Wife sharing

Question, My wife and I have discussed having a mfm threesome where I am an active participant, How is that classified, wife sharing, hotwifing.
Secondly to find a second male I am thinking that hooking up at a bar with a random guy might be the easiest. No expectations

 

I have a fb who I know for years. She is bi and we have had several mff experiences and she has several fbs of her own. One day we were discussing having a guy join us and the question became how do we meet someone. Unlike our threesome female partners she didn’t want anything close to home so to speak so we decided to get a hotel room and basically did what you are thinking. We went to dinner and then sat at the bar and we were lucky because a guy sat next to her and over a little bit of time the conversation turned to sex. He knew I was with her but we explained we were friends and then very discreetly she told him our thoughts. Surprised that he said yes so quickly. He was actually staying at the hotel so we went to our room and I sat in a chair as they started to kiss a bit and then she started to massage his pants as he started to massage her tits. She is 61, 5’4, 34b with jet black hair and a swimmer toned build. Next was her sucking his cock, then he ate her out, I undressed and while he fucked her she blew me. He came a little faster than we expected but after he recovered we did dp which is what she really wanted. I exploded in her ass and she finished him with a blow job. Keep us posted but the bar and hotel is the preferred method of discretion not close to home.

 

We have been discussing it for about a year, she is concerned it might damage our marriage which is very strong. She knows I want to but I think she is scared.
I think the bar would work, My wife is 53, but looks a lot younger and has a great body. She often attracts attention from younger guys which is what we would be after.
I love that play of yours.

 

You might consider going to a clothing optional resort. We are not presently looking for a third, but do play with other couples. Anything is possible with a likeminded couple. We swap and play in different arrangements, along with MFM, FMF,
Make it fun, but first make it her idea. Don’t push her and continue to reassure her that your marriage and relationship will endure.
We play with others to enhance our marriage, “Not replace it”. We’re so glad we do this in our life.

 

I agree that younger is better because it also takes away from a risk of meeting someone who may decide to be more than just a toy. With our tryst he was 38 which was perfect. Her female encounters have been from about 30 to our age.Kinda funny because in our situation he came rather quickly but it could have been because of the way we met and the surprise for him. For the second round he was able to stay hard longer

 

I reckon we would aim at the 30 to 40 range, that way we are all there just to have fun. I
Ike that bar/club idea as there are no expectations on anyway. If we find someone so be it if we don’t bad luck we just have fun

 

When my wife finally agreed to playing, we were in our late 30s to early 40s. The bar scene was a no go. She had to know him and be comfortable. When my college buddy came to town he fit the bill. Several MFMs over the next 6 months and all were incredible. So hot watching your wife orgasm from a different perspective. And between the two of us she came A LOT. Probably half dozen times each night. Unfortunately those times were long ago. Decided to have a baby so no more pill or risky pregnancy sex with him.

 

I do get the feeling comfortable with him, we live in a small town so I really don't think we would play locally. we would probably go to our capital city. Maybe we could organize something online first. but then there are expectations on her

 

For what it’s worth. Don’t push her. Don’t continuously talk about it. If she sees you are obsessed with swapping, she will pull back. We found in our relationship that if you let thing develop organically, it is so much more enriching.
Honestly, It took us two years before a swap ever happened. In those two years we ask a ton of questions to couples in the lifestyle. We are members of a lifestyle resort, and we learn from them.They did not push us to swap, it was our choice.
Don’t expect to find the perfect MFM the first time out. But, do demand mutual respect. We only play with couples, so doing MFM or FMF is always a option for play. We only play with 2-3 other couples in our inner circle, about once a month and that is plenty for us, and we enjoy our time with them. Now we look forward to seeing them and they have become good friends. Safer that way to!
Question: Is your wife still able to conceive? This may be holding her back too. Condoms, the pill, and vasectomy are a must when playing with others.
No way would my wife play, if she could get pregnant from another man.

 

It took 7 month for my wife and I to find a "candidate" too fuck her. From the day she asked me what my answer would be if she said she wanted to have sex with another man.. (OC it was YES!!) too the day the man that has been my wife lover for 3 years fingered my wife in a hot tub for the very first time...

Don't go for a random dude in a bar, let her decide and pick one she likes. And you like, don't forget that. It is a pain in the ass to get your wife fucked by someone you dislike.. It has to be someone she and you like... The reason for that is that most women must like and at least know the male they are going too fuck a little, if she is not drunk thou...So don't rush it, take your time finding your candidate, even if it takes some time..

My only complaint with my wife's lover was that he was 15 years older than my wife.. (She likes older men, I'm 8 years older than my wife soo...) But I respected my wife's judgement on it and let her sleep with her lover alone for 3 nights at his place, that was her demands, to get too know her lover. The other demand she had was that I could not have sex with her 3 nights before she slept over with her lover (she wanted too be "clean" for her lover)... So you can imagine how horny I was when she came back too me the next morning with a huge cream pie in her pussy and ass...

My wife can not conceive, so that was not an issue for us to let her fuck her lover bare. Besides I just love my wife with a fresh cream pie...

 

They get a bad reputation but you might want to find a third from an online app/site (feeld, etc.). Yes, there's a lot of flakes but you and your wife can cull through a myriad of options to find a partner who fits your bill. A couple looking for a third guy in a threesome will draw a lot of interest. It also gives the space to ask for and get verification of sti status, which you aren't likely to get from a dude in a bar. If you do find a match, consider a 'temperature check' date over coffee/dinner to make sure that people look in real life as they seem online. Anybody worth sharing your wife with should happily agree to such a meet with no expectations of sex.

 

I like this idea, from previous comments my wife would chose the man. the way I see it, its more about her than me. I like the idea of a meet well before any play. people can seem totally different online to what they actually are. There would be no play without me being active in the play, its not a cuckold situation.

 

I have responded to a similar question, but for those that haven't read it I will add a reply. Like a lot of blokes I wanted to watch my wife with another hung guy. At the time we were having lots of sex, once or twice a day though the week and some long sessions at weekends, often I would add the comment as we neared climax of "wouldn't you like for so-and-so to be fucking you with his big cock" always someone local we new. Eventually she joined in by adding her own possible stud. After this period of playing with a potential stud as a third player, over a year, she suddenly agreed to "Play" but under her rules these were 1) it had to be someone she did not know. 2) she wanted no part in the selection process, as I had mentioned advertising 3) anyone chosen had to use a condom. I then advertised with a picture of her nude, on the beach, in silhouette. I received nearly 200 replies! I narrowed them down to 5 possibles and eventually chose a businessman who visited our town on a regular basis. He had a huge 9" cut cock, was married and also was the ugliest of the possibles! He turned out to be an excellent third player always willing to please and never to "pushy" like myself he could repeat and our sessions usually lasted 3 to 4 hours. We did everything a mfm could do and these visits lasted 18 months and then he moved abroad, such a pity because these trysts were just so erotic, We struck it lucky our stud was excellent at massage and oral and literally tried to please us both. He also showered my wife with gifts. She also surprised me in her ability to enjoy something she did not want to do! I have never forgotten her screams of delight as he pounded her hard and fast. After it was finished my wife commented, "you have had your fun, I enjoyed it too, but I do not want to repeat this again" bugger, I think she was so worried about being found out in our small town. And she would never have felt comfortable in a bar pick-up situation.

 

Ray Roberts, like your story. Most guys do need to know it takes more than a big dick. For my wife she always claimed the first guy she hooked up with, was better than any others she tried. Sounds like your guy tried to please your wife, and that's what it's all about. As for him being ugly don't know what my wife would have thought of that, but I'm sure if she seen his 9 inches, she would have said; he's not so ugly after all.

 

I am ecstatic, my wife has agreed to a mfm threesome. Now it's just a matter of taking our time and planning our play.

 

do you have the other man picked out?

 

No. That will be the next process, been looking at what good apps there are

 

Finding the right guy is the hard part. When we first agreed to go down that path, we initially thought about trying a swingers club, or an upscale bar in town that seem to cater to traveling businessman. We cruised around adult friend finder just for the heck of it. it was fun, but neither one of us were thrilled with the idea of a complete stranger having sex with us. I think if you were into swapping with another couple, you’d have better results. It was frustrating, but eventually a good college buddy, who lives a few hundred miles away Had previously come to town and met my fiancé. They both seemed to really like each other, but nothing happened that weekend. About a month later I get an email from him, saying that he is coming to town for a couple nights. I asked my fiancé what she thought about asking him to join us? She just grinned yes! Wow!
I emailed him back, said something to the effect that we were looking forward to seeing him….. and would he have any interest in having a MFM with us? Almost immediately, he replied, YES! The anticipation during the next couple of weeks was excruciating. We took him to dinner along with a glass of wine, and went back to our house. Once we got started, it was fantastic. my fiancé, really got into having two man pleasing her. I knew it helped that she was comfortable with him, he was clean and safe, she was on the pill, so no pesky condoms. After a couple hours of great sex, he was making his way to leave, and she surprised me when she asked him to come back again the following evening. So we did it again, same results. we got married a couple months later, and had two more subsequent MFMs with him, whenever our paths crossed. we were lucky that he was a very passionate and considerate lover for her. If you do find someone, just remember to keep your emotions in check. If you are like me, mine were all over the place. Arousal, butting heads with jealousy. And make sure you reclaim your wife Once the other man is gone.
I wish you luck!

 

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