Wife has offered up a threesome with her girlfriend

My wife and I have been married since 2019, but have been with each other since 2016. Both of us have been faithful to each other this entire time. That being said, we have had difficulty in our relationship the past year. I lost my job and the business venture I tried to start was not the success I had hoped for, so I became quite depressed. We still had a sexual relationship, but it became a routine. Not a chore or without love, but if I had to describe it, the term we both used was vanilla.

Unbeknown to me, my wife started talking about our problems to her girlfriend, whom we have had over with her kids and my wife's kids for social gatherings. This is her closest friend, who is single and has had many difficulties finding a man that she can tolerate, let alone trust. My wife divulged to me quite a while back (prior to the last difficult year), that her friend had a crush on me and wanted to find someone like me. Unfortunately, for her, she has not had any luck. Prior to my birthday this past year, my wife offered her an invitation to join us for sex. However, due to logistical issues, as well as we were having other marital difficulties that had to be dealt with first, my wife put this offer on hold.

Fortunately, I was able to find another great job, but had to relocate 2000 miles away. My wife will be moving down at the end of the year, but will be flying out for a few days in December, to visit me. She just divulged to me these conversations she has had with her girlfriend and floated the idea with me to have her fly down here to join us at the hotel.

I'm a guy, so this is obviously one of my fantasies. But my concern is for my wife, who will be sharing me with another woman. We have spoke at great lengths about it and she said that she is more comfortable doing something like this with a friend she can trust. Her friend is really excited about it, as am I, but I suggested that she and her have a discussion about what limits she may have. Has anyone here encountered something of this nature? If so, are there any other suggestions you could offer to help me safeguard my wife's mental state through this? I've never done this and I adore my wife. Any experiences you all can share would be greatly appreciated!

 

Sounds like something I would enjoy too! That being said I would just let the wife call all the shots. Even just having another woman in the room should be good enough for most.

 

Right!

 

We have had numerous experiences with other women and couples. If you have depicted everything accurately we would say you are definitely on the right track and have the right mentality. You are being cautious and don't want to wreck your marriage. Your description makes it sound like this is mostly the idea of your wife and her friend. If these things are all correct and you let your wife know that you are following her lead and your relationship with her is the top priority then you are all green light.

 

I don't understand the first fuckin thing about women or any of this lifesyle stuff that women do that some make work flawlessly and others let it ruin their lives. I've brought the subject up with my first and third wives who were considered MILFs by the younger guys and somewhat of a slut besides, both having had numerous sexual relationships and a marriage or two and it was either shot down before it got out of the barrel, or in one of the cases with the first it was discussed in depth and disected to small pieces trying to cover all the aspects before deciding and at the last minute before the actual planning phase shot it down again. And then there was the upper middle aged couple who contacted me from my social media dating profile and were fishing for other males to see if they could find a suitable one for sharing his wife with in a motel some weekend. I talked to the husband a dozen times about the subject over the phone as they began making plans to meet halfway at a motel to reduce the travel time and axiety. And when the final plans were about to come together and the details were coming into our heads and the time I was supposed to arrive there He'd told me on the phone how she learned a lot about the alternative lifestyles and such.And the husband finally told me his wife was going to handle his end of the deal with the planning phase and financial part, and if she and I needed to chat about any more details he gave me his wifes number.Suddenly I began to get texts and phone calls from his wife about how excited she was and was out shopping for new clothes and sexy lingerie for the occasion and Blah blah blah. The husband left the final phase and details to her and I. Then the day before I was to leave to drive halfway to our sexual threeway motel the husband began texting me with an attitude and being hateful about how he was starting to feel left out of the picture and that he was jealous of her and I talking so much and leaving him out of it. Mind you, this was the same husband who'd contacted me and discussed the general plans of meeting 150 miles each direction to share his wife with me all weekend. . WTF? I blocked them both and never spoke of it again.