Why give out your number if your not gonna talk??

SO I met this groovy chic at the bar about a month or so ago. We started talkin about music and shit. I started telling her about Bonnaroo and DSO in NOrfolk, Va on 4/20. And she was like hell yea I want to go. She gave me her number and asked for mine. I never asked for her number, she just gave it to me. So I wait a few days to call and her grandma answers and says she is not there. While the next time I run into her at the bar I told her I called, she said her grandma didnt tell her. So the next two time I have called the girl from the bar was there, but said she would call me back in a couple of minutes. But never did.

I can understand she might not be interested, if I dont call a chic or talk to her when she calls its because I am not interested. But why just give me your number when I didnt ask for it and then pull this??

 

Maybe she changed her mind??

 

Mabey she doesnt know what she wants... If she really didnt want to talk she wouldnt have given you the number or would have given you a fake number... Maybe she has a boyfriend.. but is interested in you... I would call once more.. try to ask her.. and if nothing... Give up... her loss

 

She may've gotten a boyfriend in the mean-time. Or else she was really sloshed and regretted her decision to give out her number afterwards. Or like someone already mentioned, maybe she just changed her mind? I changed my mind on a guy after our date, but not immediately afterwards, after a day or two of thinking on whether or not he was anything like what I was truly looking for.

People can be fickle, it sucks but it happens. Plenty of other fish m'dear.

 

Well I ran into her at the bar again and asked her if she didnt want to talk to me and she said she would not have given me her number if she was gonna be like that. And she even told me she was goin to both the shows and I even got tickets for her! But she wont call me back. I have already kinda given up, atleast til she calls me back! I just dont understand...

 

mind games


according to "The Rules" and a lot of other gender role bullshit, a girl should never call the guy early on in the relationship. That's just crazy talk, but some people believe it.

 

I dont play that shit, and she asked me for my number, girls arent "suppose" to do that either.

 

I have never given out my number to a guy that I didn't want to call me. If a guy asks and I'm not interested, I say "sorry, but I'm not comfortable with giving my number out."

I'm not sure why girls do that...maybe they give it to you "just in case" or maybe it's an ego thing for them...I haven't got the slightest clue.

I guess I'd tell her "peace out" and move on...

 

Why do guys ask for girls numbers and not call?

 

Man all i can say is that its totally messed up man. I have heard alot of dumb excuses and u name it its happened. Onetime a girl instead of giving me her number gave me her bfs number or they answer and hand the phone to the bf..etc. Some of the excuses are so dumb that they are funny, such as the famous one: I DONT HAVE A PHONE! You know us guys arnt stupid but just nice enough to not always call a girl on the spot for her crap shes trying to pull. Someone should write a book 1,000 stupid excuses that women use. Maybe i will be the author of it unless someone has already written a book about that. ha ha later peoples

 

chicks do this all the time. for some reason they think its nicer to lie to you, then to be honest.

 

It's a mind game!! Maybe she was feeling you at the moment, but later had a change of heart. To me, if a guy calls me everyday, he is desprate.

 

but if you wait longer than three days thats too long.

 

why the hell are there rules, that just seems absurd to me, there shouldn't be rules governing something as fluid as human interaction, peopl e vary so no 2 couplings\ pairs of people on earth in history could have exactly the same pair of rules (should the rules be totally comprehensive) it's just unreasonable

 

you need to find a chick who isn't interested in playing games. You didn't BUY her tickets for her, did you?

In any case i would forget about her and find that awesome girl out there who will interested in you, not games. She's out there, man. Next time you see her be nice and friendly, but I wouldn't push the issue. You wouldn't want to get into something that is this dramatic already, would you?

Both girls and guys play these games and either way it's rude and tactless.

 

yeah man, to hell with mind games, i can't stand them!!!
when i first met my boyfriend he called me every single day untill i kissed him.

 

Move ON, man!

 

Once, when my husband and I were just in the early phases of our dating, I was really hot at him for something. I can't, for the life of me, remember what it was though. Anyway, there was a guy that worked at the local pizza shop who was always super friendly to me, and all of my friends were "ga-ga" over him. Well one night a few friends of mine and I went to pick up a pizza, and he calls me over to him and tells me that he thought I was really cute and if I wouldn't mind it if he called me. I was pissed off that night and feeling daring, so as my friends watched with mouths hanging open, I wrote out my number for him. It was so unlike my character to do that, so they were all shocked.

He called me the next day, much to my surprise, and we chit-chatted. All the while, guilt was royally setting in. He asked me out on a date, and I confessed that I had a boyfriend, I really loved him, and had no intentions of leaving him nor fooling around. I admitted that I had been pissed off the night I gave out my number and that I was sorry for giving the wrong impression. He appreciated my honesty, and we actually talked as friends for a while after that off and on. He was pretty wild anyway, and I don't think I could have put up with his wild ways. My husband (then boyfriend) was a bit wild, but not nearly as much as this guy.

Anyway, maybe something like this happened with your lady?

Good luck...

 

I dunno. I want to thank everyone for posting and helping me out. I think headymoechick hit it right on the head. I dont want to get involved with anything that is so dramatic already. And no I didnt buy her tickets. I bought an extra ticket for her, but I still have it and have already sold since the other day. I hope you are right that there is a chic out there for me!

Thanks again everyone! I am throwing away her number as I type this...

 

haha! good for you! and I'm glad you didn't lose out on that ticket.

you're a really sweet, cool guy there HAS to be a cool chica out there for you!!