Has your wife ever made that suggestion to you? My wife understands that we all masturbate, or have. Its natural and has never been an issue with her. She didn't like porn in the past but the internet changed everything. We have both looked at porn , alone and together and she never had a problem with it. Fast forward to our 70s, while granny is done with sex for herself,except for the rare strapon encounters, if I asked for a little fooling around , she tells me to "Go look at porn and just jerk off". I took her up on her suggestion more times than she can imagine.This time she has caught me ,hard cock in hand, on the computer and said she wanted to watch me and what I was looking at. It wasn't long before the excitement level built and my hand was dripping with my cum. She still like to watch when I cum, especially all over my self.
My wife told me to masturbate a couple of days ago! But she has never suggested that I look at porn, and most likely never will.
Obviously my wife knows I do, but she would rather I do it with her beside me. Not that she is upset at all without her, but prefers I do it with her. Sometimes she will just lay with her head on my chest, sometimes she is in the mood to assist by rubbing my legs/chest. My favorite is when she wants to do mutual, which isn't super often anymore.
My wife is done with sex and would love it if I just looked at porn and jerked off. But we came to a friends agreement a long while back so as much as I like online porn....as well as posts, PM's and pics from here, I also get real life fun from time to time. It all works.
My first wife, when we were going through a tough patch, brushed me off by telling me to just pull myself. I found it very demeaning.