Why is it so difficult for a Male to give a Female an Orgasm??

Why is it so difficult for a male to give a female an orgasm? I've came across many women who have said that they have never climaxed sexually, why is this? And what are the men doing wrong?

Ladies let the men know what they are not doing...keep it clean. Men take notes.

 

I've already passed this class.

 

So let me guess, you are about 60 years old, right?

 

Why are you so defensive?

 

I'm not defensive, I just asked a question? Did my question bother you?

 

Nope

 

I've only had problems orgasming when I didn't care for the person I was with. When there was never a connection there...otherwise, I never have a problem orgasming...

*shrugs*

It's all in your mind.

 

It isn't............its fun and easy if you enjoy what you're doing. I know I can, and how! Difficult? You make it sound like calculating census figures.........lol

 

Pointers, take or leave, just my view:

1. Do not expect anything for yourself.
2. Make her coming your goal.
3. Be soft and gentle, go slow, kiss, caress, lick, all over her.
4. Put off touching her muff as long as possible, tease a bit.
5. Eyes........
6. Try not to come, you can go for hours with practice.
7. Ask to do things, "Can I go down?", etc.
8. Use fingers, tongue, nose on her muff, variety.
9. When lovemaking, be unpredictable, slow, fast, stop, side to side.
10. If you are getting close to popping, say you want to try a different position, try lots of positions.
11. Read up on G spot location,
12. Tell her you want to make her come.
13. If you don't come, no worries, stay happy, stay cozy, cuddle.

nuff sed, and if she comes for real, you'll know its no fake........

 

Blackgaurd you are brilliant i tottaly agree

 

GAH

Double post sorry

 

BrownTripleQQ, I've noticed the threads you're starting are kinda...i dunno, a little mean i guess, towards guys...maybe there's more to your line of questioning than just curiosity.

 

If the object is to make the woman cum, then Michael's right. I've been with boys both who tell me they love me etc., but I didn't feel anything with the guy who turned out to have cheated on me, whereas I feel the opposite when I'm with the one who does care about me.

"Passion and love means, you care about what is going on inside of her brain."
Whilst I agree with this, I think it is only partly true. Balance is the key. There are men that think only about Boobs, there are men that think only about minds, and there are men that think only of themselves... exaggeration to emphasize.
It is when it is all cared about. Be passionate and loving. If you like her boobs, show her how much you like them. But balance it. How she's feeling, mind, body (and spirit if you're 'into' that or have remote understanding). Care for yourself as well and you're all set.

 

Just maintain some pressure on my clit either with your tounge or your fingers, and move around in a circular motion. Somtimes I like it hard, sometimes I like it very soft, you'll know how I feel by how I moan.

Just experiment down there, and ask questions if you need too.

 

BlackGaurd's got it pretty much right. The only thing I would tweak personally is the variety thing. Yes, during forplay, variety is massivly important. It's spicy, it's exciting, it's new. But when it comes to actually achieving orgasm, changing it up just messes it up. If you want her to come, listen to how she's reacting. When I get close I actually tend to quiet down, focus, something he's doing is just working, and I hold my breath in anticipation. But if he stops, changes it, and does something else. I've lost it. Variety at first, consistancy at the end. At least for me.

 

Women are all made differently. You can't say one thing and apply it to the female race as a whole. So, I'm saying, don't take the advice of everyone, take the advice of the ONE. Only she knows what makes her pop. If you are in it for love, you should have nothing against asking "what is it I can do for you", if it's not love then you won't feel to ask this and you'll never know what does it for her.
I take it the person that started this thread is interested in her! Ask her, like I said, each woman is different, to get her off it may take bananas and oranges, whips and chains. It's all in the excitement and the attention you pay to detail.

 

bravo!! You hit it right on the head..all women ( and men ) are a little different and what rocks one persons world may do nothing for another. know your partner...ask them what they like...be interested in THEM and not just blowing your load. If that is too much to ask, you don't deserve to be with them.

 

Exactly! Most guys think of it as a chore to try an make a girl Orgasm.
BUT, lately,
Listening to my guy mates talk about sex and comparing themselves with other guys when it came to making a chick orgasm has given me a different view on how lazy a guy can be in bed.
They actually dont think the sex is good untill the girl has orgasmned(sp). I think thats SO kool. So if they cum before her, then they'll find other ways to please her. Why cant every guy be like that?

 

well said.

 

Hahahaha bananas and oranges...damn that'd be interesting