I left the ex in November (mid) and went and seen my friend............ we been friends for a while and nothing sparked but this weekend it did......... It's been that long why does it feel like I cheated on the ex (@_@) as from previous thread I made, he doesnt care much about that relationship.......... Just felt wrong afterwards.........
Heya Luvnh8 not sure how long you were with your ex but I had the same experience many years ago before I met my lovely wife.I had been engaged to a girl for three years and when we finished it took a while but i met someone else and things happened and just as you described I felt terribly guilty. I cant give you a reason all I can say is it seems to be a natural feeling maybe it was unresloved feeling or something, not sure why but the only time I felt less guilty(but at the same time hughly jealous go figure)was when I saw her with another guy.. This probably does not help but at least you know it is not only you who feels/felt that way.. Jay
Two years, three and half year friendship.... we are close and best freinds, but as relationship wise it was over before November. I'm just wondering if that is something I have to tell him? We talk now and then, but mostly argue when it comes to him trying to get back together with me. (complicated) Yes, I hear you on the jeleousy... it is hard for me to see him with close girlfriends but to my knowledge he didn't mess around...
Hope it gets easier it is horrible when a long standing relationship comes to a conclusion especialy if there was a close friendship thre before..As you said maybe telling him it is over officialy will make you feel less guilty with getting on with your life, unless of course there are still feeling then they need to be explored and laid to rest before either of you can move on. What I can say for certain at the time you hooked up with your new man you were no longer in a relationship with your ex so although it might not feel like it you do actualy have nothing to feel guilty about. I know easier said then done but unfortuantely the human heart is complex and feeling that should not be there are and feeling that should be there are not..Okay I am rambling now sorry but I am just trying to help hope you find some tiny amount of sence in that statement Jay
Thanks Jay, I have actually mentioned to him before... a few times it is over that I would never go back. He like to try keep that constant contact which I don't always reply but miss our friendship sometimes and talk but doesn't mean were back to when things were even cool..... the hardest part is for me to stop talking to him fully... but he thinks that even a lil bit of talk is "a good sign" so I will have to huh. Yes that feeling will be there a while.......... love isn't forgotten so easily but I did have and enjoying time too with the date. Thank you both for responding, grateful for this site so I can post/ask and have people actually answer me!
WOW, just when I thought we were okay enough for a simple hello................ the ex proves why he should stay out of my life for good
