Why do men who have money get married?

I'm honestly really asking. Not just trying to be difficult.

The women who marry wealthy men don't work and the guy can't divorce them because they're entitled to 50% of the marital assets and if they have kids, child support and the house. I'm happy for a good friend of mine who's rich and gay. He has all of his money all to himself and can do whatever he wants with it. He didn't do ANYTHING in High School except study and I'm glad he's been rewarded.

So why do guys who spent 19 yrs. in school so they can get a ton of money just go throw it all away by getting married?

 

Prenuptial agreements.

 

Why do you assume that getting married is "throwing it all away"?
Maybe for a lot of folks part of the goal and reason for making a lot of money is being able to support a family, ever consider that?

 

..umm hopefully they're getting married because they're in love and want to spend their life with someone

 

I think the inclination of the OP was that wealthy guys will be heavily sought after by a young attractive women that will simply marry him, divorce him and take half the riches.
Since this happens a lot so I read. So knowing this is most likely the case, why do they do it?

That's the way I read it.

 

A friend told me after he lost a fortune in a divorce "if I need more money I'll just make it"
And he did

 

Most people don't act like they like being married. People put it off now until they're in their late 30's because people would rather hang out with their friends and take vacations and go to the gym when they feel like it.

 

That's the point I was going to make. I know people with money. A divorce won't break them. They'll bounce back.

 

Getting married takes a tonne of optimism, no matter what your financial status. Unless someone really doesn't care about their financial situation and potential legal costs AT ALL, they won't get married unless they're hoping to spend their life with the other.

It's not like these "gold diggers" let their rich partner know that they're planning on taking off as soon as they can. I assume, from the rich man's perspective, it's the same as people who can barely afford a wedding getting married. Financial risk, yes, but for the most worthwhile gain.

 

So are all your opinions and attitudes based on such ludicrous generalizations or do you ever actually leave the house?

 

Well, you can look at statistics. Almost half of marriages end in divorce (and that doesn't count the people who stay together but hate each other) and more people than ever before are delaying marriage into their late 30's and early 40's.

 

People choosing to marry later in life doesn't have to have anything to do with hanging out with friends, not having kids, going to the gym whenever they want, etc. If I had to guess which two factors play in here...I would say that there is less of a focus on the traditional marriage and also people feel the need to focus on themselves (for future betterment) due to economic changes.

Having a gay friend who did well in school, is in his 30's, no kids or strings attached and now has it all is really just one person and not necessarily comparable to most people. And the fact that your friend is gay has nothing to do with the rest of the equation. Because then it kind of sounds like you're saying gay people are somehow not "burdened" with children and long term relationships. That simply isn't true.

 

because they can. isn't that the main purpose of becoming wealthy?

if you're rich, it's not like losing some of your riches is going to break you anyway.

 

Soooo are there any filthy rich gents on here looking for a gf?

 

Well, thinking of friends/acquaintances/enemies that I know, here are the reasons given/ascertained:-

1)the wife is richer/has connections/networking skills.
2)she already has enough money
3)she will inherit money.
4)she's not interested in money.
5)he's buying a commodity/"trophy wife"/whatever.
6)he has an ugly personality/face and has to trade money for even a remotely respectable mrs.
7)he's not interested in sex and would happily live with an overweight ugly hag.
8)he uses hookers/has bits on the side and his wife is just a social/platonic aspect of his life/for the kids
9)he's convinced he can duck out of a punitive divorce settlement with a smart lawyer.
10)he considers the settlement to be helping the kids, not the ex wife.
11)he's secretly a bummer, and the mrs is just a front.

Its sad really, how marriage should be such a pure thing, yet sometimes its so polluted in different ways.

 

Philanthropic PR would be my guess.

 

My marriage is very happy and I got married when I was 23.

Anyways.... the average age now to get married is somewhere around age 26-28... not late 30's/early 40's. But in any case if people want to have kids (and be in a committed relationship/marriage) to have them...waiting until late 30's (for females anyway) is not a great idea. That is actually a trend that a good bit of people do end up regretting later (the people that want to have kids/a family...some people don't want that and that's fine, works for them but for the people that do- waiting too long can be bad.)

 

I have no reason to doubt you, and I dont, but all it really means in the end is you are in category 12:

12: That your hubby married a chic with a reasonably healthy sex drive, more so than most, more fancy and carefree, didnt use sex all the time to control him and/or that your hubby wasnt too much of a horny toad that he constantly needed it elsewhere ...and that as you have both grown up together have aged the same relative to each other


Well, there are more than 12 categories, but it only really works if both or them actually want to be married and they continue to both want similar things relative to each other, same with the kids thing, only really works if they actually want to have kids, not just when they are newborn and adorable, but also when they are 8 and selfish noisy little brats

Just how often 6,7,8 and 11 do pop up is ridiculous. Marriage works with some couples, you see them now and then, the ones that dont have to go around competiting and affirming to everyone they are happy, because they are actually happy. But the majority of the time its a complete load of shit. And the main ingredient for a happy marriage thats real is just a whole lot of dumb luck in the end, because going in, you have no idea whether you both are going to be the right match 20 years later

 

1) Every rich man needs a mistress.
2) If he ain't married, she's a girlfriend, not a mistress.
Therefore
3) Every rich man needs to get married.

 

Marriage is the closest we come to on this earth to heaven or hell. It's the most challenging but rewarding thing I've ever done, but it takes commitment and work. The most important ingredients are character, compatibility, and complementarity. But then again, I'm not rich--in money, that is. It's by far the smartest thing I ever did. My wife and I come from a Christian culture that values family and I think that helps. So what does being rich have anything to do with it? Why do poor people get married, since they are even less able to afford it, and have a slew of economic issues to pull them apart?