Wife cheated in the past?

Wife and I are happily married now, 16 yrs.
The first few years were rocky and we almost threw in the towel.
There was a stretch where I am convinced she was doing another guy. He was in the same social circle.
She was away a lot of time and whenever he was around she would hang all over him.
Anyway, I never confronted her as it died off on its own it seemed.
I am not upset now but, wonder if I should bring it up? I am more curious than anything.
Then again, it may not be the best idea.
Any advice?

 

My Advice Would Be......."Put A Sock In It".......



Cheers Glen.

 

things like that I have to ask..Or drive me nuts I need get it out.If can t talk to my wife than >> >But thats me,,

 

Unless you still suspect her playing away then I wouldn't rock the boat. Instead you could ask if she is happy in the relationship with you . If she isn't then perhaps that is something you could work on together and put it right. If she is then you know everything is fine .Either way it may stop her from straying again in the future. A relationship is like an investment, the more you both put into it the more you both will get out of it.

 

the only way for you to be even is for you to have sex with that same guy.

 

If my husband asked me - I would lie to the death.

My advice, don't go poking a stick in that particular hornet's nest, you'll likely get stung.

So. You may ask but she may not be honest. But by asking, you're sending the message that you think she's been hiding something and even if you aren't particularly trying to stir up trouble, you likely will.

just sayin'

 

If I couldn't ask my husband about that after sixteen years I'd wonder what the hell marriage even means

 

yes I fucked your wife....we all did


do not bring it up ever

 

If you don't bring it up I will. I'm about to text her.

 

She cheated in college when we were dating, but she dumped all of them for me. So I guess it worked out since we've been married a long time.

 

"So, I'm wondering if I should ruin that happiness by possibly bringing up something that may or may not have happened 16 years ago"

 

She been n00t'n with others.

 

don't ask, don't tell...ever

 

"N00t'n", ha! I like that.

 

Especially when it comes to n00t'n!

 

Man I feel you tho.
My wife actually cheated once early on.
Years later, There was a specific other time that I think my wife cheated.
I confronted her back then and she brushed it off. It started gnawing at me much later and I asked about it again. There was this uncomfortable moment when I think she was gonna tell me, but she was asking me about shit I did...it’s like she was waiting for me to fess up to something and then she might have let that drop. I didn’t budge and neither did she , not that I had anything to cough up.
It’s dangerous to let your mind go there. It’s so hard to let go. You can get lost in it. Sometimes it’s almost a sick obsession of mine, I wonder and I imagine and I want to know details....whew

 

Yeah, I think I'll let this rest. Not worth the risk.
Things have been going well.

I think back then the other guy’s wife may have stepped in. About that time all of a sudden I heard they were moving away to the next state.
Things seemed to cool off.
Found out later they never moved after all.

 

I think your doing the right thing . If there was something wrong I would like to think that you would know about it and have fixed it.by now.

 

Sorry but, my GF before my wife cheated on me and did-in the relationship so I was sensitized.

Funny but, my old GF has been pinging me on FB thelast year. Seems the guy she picked is not so much fun.

 

That smacks of "Grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence "