for the gander”? Our first threesome was amazing. we didn’t really talk in detail about him. it is not like he had a much bigger cock, but it was constantly hard. I didn’t need to ask her any questions about being with him, because I could tell by her physical responses to him. The next morning she asked if I thought she had acted too “slutty“. I told her not to use the term in a derogatory way. She was just enjoying herself for a couple hours. She sort of blushed and gazed downward. And then we were going at it! All in all a great first time, and we had a few more with him in the following months. I just loved seeing her let herself go and enjoy the sex, and me getting a couple of cream pies and seconds! Like I said that has been years ago….. And memories are all that I have.
Yes; our conversation took months of talking about EVERYTHING she'd been hiding from me, what the rules were going to be, potential consequences, and a mandate for full disclosure at all times and no leaving out any details because good or bad, everything we do from this point forward is going to affect our lives and I meant both of us. The conversations were painful to listen to, not so much what she did and who she did it with but how she felt about it and, well, we made it through this part and set out to individually have sex with... anyone. I made out better in this than she did and she was pretty pissy over the fact that I didn't have to go through the crap she was going through with guys and I had to keep reminding her that I had said that she was going to find out that any guy she thought was going to have feelings for her was lying to her so he could fuck her and dismiss her - and that's what she was experiencing with men. Not so much with women and she had slept with our next-door neighbor and a few other women in our neighborhood - and a woman I not only went to high school with but I had fucked her a few times. You think that seeing your wife with another guy is going to be something you can handle and right up to the moment when he's eating her pussy and driving his dick into her and you see her reacting and behaving to it and, again, like she's never done with you and, that urge to kill is very damned real. But I had to tell myself that this is what we agreed to do and to suck it up and to act like I had sense - and we'll talk about it later. I turned my attention to his wife - my full attention - and while I don't think I was competing with her husband, I was determined to give her a memorable experience with me. He said, during a break, "Man, I'm surprised she let you go down on her! Then, you did her doggy style and she's never let me do that!" and, yeah, I think we both had some surprises and he had admitted to wanting to punch me in the face because his wife was calling out my name when I had my face buried in her pussy. A whole lot of lessons learned, understood, and accepted.
